Our Habits Decide Our Future
Habits are the continuous repeatability of the same thing again and again. With continuous repetition, it became a part of our personality no matter either it's bad or good. And our future is decided by these habits.
We are not what we want to achieve but what we are doing right. We decide on the future long-term goal but not the process. The small steps we take daily decide our destiny. Our accomplishments are the last step and but our habits decide our future.
It's a long process we feel demotivated. We, humans want to see major changes. But in the revolution, each small step plays its role but we can able to analyze this growth because it is too minor to observe.
We all are humans same physiological and physical abilities but work differently in different places. The habits that we adopt in our daily life put a direct impact on our future. Our financial conditions after 5-years depend upon our habits of utilizing money right now. Same why health depends on what we are prioritizing currently. The diet plan, workout routine, exercise, etc.
Everyone wants a bright future and will try to get rid of bad habits and adopt good habits but the point is how it will work. According to **James clear: The author of Atomic Habits:** If you want to adopt a habit
**Make it obvious**
Notice what you want to be in your personality. It is the first step i.e awareness of the habit. Which is fruitful for your future.
Make it attractive
By adopting this habit my personality will groom. I will look more adorable while communicating. Tell yourself the positive side of that habit.
Make it Necessary
We don't want to achieve unnecessary goals. There is logic or emotion behind every implication. You should aware of what you adopting that habit and how necessary it is for your personal development.
Make it satisfying
By adopting this habit you will be satisfied with your body language. Tell your Subconscious mind you will feel relaxed mentally. When this habit will become a part of your life.
Same way if you want to remove a habit from your personality rules are exactly opposite
Make is invisible
Make it unattractive
Make it unnecessary
Make it unsatisfying
Empire is built with small changes daily instead of large at once. Suppose you tried hard a day in the week and were tired of the remaining 6-days wasted. A consistently small change in adopting a good habit in 365-days will give huge results.
Closing thoughts
It is not easy to get rid of bad habits. But with continuous small efforts will eliminate it from the personality. It is important to change with time and peel off negative habits and adopt good ones for a better future.
@Shani59
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Only you know your passion
If you are looking for a career path you must know what you love to do. But it doesn't mean your passion will be easy to find. Finding your passion could take years or even decades of trials or errors. Some ways to make this process easier for yourself.
But the good news is that once you find it, you all know it
You will feel energized and engaged in your work. You'll be able to contribute something meaningful and you'll love doing it. You can also tell if this is what you want to do. Because when people ask how I got into my current career path. I always say: "It's just what I am good at".
It's a feeling of coming alive and being fully engaged
*You'll know it when you feel it*
Everyone would be passionate about everything they do. Instead of trying to figure out what your purpose is. Focus on feeling engaged and enjoying what you are doing or at least learning how. This can mean anything from having fun.
It also has a way of making your problems feel smaller and more manageable
One of the best ways to find your passion is by looking at what's already working for you. If you are an introvert, find a way to be social__ maybe join a society in your institute or a book club. If you are a natural-born leader, consider joining a team sport or becoming a CR in the class. You can even start a blog on healthy cooking. The point is that many things can help us more out of life besides your career and hobbies.
Not to pursue your passion. If it doesn't work out, at least you tried and can try again
You tried a new thing unfortunately failed. There is no point in being in regret. An internal satisfaction that I tried at least. Doesn't matter whether I failed or succeed. Even Edison failed 99 times. In every ending with a failure, there is a new beginning.
If you're doing something truly meaningful, even your failure can feel like successes
Failure is a necessary part of the learning process. It's how we can learn, grow and evolve as human beings. If you are afraid of failure because it makes you feel uncomfortable or vulnerable, then perhaps it's better if you just don't take any risk or start up anything at all. But if you accept what matters the most things will be easier to understand and maximum chances of growth.
*That's why, if you want to start doing work you love. It's worth taking the time to find your passion__no matter how long it*
Only you know what will make you happy and feel fulfilled
As you continue to explore your passion, it's important to remember that only you know what will make you cheerful. You have to be patient with yourself. You have to keep trying new things, even if they don't work out the first time around. You should have to take risks on this journey of self-discovery.
Conclusion
This is a process that everyone goes through, and it can be a struggle to find your passion. But if you do, it will change your life in so many ways. You will be able to focus on what you love doing. Instead of constantly thinking about the next you have to do or worrying about money.
Author: @Shani59
The simplest and most powerful ways to calm your nerves
I felt disheartened seldom and began to lose interest in all things slowly. Because circumstances became worse even suicidal feelings arise. In this case there most important step I used to take calming myself. Though it is not easy trying to overcome it is the only solution.
Find out the route case
The first step I take find the reason behind why I am feeling unstable mentally. On deep analysis came to know there is no point in worrying as much as I am involved in it. Try out all the possible ways to seek out that issue that has an impact on your mental health.
If not able to get a solution, then some decision is left to Allah Almighty as most of the things in our life are already planned/written.
Leave that place for sometime
The place where it is difficult to survive for you better leave that place for some time and go some else so you can get rid of this situation for some time. Later with time situation automatically begin to resolve. As our brains already working to find out the solution.
Distract your focus
Let your brain think about something else rather than continuously focus on that pain point. This is the best way to relax your brain simply don't think about that topic and put your attention on something else. After some time you will feel energetic/relaxed. But if you try to solve the issue on the spot probably you will feel further headaches.
Smile
Smile is the best and simplest way to calm your nerves. When a person smiles the whole body feels like no weight on the body, smiling releases dopamine in our i.e the hormone of happiness released in the body when we feel happy.
