No reason at all
At the office yesterday, we didn't do much but there were a lot of discussions going around. One of the things discussed was why men cheat😂
There was a lot of argument as everybody was fighting to speak and be heard. Some spoke out of their personal experience, others spoke out of experiences of their siblings and closer relation. Most of the people involved in this discussion were ladies, all single.
One girl kept repeating that once you get married, bear in mind that it's likely to happen, that is to say, one's husband is likely to cheat. So once you have that in mind and it eventually happens, you won't feel so bad compared to when you don't have it in mind and then it happens.
We had to call one of the male staff to join us in the discussion and he stated that the same way men cheat, that's the same way women cheat too. I think that's not true. I know the women cheat and the fact that we ladies gather around to talk about cheating men doesn't mean women don't. It's just that the chances are rare. Guys don't sit and talk about cheating women who are married because it's common among men, married and single.
One of the ladies highlighted that sometimes the reason why men cheat is that once women starts to bear children, they put all their attention on their children neglecting their husband. Sincerely there are no reasons to justify cheating.
I was listening to a female preacher one time on YouTube. She was talking about marriage. In her discussion, she highlighted how women will go and marry rubbish and come on the internet and say “men are scum”😂.
I follow one page on Instagram where people write their marriage issues and I saw one that blew my mind. A lady was complaining of catching her husband red-handed cheating and she confronted him and he left the house angrily. He hasn't returned home for almost a month. This lady has 3 kids and when she talked to her mother-in-law as her mum isn't alive, her mother-in-law asked her to go and beg him at his side chic’s house. I'm like how!!!! Where is our conscience? The story is really funny and heartbreaking at the same time. It's too bad how it's now like a daily and normal lifestyle that everybody has accepted. I heard another story of a popular gospel singer who cheated on his wife and came publicly to apologize to her. Some men wouldn't even apologize, some would even get angry for confronting them. These women whose husbands cheat go through a lot of emotional and mental breakdowns. The disrespect alone that comes from those younger girls these men cheat with is heartbreaking. Most of these women are even very helpless because they don't know what to do about their situations.
Sometimes friends can influence a man's marriage that's why as a married man, there are some friends you need to avoid after marriage. Despite the fact that men cheating is common, there still some who try to be faithful. In the conversation yesterday, I said “please my future husband does not cheat”. Yes!! I refuse to have the mindset and take it into marriage with me, because I believe we attract what we think of.
It's really important to take precautions because, as a man, you may feel like cheating is not something you can do or would do until you are faced with the temptation. Even the strong in prayer fall for this kind of temptation.
Marriage is not easy at all. This is why it's very important that you make the right choice and make sure whoever you are courting, is someone ready to invest in that relationship and marriage. Marriage is a journey where both parties will put efforts to grow together. The love between couples is meant to be nourished daily. It's just like having a flower and taking care of it for it to grow and keep being beautiful.
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Have a beautiful day.
