After the Break Ups

Hello fellow readers!

I am back again here on read.cash. I haven't been writing an article for few days now coz you know, laziness hit me and work stuff. I was also burnt out this few weeks due to stress from work, sleep deprivation, which I always have.

Anyways, I'll talk about my relationship. Today, I read some articles here and I feel like writing something. Just previously, we had break ups with my boyfie.

You know everyone in a relationship will have issues and so on. And may end up to break up.

Breaking up with your partner everytime you have an argument, they said that there's a a negative impact of that. I actually just saw it on tiktok and I realized something.

They said, it may lead to trust issue.

WHY TRUST ISSUE?

Trust issues are characterized by fears of betrayal, abandonment, and manipulation. Many of us fall victim to betrayal, abandonment, and/or manipulation—whether it's at the hand of our partners, our parents (or their significant others), or even our doctors—and become traumatized as a result.

(from Google)

Having to hearing this statement "let's break up!".

Your partner may perceive that statement "manipulation".

• As how I know myself, and as my experience, when things for me are vague. Like if I don't feel like he doesn't love me anymore. Based from how I perceived the things he have done to me. I like to have break up with him.

• When I feel like he had promise me this, he wouldn't do this, he will do this and that and day will come that all he said is the opposite of what he did, I like to have break up.

• When I feel like I'm an option not his priority, I like to have break up.

• When he is furious, and said hurtful things to me. I feel like he disrespected, I like to have break up.

I don't know if all those things are just in my head or what not, but that's who I am. That's the real me, when I'm hurt.

But you know what? For all the times I said that statement, he said yes for 3 times. Yes, I count.

Most of the times, he said no, we won't.

There's a good feeling hearing those words from him. Youknow why I did that? Because I don't wanna tolerate what he did to me. I want him to change, knowing the fact that it isn't guarantee.d I want him to him to know that I'm hurting.

Does it sound like "manipulation" to you?

Maybe sometimes, I think it's kinda manipulation. Breaking up is another words of manipulation?

Manipulation also means trust issue.

Why?

For me, it only becomes a trust issue when you do it frequently. Like when your partner may see that the reason why you ask to break up because you want to manipulate him.

You want him to do what you want him to do.

It's really not a good idea to break up frequently. I don't know if I'm the only who is doing it but if you are pls stop. I won't help. Just talk to each other once both of you are noylt mad anymore.

That's what I learned on our recent break ups.

I don't know if I make sense at all but yes I hope you read it and understand what I meant to convey. I'm really not good in explaining. My head kinda mixed up right now.

And to be honest, I don't have pictures of us anymore. Everytime I asks to break up with him and he will say yes, I will delete all of our photos coz I hate seeing us together.

I mean no regrets at all as it has been done. Im actually practicing on how to control myself from doing those stuffs. It makes me feel horrible now that I think I already caused him trust issues. Hopefully not😭

But here's a photo of us from Facebook.

That picture was actually taken on my cousins 18th birthday. Our faces is not that smooth in person just sharing😂 we used unlike cam so we would look gorgeous, charot.

Feel free to drop your thoughts below. I will be very happy to see your names in the comment section and so I can say Hi to you and so we can interact here. You can share your reactions to what I did. I will accept it wholeheartedly. Thank you!