Do something you like to do
In tense situations don't overload your brain with the things you don't like to do happily. Instead of dragging yourself into such a situation do something that you love to do writing, sketching, or whatever that makes you happy either a hobby or a game.
Write down the issue
Most of the issues of our lives are resolved just by writing them on paper. By writing a problem our perception of the issue starts changing and we begin to find the possible solution to that problem. Someone even said that your half issues will be solved just by writing them a paper.
Closing thoughts
Life is precious in bad days of life negative thoughts come into our mind but remember that every problem has a solution. Ups and downs are normal you should have to be strong mentally so you can survive any type of painful situation.
@Shani59
04-08-2022
Work Hard in Silence
I saw a myth in this society that, when someone explores something that he wants to gain. He failed usually and begins to blame others that have evil eyes and can't see him growing but what happens ' is he starts telling everyone that I am going to achieve that destination. By telling others about their achievements or what going to achieve our brain releases Dopamine in our brain. A hormone that relaxes the mind and gives a pleasant feeling.
As a result, we got distracted by other activities instead of focusing on a task. And when someone is not on the track he can't aquaria that thing.
Don't be Overconfidence
When you tell someone that you are going to do that thing by exaggerating in another term it's overconfidence which is not good. Work in silence and let your success reveals to the world who you are and what you can do. Earlier, the time is to be patient and connected to your goals attentively.
My relatives ask me a question seldom! Zeeshan what's going on in your life and what are the plans for your future? I replied to them: " Currently experiments are going on as I am not aware of myself."
Gain after pain
We value things only if we paid a price for them. The thing we received for free is not worth full for us. Also, the taste of that gain is not good as it should be. Big success demand big sacrifices. If you want to build a six-pack you have to work out in the GYM to burn fats. Similarly, a good designation demands quality efforts.
Don't reveal yourself be a mystery and start working in quietness. Work hard to achieve a spot and then show this society who you are.
I saw in some families that someone is sitting in a gathering and he told people that he is going to buy a new car. But later on, I can't able to do so. Someone is ill in their home cause huge money expenditure. He has not done anything wrong but the evil eyes of people result in his family.
As a graduate student, I don't believe in such things I focus on logic but watching practically such things happening makes me stay away and be busy in my work silently. Don't tell anyone what you are doing. surely they will come to know when you grew fully.
Conclusion
Stay Calm, and quiet start working, and show it to the people when you achieve it. Before you tell people what is your next move, probably you will lose your focus, be relaxed or something else will happen.
Keep it private until you make it completely. When you got it. You need to tell people as they have already been curious about how did you achieve it and the work you are doing will reveal.
Be polite to yourself - Ignore negative compliments
Human has a habit to talk negatively about themselves, irrespective of how good they are. Standing in front of mirrors and talking negatively about yourself only put a negative impact on yourself. In a survey taken in the United States, teachers in a school gave the same grade to 30 students but on the papers of 15 students, they wrote that "***you can do*** ***it***"the In next term exams these 15 students have 80% improvement in their results compared to other 15 learners.
When someone in our friends is in trouble we try to motivate him positively don't worry man it's a part of life what in your case. Why you can't boost up yourself? Most of the time on bad days you felt alone as this society will smile at you but can't weep. The things are simple just told yourself Yep I can do it and surely I will.
Don't degrade yourself that I am not made for this task or I can't complete it and get offended. This shouldn't be the way. You will never grow if you remain stuck that mental blocks. The maximum what happens? you failed! shouldn't you have confidence that you tried at least? Not like other people who only point out others.
The biggest myth of this society. What people will say? The worst phrase I listen from people! I ask the question myself can we stop people to talk negatively about ourselves? I realized it's their only and most effective permanent job in which they are experts.
The people who can't do anything will point out others. And their remarks are he has not earned this level honestly but through scam blah blah! After their success, they start to praise those people who don't listen to their negative compliments and stay consistent with their destination will their full efforts.
The way you motivate someone to complete a task is the same words you need to yourself in a bad phase of life when you are feeling discouraged or have low confidence. No one there to push you all the time. Make a habit of motivating yourself all the time.
Don't feed negativity to your brain, why the point of being disheartened? Ups and downs are part of life learn from them and be strong than before. Don't blame Your luck that I am not so lucky. If this could happen I can do this. I always make a mistake. Instead of it feeding your brain that yes this happened but now you have to become a better version of yourself. You are so lucky that you even don't know.
Our focus is on troubles rather than what we have. The art of being happy is to focus on what we have rather trouble that we are facing. Do you know the fact? Everyone has troubles in their life. But they know how to react to all situations. Those people have a firm belief in God that this shall too pass.
Every night when I try to sleep I used to think that 'Good days will come in life' But after next morning after getting up realized that the day already spent was a blessing. So I start living every moment instead of blaming my luck, circumstances, family, or friend circle. As it is only I who can change my life others may play the role of catalyst but the main character of my life is I who has taken a decision.
Ignore the people who are laughing at you. If someone is gentle or great. He will respect your effort and try to correct your mistake. Because I know that you tried and will succeed a day. But the people who laugh at you will remain to laugh. Your focus is on positive chapters of life. Forget the painful stories which result in hurt only.
I can't understand when we score good grades we remain silent as if nothing happened. Expecting others to applaud. On success behaving like a normal but on negative grades why have we begun to intimidate ourselves? Should have the same behavior in both situations.
Conclusion
Your goals are far away, you do have not enough energy to respond to everybody's negative compliments. Make a habit of ignoring them. Patience is the key don't respond to them with your words. Stay consistent and work with firm faith in yourself with discipline. in life.
