Crazy things are happening

Just last year, everyone was posting stuff online about doing rituals to make money in 2022. We all were cruising with such posts in one way or the other.🤣 I thought it was all fun and games until now. Not even half of the year already, and things have started happening. According to a beautiful musician and songwriter who once sang a song, one of the lines goes like this “crazy things are happening”. Indeed crazy things are happening.

These days, whenever I open most of my social media accounts, I see overwhelming stories. The extent to which these young boys go in other to make money and achieve what their fathers achieved at age 30 and above is surprising. We've lost our value and conscience as a society. They've shown a lack of patience and desperation forgetting that life is in stages and of course, our time will come so long as we keep working and praying.

Funny enough, it's the female gender that's always the victim in such ugly situations. A few days ago, it was on the news that a young boy invited his mum to come around with foodstuff. On getting there, the boy stabbed his mum. Thankfully, she escaped and survived. But I'm sure she would be traumatized about the whole incidence. I guess it came as a shock to her. Who would imagine, that a child she carried for 9 months would pick up a knife to stab her? Rumour has it that he wanted to use her for rituals. And as I hear, the boy is in police custody.

There are so many cases today and it's all over the internet. Now the big question is, what can be done to correct this?

Remember back then in secondary school, we were thought that the family, the school, peer groups, the society, and church are agents to socialization. Each has a role to play in the development of a child, teaching them the beliefs, values, and norms in other to build a good society. The family is the first agent of socialization. They teach us and train us properly so we can stand out and be good citizens of our society. Today's parents find it hard to make out time for their children. They are more focused on making money and providing for the needs of their children. They don't try to know the kind of friends their children keep, who they hang out with.
Most times when these kids grow and begin to acquire things they can't afford or weren't bought by their parents, they're never noticed, or even when noticed, they're never asked any question about it.

I once lived with my uncle, my dad’s stepbrother. He stays in Delta state. They have a daughter, who I'm 5 years older than but she looks bigger than me. She's an open book. Her parents aren't rich but at least they're comfortable but not so comfortable enough to get her an iPhone, the latest one at that. She has been using it and yet none of her parents asked her how she was able to afford it. Her first phone was given to her by her first boyfriend when she just turned 18 and was in the University. Did her parent ask her how she was able to afford it? no, they didn't.

That's one mistake parents do make. That's the reason why when young boys do what they do and can afford a car, any form of luxury at an early age, all the parents do is congratulate their children without asking or finding out the real source of their wealth at such young age. It's very important to ask because we all know how hard it is now to make money here as a private or government worker.

Gone are the days when we get something new for ourselves, we take them to our parents telling them that this is what we were able to buy with the money you gave us last week or with the money uncle A or B gave us.

The peer group is the next agent of socialization. This is the most important which every parent should look deeply into. The kind of friends we keep goes a long way in influencing our lives. If we keep bad friends, they would influence us negatively and if we keep good peers, our lives will be influenced positively. This is where most parents have failed woefully. They don't care to know who their children visit when they say they're going to see a friend. They permit their kids to go without proper screening to know if those friends are good or bad influences.

The next agent of socialization is the school where we’re being thought morals and other good behaviors to be presentable before society. This is where children get to meet peer groups and interact with their age-grade daily. And whoever they interact with goes a long way in determining things they get to learn.

The church also has a strong role to play. The church is expected to teach good morals. There’s a saying that goes “catch them young for Christ”. It is what we teach these children at an early age that they tend to grow up with. But with the increase in churches today, youths still end up making bad choices. That's because most churches have left what's important. They've now focused more on preaching and prophesying prosperity or telling you about who and who is after your life.

Society as the last agent has a role to play in the development of a child. A child does not only belong to one rather belongs to all. It’s expected of society to instill good morals. Correct a child if that child isn’t doing the right thing, even though that child is not yours. The problem we're facing today is because these agents of socialization have lost focus.

The family, the school, the church, and society have become so silent with the recent happenings that these kids have become so powerful and have lost their conscience, values, and morals.

The way this should be corrected is for this generation soon to become parents, at least some of us that still have our heads right, having been aware of this problem, should ensure we all do the right thing, raising our kids in the right way. Of course, that would be so difficult because this has eaten deep into society. But as they say, charity begins at home. The family is the first and most important agent of socialization should put much effort into raising their children right. If I raise my kids right, and the next family does the same and it goes on and on, we'll be able to produce a society where norms, values, and good morals will be restored.

Thank you for your time and reading till the end. Feel free to share your opinion, I would love to hear.

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