The people who are pointing to you will praise you. Yes, he is the man who achieved a rank. But the point is to motivate your rather discouraging told your subconscious mind yes I can and surely I will do it.
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@Shani59
Manage Your Energy and Time wisely
The Age of 18-25 is so critical as this is the time you either can build yourself or destroy yourself. At this age, you are energetic, have enough time, and are healthy. But the matter is to choose the right! It is not as easy to say some like 'don't get distracted and be on the tract'. Do you know whether you choose the right way for yourself or the wrong one the calories of the same quality would burn? If you are on the right track outcomes will be beneficial for you in remaining whole life but if the path is not right life is not as good as you assumed.
Time management and the utilization of energy on the right path is a skill that everyone can learn and compulsory for life. Let's discuss how you can be on track.
Learn to stay no
Yep! sometimes it's better to say no to some people who continuously and only suck your blood. It's better to say no! Yes, it is not easy at the start but not much difficult as assumed. What will happen maximum those people will cut you off? Let them do if so. Because you save wasting your energy on non-productive activities.
Time and energy are both conserved let them utilize to complete a productive task.
Set Small Goals
Human has the nature to complete the task just before submission. The syllabus starts pilling and in mind, only one thing is circulating that the syllabus is too short to do. Let it increase more. You should ask yourself that if the syllabus is not as much why shouldn't I complete it now? In this way, you can develop and habit to complete the work daily.
If you are reading a book and assuming difficult to read at once. Set small goals like reading a chapter daily. If a chapter is more read a paragraph. But stay consistent
Hustling towards your career
At this young age, you will watch people focusing on finding their life partner rather to find out their hidden talent. You can't afford to make that mistake. A life partner is the last step after achieving a level. The first step should be to build yourself.
Let's suppose you tried hard to find your partner on your continuous insistence and efforts of precious time. What next? You are not stable financially to manage basic needs and as a result, daily fights on a small topic both of you will be unhappy. So, it's better to build yourself currently.
Meditates daily
I read somewhere on the internet that if you want to think clearly, meditate daily. This will enhance our brain's efficiency to think logically. Yoga is an effective technique for meditation. 10-15 minutes of meditation daily will keep you energetic the whole day, you will radiate positive vibes.
It's your body, takes a lot of work daily, and deserves some relaxation Meditation is the best way to relax and calm your body.
**Make reading habit**
Through reading, you can understand this world. A book is a summary of someone's whole life in which the author shares his life experiences (good and bad ) and how can a reader take a lesson. I started reading motivational books by great authors around half a year ago and I felt positive changes in my personality.
You can't experience 70-80 years to learn from others' mistakes but you can learn from others and don't repeat those mistakes.
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Author: @Shani59
Life is too short to please Everyone
If you believe that everyone like you, cares for you, and feels well watching you grow. Then probably you are wrong because no one cares about your either you like or die except your parents. The world sees for their interest how they get benefits through you.
So what's the point to please everyone, let them think about what's going on in there? mind. You have your own life and are unique in your way and should remain unaffected by external influence as they don't worth it to care for.
Remember that your happiness is more crucial than the whole world because the toughest task in this world is to please yourself. In this hectic world, we forget your value and make people have it just because they will feel bad. Seriously! what about your happiness and morale?
It's okay to let me down sometimes for core relations but all the time you are trying way better and the response is not as it should be. You are losing your integrity every time, this is not good actually. Life is not about making others happy, be happy and enjoy your life in your way because life is too short to make every person happy.
No matter how good you are and trying your best to make someone happy. The one who is in search of someone better will unhappy with you because it's all your effort and that one doesn't care whether you care or not, just wants to get rid of you. Let them go. And the person who cares for you in actuality would be happy with your small efforts.
Instead of pleasing everyone just because you can't cut off or are soft-hearted, understand as soon as you can your happiness should be the priority (physical and mental) in this situation don't listen to your heart
'*No he or she will feel bad'*
Let them feel so because if you feel bad while entertaining those people, don't hurt them. Making yourself the priority is not selfishness it's a need for time and to be used to this.
Closing thoughts
During my life period of 21 years, I have seen people lose themselves for someone else happiness. But later on, the same person asks what you have done for me. The nature of humans is similar to that we forgot good memories and chapters easily and bad phases of our life are stored in our subconscious minds.
It's better to spend this short period of life pleasing own self rather than putting effort into making happy who even don't care.
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Learn and practice advanced skills with time
Life is all about exploring the world in finding out the purpose of life. In this journey, you have to learn new skills based on demand and practice these skills because practice makes perfect. Being an expert or Guru in a field required a lot of hard work and patience. Only learning is not enough to make a spot in a niche.
I started writing in the mid of 2021 from noise cash to read cash to create original content. I remember the first time when I created an account on both platforms I failed badly. In fact on noise cash, my account got spammed as I was not much aware of the terms and conditions. Later on, I created a new account and start analyzing people what they are doing.
Learning is compulsory but according to me 70%+ you can learn a skill through practice. When you start practicing a skill you begin to improve day by day by rectifying the mistakes. We are human and our academic-related educational material is stored in our short-term memory and forgets within no time what we learn.
I experienced that whenever I watched a motivational video, its effects remain a maximum of two or three days after that again back on the routine. That's why practical implementation of what we learned is much more important than learning a skill.
The world is advancing so quickly, that learning new skills is compulsory for survival. I watched an interview with the CEO of Owners of Nokia in which he started crying by saying that " we haven't done anything wrong but still people forgetting us." Marketing Apart, there was a time when people used Nokia keypads and android mobiles but within a few years, another powerful brand has overtaken Nokia.
If you examined iPhone, despite successful brand value and marketing every year they are launching new models to maintain the curiosity and standard of their customers. On the other hand, Nokia has not put valuable efforts into its marketing and brand value that why another evolutionary smartphone slowly overtaking Nokia. But still, there will be a keypad Nokia mobile phone in every house of my relatives including our house with excellent battery time.
Conclusion
Evolution is a natural process, if you can't modify yourself from time to time, you will behind. Because time waits for none it is up to you how you use your current Time precisely for a better tomorrow. The way this world is evolving, learning new skills is inevitable. Be a master in one skill and try to explore one!
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Multitasking | reduces procrastination but decreases brain efficiency
Do you also have a habit to do multiple tasks at the same time? If so this is not a good thing. This only reduces the efficiency of your brain to think clearly on a single aspect and ultimately you start forgetting. The focus on a single topic at a time is important. If you don't have a habit to focus on one aspect don't worry about it. It is a skill that can be learned with time.
Pros of multitasking
1) Minimize overthinking
You overthink when You are free and have nothing to do and start worrying about minor aspects of life. But everyone knows that worrying about a topic is not a solution to that problem. Focusing on multiple tasks at a time keeps you safe from that specific worry and you will have no time to think about any topic.
2) To forget someone
We are human and tragedies can happen to anyone. You can say bad phases of life. Suppose you lost or broke with a close one and you can't over with it. Difficult for you to forget that person. Yes, it's a big loss but time changes worry changes. According to Darwin's **Theory of Evolution:**
'***Decent with the modifications'***
It's better to charge or forget someone with time because it's better for you and the next generations. This could be possible by multitasking when you will be busy with many things the whole day and have no time to think. gradually you will out of it.
3) Exploring a new career
Multitasking widens your brain limit you will be able to explore new skills which will help you to find out what's best for you. Because you are trying and surely will get the way toward your dream job or destination that is for you.
Cons of multitasking
If you analyze more clearly will come to know that multitasking has disadvantages compared to advantages
1)Reduce brian Efficiency
You can be able to get good results by focusing on multiple topics at a time. Our brains have the power to focus on a single topic at a time. Imagine you drinking tea, chit chat with family, watching the news on the screen, and reading a book at the same time. What will be the outcomes of that study? Nothing!
2) Can't think clearly
The single task, road map, and being on track towards the milestone is important. Multitasking will not give you good results. Your whole concentration deserves that aspect rather much. It's better to master one skill instead of learning all skills in a small proportion.
3) Increase stress level
Performing multiple tasks at the same time increase stress level only. Because you have collected huge knowledge of many industries but master of none. If you will specify your task at the start situation will be in your favor and you will remain safe from stress.
4) Mental illness
Continuous involvement in many tasks at a time leads to Alzheimer's disease (in which people forget things), and Parkinson's disease. The brain became overloaded because of task performance multiple tasks cause mental illness.
Closing thoughts
You should perform a single task at a time which will prove helpful for physical and mental health according to your mental capabilities. Focus on many topics increases stress levels only, causing illness. When you try to perform many task at a time your brain power curve begin to come down results in many issues.
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@Shani59
Better Future - Focus on skills rather than liabilities
If you are buying a thing extra or not crucial for you then one day you will sell a thing that is too precious to you. Do you know that it is a whole cycle around which money is revolving around!
I have seen people buying new clothes, watches, and other sorts of luxuries though they have sufficient staff. But their priority is to show off how rich they are. I am not talking about basic needs but the extra people buying to show off or make others feel jealous.
Still, I can't digest why this show off? It's okay what you have and what you are. But buying the thing that you don't need right now only creates stress for you. In other term wastage of money, energy, and time.
Okay! You bought luxuries to reveal how rich you are! but in actuality, you are so much? The purpose should be a successful person, be rich not to look rich. Simplicity is the best way to like this life rather than make people jealous or degrade.
I saw my relatives spending a lot of money to look rich, they borrow money and later on spend months to return that money. I asked a question myself if you don't have money okay with that go with what you have rather you borrow from someone.
In 3.5 years duration of my university life, I have seen many sorts of students including those who spent much of their on make-up to look more glorious. Yes it is not a bad thing and I am not against them as everyone has their lifestyle but I am talking about the priorities of our youth rather focusing on skill-set their ultimate goal is to look prettier.
This is not the age to focus on beauty but to focus on a career for a better future. In our 20 S, we should spend our time and energy on exploring new things touching or breaking our limits, and understanding what can we do. Break our comfort zone because life is about learning and growing.
This is the age we have a lot of calories that will surely burn and it's up to you how you want to use that energy in which direction. If the direction is right the future will be more glorious but if the energy spends on the thing which is not useful right now. In the long-term results would not be in favor.
The investment of money, time, and energy in the right time in the right direction is crucial. Because later in a stage of life if you try to learn a syllabus you would not be able to do so because of not much energy either physically or mentally.
Conclusion:
This is the time you should utilize in a better way in learning new skills and exploring the world and ultimately one day you will reach the destination that suits you. The time to take a risk on investing in yourself rather than luxuries. As you that luxuries will end up and a day but the skill you will learn today will prove helpful for you to make you live.
The real meaning of life is not the impress others through your new shoes, and clothes but to find who you are and what you can do? Learn about yourself, this society, and the skill set which will make you successful and after that, you would have a lot and can spend in a better way with a proper learning experience.
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@Shani59
Put stop Limit on worries
We all are human and can't spend our life happily if we struggle to get rid of worries. Everything should be limited, relationships, happiness, love, or worries. You should not allow any of these to affect your mental health.
The major issue the current generation is facing is extensive screens are affecting their psychological health adversely. 2-days ago I analyze my screen time it was surprising to see that 60-80% of the screens I used are for entertainment and social media which is not good. As the positive use of smartphones is less. Moreover most of the time 24-hours I wasted on the screen. Yesterday, I tried to do something productive and I watched courses on YouTube and Udemy.
Watched as many of the videos as I can but in the evening I was feeling like a heavy head and had a severe junction between the brain and the start of the spinal cord. Although I gathered huge knowledge about my niche within a day another day went wasted because of extensive work along with stress. The issue was that I haven't put any stop limit on my learning per day which resulted in mental illness.
The problem was not the workload but my worries which gave me continuous stress! Either Am I on the right track or this content will prove fruitful or not. Many questions are in mind which pilling up and increasing worries, And the result is negative vibes and mental disorders.
The purpose of writing is that whatever thing we are into should be within a limit. Too much happiness is also harmful and too much sadness makes situations worse. Yes, we all are human and we have feelings of happiness, affection/care, anger, and sadness. But taking things seriously is also stressful.
In adults, I have seen another issue that they are obsessed with someone which they name as love Like if I talk about a random guy, I saw a prettier girl and within the first impression consider as a life partner! Start to think about her whole day, how pretty she is! But I should ask a question is she the only beautiful girl, is my priority this one or my career. Then I will start thinking in practical that I have many other important things t. do in my life I should put a stop limit on my feelings and start on my career.
Okay, let's talk about another aspect I approach her and talked to her about what I am feeling for her. Most probably she will say no because I am not stable enough financially. Moreover, I should consider myself lucky because my whole life can be wasted in her care.
closing thoughts
Almost everyone faces worries / bad days in his life the matter is how long you stick to a specific. Think about it! If you hold a glass for 1-minutes, not a big deal you can do it easily. But if someone says to hold the glass for one 1-day this will be an issue. Same with the worries, its up to you how long you spend your days in painful memories or stick to them. There should be a stop limit and after that no more care for that one!
thanks for reading
@Shani59
10-07-2022
Be ready to pay the price of success
Everyone wants to be successful in his life but the question is how many are ready to pay the price of that milestone. The bigger the goals harder will be the circumstances. People with a never-give-up attitude will only survive.
I was watching a YouTube video by Dan Lok a great copywriter and entrepreneur that If you want to earn 1M dollars per year, you have to earn 50$ per day on yourself, and your goals, This time management will decide your future. It is easy to say I want to be successful in life but am I ready to pay that price, a big question mark!
Success is not an accident, it's a whole process with falls and downs and sometimes bundles of downs to test your persistence. You have to burn through the whole process to achieve a spot. If you think of shortcuts then remember that results will be similar to efforts.
Picasso was a great artist, was walking on the roadside, a woman-run toward him and said, hey Sir! I am your huge fan and requested Picasso to sketch for her. First, he refused to do so, but on continuous insist he draws a sketch and hand-over to her. She was so happy to see it. Picasso completed this sketch within 2-minutes and told the woman that this sketch was worth millions of dollars. She was unsure and took it as a joke. The latter woman tried to sell the same sketch and people offer millions of dollars. She was so surprised that how can 2-minutes sketches worth millions of dollars.
She tried to find Picasso and finally, she met him and ask the same question to him. Picasso replied yes it took only 2-minutes to complete this sketch but there are 30 years of effort behind this to reach that level.
Success demands a price to this reach that destination, confidence, self-belief, and price in form of hard work. How many hours do you give to your skills to become master in them? Let me give you my example that how badly social media is putting impacts on my life. When I get up early morning my first task is to check my social media accounts, is there anything I missed out on last night. What's new there. Then breakfast and the whole day tried to check my social media account for half an hour. Same in the evening busy watching TikTok videos and listening to songs.
Is that the life! not exactly! there should be proper time management for a few hours in the morning and a few in the evening, the rest of the time should utilize to improve the skill set. To do productive things related to self-growth, learning new things, and analyzing personality to become a better person.
Conclusions
The time easily in our 20s is so precious, we are young, energetic, and passionate about things. So we should be careful when prioritizing the tasks. Did you notice when some ask us to do it, what we reply them? I have no time usually! but this is not the actual answer. In other terms we want to say this is not mine priority.
Our habits will decide our future what we are doing, what we want to do and the most making priority and willing to pay the prices of a goal that you want to achieve.
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Thanks for reading
@Shani59
08-07-2022
Avoid toxicity and look young
I learned in so far journey in life that most negative thoughts arise in our lives because of our mindset or toxicity that we transfer into our brain. Let me ask you a question whenever we watch ourselves in a mirror, how many times do we positively motivate ourselves? no, our focus is always on negative points that what I lost what I can achieve, etc.
Is worrying a solution to the problems that we are facing? not only our actions that will decide our future. Yes, I know failure is painful. But remember one thing failure is a prove you learn a lesson and are on track. Nothing will achieve without effort, even Edison, failed 99 times in his experiment that we are!
We win failed in an experiment, it is not a failure, a mistake you should not repeat next in the future. Hurdles in our are the test of our personality are we strong enough to get this designation or post. Better to focus on negative points rather than worrying. Because worrying is not a solution only action that will prove fruitful.
We read success stories of great personalities in our life, what common in all of them is that they are dedicated and passionate about the destination and already conceived in their subconscious mind that they are unstoppable and the future belongs to them.
If we deeply analyze our personalities we will come to know that the things making us worry is not as worthy as we assume. Most of our worries are at a psychological level that is eating us like sweet poison. This is not a good thing because, in the end, no one care about you don't matter how much you care about them.
Remember one thing all the relations of this world are temporary and you don't even know the next month will happen so why should we care for them or destroy our mental health for those who don't even care about us. I better end up those relations which give you only worries rather than happiness.
Worrying about the small things destroys people's looks and personality, if you can a thing that makes you worry try all the possible ways to seek out it but if you can't do so it's better to forget it. Because life is too short to run after them or worry for them don't waste your emotions on those people, your time, and your words are so crucial don't waste on those who don't value them.
Conclusions
I saw it in this society only a few people care about someone's true feelings, most of the people play with their hearts, and in the end, worry and mental disorders are their fate. One-sided things only lead to psychological worries which have no good results. Things should be two ways, and each of them has equal efforts to make it strong.
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07-07-2022
@Shani59
Unnecessary worries
We, humans, are usually afraid of toxic worries which have no route cause, and if we analyze the situation we will come to know this thing is not deadly as we thought it would be. It's our procrastination that caused us to suffer from this weird situation.
I still remember I was in class 3 and know only ABC and not much knowledge. I overthink a lot regarding my study. Can you believe it! I used to worry about whether in my life can I ever read and write or not. Watching other people doing great stuff like they can read write and learning things more easily compared to me was a stressful little bit. hihihi.
But no one can make me clear that I am a kid with time I will learn all the things which are happened. I learned things with time and slowly became more and more efficient. I remember the day when I used to ask my elder siblings even to write my name on my notebook like I was not even so much confident that I can write my name. And now I university I am writing applications form of myself and my friends and this is how with time all the worries are disappearing slowly.
We should take things lightly and not surround ourselves with useless worries because life is much more than all this useless stuff to worry about. As light is so uncertain we are not even clear about next moment what will happen. So we should try to enjoy the present moment rather than worrying about the past and future. It's useless to cry over split milk or worry about a situation that one person can't change.
Life is short, too short in actual try to enjoy every rather than crying for someone or something that isn't in our fate. Explore the world and enjoy every moment of life like it last one. Be happy and make others happy. Be a source of happiness for others, this is an act of kindness.
Did you notice that sometimes we are in situations and want to time flow faster because we are not enjoying that moment but later we realized these were the best moments of our life? The time spent never returned try to utilize it properly.
Conclusion
Useless worries only increase our stress levels and we can't even joy the happiness of that current moment we are living in. The best solution is that we should take things lightly rather than worrying about the situation we can change.
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@Shani59
Enjoy every moment of life
Probably life is the other name for struggle and adventure, as a kid, I wanna go up early So that I can do stuff that I liked to do in those days Like in childhood it was a dream to drive a bike. And not tired of all these responsibilities, expectations, and tensions. Then I used to think those were days which were mine. Can spend hours playing cricket with cousins, everyone's favorite people care for me and like me.
Time changed and I go up along with that people's attitudes toward my personality changed. Those people who cared for me started ignoring me which was painful. My parents, teachers, relatives almost everyone I know have their attitudes changed.
This is how I think my growth began. Whenever I did a blunder, my Mom was always ready to rectify it in all possible ways. But the thing I hate is the comparison in desi families. Although I was a brilliant student of the family throughout, still I hate the comparison in any direction.
I do like it when people compare two students in any of the aspects. Because I fish can't climb a tree, similarly every student have different potential in his life i.e talent. What someone really should do is find that hidden talent in his personality and help him polish it.
Childhood days were wonderful indeed, I have no worries regarding this world or Darwin's theory that was ' survival of the fittest '. I was a prettier boy who used to enjoy his life in the way he want.
Then I grew up, and the behavior of society made me rude. First, they don't like me and now I don't care about this society. It is painful when you suddenly start distorting someone mentally. I think this would happen to almost everyone in this society and is compulsory for self-growth. All the problems came into our lives to make us stronger.
Now, I have the freedom as I can travel alone and many other things but the happiness of childhood is disappeared. All my friends and cousins who used to play with me in the early days are busy with their work. Time changes so quickly that we met after many days or sometimes even months gone. In search of a better future now the happiness of puberty is disappearing and in childhood, happiness is lost for freedom.
Conclusion
What I learned we should enjoy the present moment as we can. Because the present is a blessing make it better and happier. The past is already gone why should we worry about the future which is already written. Let's just put effort into a career we love to do and enjoy every second of our life. As the present is the only blessing.
"Stop worrying start living"
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@Shani59
27-06-2022
Eliminate Worries
Most of the things that happen in our lives are already written, Our future, wealth, relations, happiness, or sadness are almost 99% are already written in our fate except few people who tool stand and treatment to change their fate, and ultimately they rule this world.
Sometimes I can't understand why I am overthinking something/someone that I can't achieve or never be mine. Remember the things written in our fate no one can steal them from you. But if something is not written in your destiny you will never get it ever in your life. So don't take things seriously and no need to worry about the things which give you only Stress. Be relaxed and try to enjoy the world.
Life is too short to be in worries you don't know either next moment you are alive or not. Be humble, enjoy nature, and do some good deeds for the afterlife so people remember you in good books.
When I watch my country's political situation, inflation, and many other serious I broke. But then I think can I can it alone? Am I done this? The was no! Then I told myself why am I stressing? Things will be sought out themselves. I just have to play my role rather than worry about the whole country. As to be in worry is not a solution. Be logical as I am not playing my role properly as I can do so why not start from myself first.
Things in your surroundings will start changing when you change yourself first. I used to stress regarding my grades, And later long journey I realized seriously, that I ran after the things or education with the least practical use case. Probably this is how we find out compatible careers through experiments. Yes, you must put the effort into learning new things. If you are not learning new things you need to worry about it.
Learning is compulsory when you learn new skills, and explore the world you will find out what suits your personality and that's your purpose of life/ dream job you love to do. One more thing if you don't like a task / or are not interested in learning it doesn't only mean your interest is in something else. This could be possible you don't like to do anything and for such a person in Punjabi, a term uses i.e " Vella".
So learning and experimenting with innovative things in life is compulsory to know who you are and what is your hidden power. I relative last Friday came to see us in our home and he ask me what's going on in my life and I replied 'experiment' hehe...! As I don't discover yet my purpose of life but yes I am exploring new things daily and yes I stopped worrying about thinking because what worse can happen? Death! Man is mortal everyone has to leave this world one day. It would be better if I leave this world early at least with fewer sins.
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@Shani59
Sometimes feels like everything ends up
Probably the ups and downs in life arrived just to make us strong mentally. But as a human, we felt it's down after down. let me explain with my example, I started accumulating Bitcoin cash after the previous high of $1600. I was writing a short article on noise. cash and later I joined read cash. Accumulated single satoshis of Bitcoin cash from $1600 and the current price is below $130 of BCH.
But still 1bch=1bch, this is the time to accumulate more and more but the painful thing is that I have no faith currency to buy back. I just uninstalled my Bitcoin.com wallet keeping the key phrases safe. Because it's painful to see the pricing down of your favorite cryptocurrency.
I wish I could save some of the stable currency so that I can buy this dip. I have joybot NFT which was not rare although I sold it for $0.154 bch and bought LUNA, probably the worst decision of my life. I lost $35 in it. Yes, I learned but should I spend my whole life learning? not really I have to change my mindset and be more attentive and logical.
One most important thing that I learned in my journey of 1 year in crypto, don't listen to any influencer like this project will pump this will not, we should listen to our hearts, DYOR is important rather buying on the advice of someone else.
Not only did the crypto market crash but also stock forex after the conflict between Russia and Ukraine situation of the global economy changed, inflation started increasing and investors are in a panic situation, hesitant to invest in digital assets. Look at the stock examples of how badly they are crashed. Inflation increased, petroleum prices and ATH and the survival of the common man became difficult day after day.
Yes the situation is worse and these days will end up soon, these things are a part of life surely it is the time to learn something new like this that could also happen in life which makes me mentally strong.
I have no worries at all because I invested in a solid project like bch which will surely create new ATH and have a proper use case that everyone knows about peer-to-peer transactions with minimum fees.
Conclusion
Yes, I stopped looking at the market situation but I am a student and need to pay expenses daily seeing the value of funds coming down is painful and it hurts watching your hard earn assets coming down. But I also believe that most of the things in our lives are already written, we can only do important efforts. My negative thoughts satisfied my heart that at least I tried no matter if I failed but surely the comeback will be strong one day.
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@Shani59
20-06-2022
Care to don't care
Time changes and we grew the thing we thought to be the most crucial or necessary for us is no more needs to be in life. A kid wants toys and he is unaware of all sorts of external influences of the society lives his life happily without any worry. The most important thing is that everyone surrounding him cares about the kid. Family, relatives parents all love him. He is living a happy life.
As he grew up as a teenager, society's attitude towards him started changing and that favorite kid have no value in society. Everyone tries to torture him in their way. I remember I was in class 7th and went to my nano home. Nano's home was 100km away from our home, so I travel with my mom to see my Nano. We reached there and stayed about two days.
Mamo asked my mother if he was idle? You bring him everywhere the place you go. And you know what from that day my behavior towards this society starts changing. And now I don't care about the people. Try to avoid relatives as I can.
I experienced the things I was thinking are most important for me right now after 30 days, most of the time need for that specific thing is disappears. It's human nature we want a thing eagerly but with time need for it disappears or if we achieve it we lost its importance.
About four months ago I watched a Pakistani season Parizad in which the mean character Parizad asked a question to a person selling the piano, who is better either the person who got his love or the one who doesn't!
The piano seller replied: "of course none of them. "jese nhi mila usny yaad ma guzar diya aur jese mil gya usny mutti kr dia" Means the one who got it lost the value while spent their remaining life in memories.
So, it's better to stay away from the temporary love of this modern which has no practical results. These things are beautiful only in movies in practical life is only self-destruction. According to experts on teenage everyone failed to get their first because it's not the age to make a long-term promise. Need to be more practical and think about your future building your career.
Calories are burnt in both ways either you try to impress your love or try to build your career. If you run toward love, it's no guarantee that you will get him. But if you achieve your career and are in a better position from a financial point of view most probably you will get your love or someone better.
The matter is to stay focused on your career rather than caring about what people are thinking about you. Honestly speaking people don't care about you either you live or die stop thinking about them. Society only wants results. If you become successful they will appreciate you trying to meet you but if you can't achieve a better position this society will see you as a failure.
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Stop caring about people & start working
@Shani59
31-05-2022
Be a problem shooter
The people who can resolve problems are real gems and are rare, society gives value to these people who are problem solvers. No one like problems creators, everyone is busy in their world no one has time to resolve other issues as they are already suffering in their own life. In this scenario, the one who can sort out the problem have more value in this society.
All the things that you think you have not in your personality are considered a skill and start working on them. A day you became master in these skills. Let me explain about problems solving skills:
Stick to the problem
Remember when we try to avoid or get rid of a problem at that time we are in comfort and safe from that problem but later the problem will find us and make us resolve that one.
I was in 9th class and I hate math, so I skipped chapter #9 because of the complicated calculus questions while thinking that I will choose FSC pre-medical in intermediate. Later in the 3rd semester of my Bachelor's degree again I have been studied derivation and integration and I know how tough was that subject and how I passed them out! I better resolve the issue on the spot rather than issue will find out you later.
Don't Generalized
Stop over-thinking why me! I can't solve this problem, this issue is huge, etc. Only anxiety level will increase nothing better will happen by procrastination. Instead of the seek out the ways to solve the issue.
Seek out the ways and be confident that you are capable of solving the issue. What worse will happen? You failed! still, the inner peace that you have tried to resolve the issue.
Find out the Core problem
Instead of thinking about the whole problem, find out the core issue and resolve that one. Like if electricity is gone due to a short circuit in the house. Instead of shouting that the house is darkened, don't know what happened! find out the core problem. Fuse is burnt or an issue of a wire. Seek out the ways to resolve issues lightly, if you take them seriously or became stressed nothing will happen action is important rather than being tired psychological level
Exhaust all possible ways
Tried all the possible ways to solve the issue, firstly. Then seek out help. I was reading a book about a prisoner, who is an expert in breaking locks of all sorts and is confident about his abilities. He challenges the world the make any sort of lock and I will break it. One day a Roman Prince sent him an invitation to break a lock so he can test his skill.
He arrived there and tried all possible means to break the lock but he can't able to do so. 3-hours happen but he still can't able to break it. He began to lose confidence in his skill with a heavy heart he lay down and turned towards the door. The door opened because the door was never locked. So it's better to check out all you have tried all the possible ways to solve the problem.
Seek for help
In last ask others to collaborate in solving this issue after trying your best.
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29-05-2022
@Shani59
Do everything with Love
I have seen other people influencing or controlling someone's life. The person who hasn't any goal in life doesn't know where he is going, or the course he is doing right now and doesn't know about its importance and impact on himself in the professional field. Then someone else starts controlling his life. He became only a listener and performer without listening to his inner voice about what we wanted to do.
The issue is spoon-feeding, since the day he was born, the elders don't allow him to make his decision. Let him take either right or wrong. Even though He chose the wrong path, definitely he will learn a lesson. Don't influence someone's life forcefully let people be more practical.
When you start listening to your heart and choose a field that you love to be in, you feel more energetic and never bored of performing your best in that specific career. Don't listen to people it's your life and you have to spend it. Listen to your heart and mind, and start performing with your best.
Yes, you take advice from your elders they have more experience than your life time, W proverb is famous in Punjabi;
" sonu sub di, kro apni"
listen to the advice of all people but do what you like to do in your life. You are the only person who is aware of your good and bad points. The change and advice received from the brain under the influence of the heart is the most effective one. You are the only person who knows about your circumstances, people advise according to what happening in society not what happens to you.
When you analyze your personality deeply, you can examine a potential that has only in you not any other person in the family, need to polish that talent. Your talent doesn't need to be unique, in most cases children what to be like their parents. Like if a father is a doctor his children may love to serve humanity by performing MBBS. It's a matter of interest that everyone likes to do.
In some cases, I have seen parents forcing their children to choose that specific field, Score good marks in exams but they failed because of a lack of interest in that field or because they love to perform in another field. Parents are not the enemies of children but they just want to see you on a big stage receiving a medal. But they should understand the interest of their children in what they love to do in their life and then polish that skill.
Follow your passion, this will make you successful one day. If the father of Cristiano Ronaldo told him to be a bright student in the class. Half of the brands will not able to sell their products and people can't able to see such an amazing footballer. So, listen to your inner voice and follow your passion and do what you love to do.
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@Shani59
28-05-2022
Anxiety, lower it
Nowadays anxiety is a common problem, almost every second person is suffered from anxiety. It is a state of stress or hype created in the mind regarding an issue. I faced anxiety many times from the day I grow up and start understanding this world. Still, I am facing this issue. What are people thinking about me, dressing, and are they laughing at me?
Useless thinking makes me stressed. Till now I have overcome a lot on this issue but still, sometimes things make me anxious. U start practicing, like letting people think about what going on in their minds. I know who I am and am good on my way.
Last Wednesday was the presentation of our class. My group member was presenting and the next turn of mine. My heartbeat starts increasing, my pulse rate becomes out of control. I was fully prepared, still, I can't understand what was the issue, my body was shivering. It was not the first time I had already given a fine presentation in the class.
I asked my fellow, is it normal? that your heartbeats start increasing instead of that you are fully prepared. He replied:
" **yes it is normal but try to take things lightly and feels like people sitting in front of you don't know anything and you have to teach them, negative thoughts arise but try to nullify them"**
Then I go to the stage after introducing the started explaining my presentation topic and I did it well. When I returned to my seat, I thought its only practice that makes someone perfect. Learn to practice more the skill you want to learn and the results world be clear.
Take exercise
I experienced that when I am laying on the bed the whole day and was busy watching web series when I get up and go outside the routine my eyes and body explained how I did wrong with them. First few seconds I can't see clearly and my body was trembling.
Instead of that if I got up early after morning prayer when I exercise for at least 10-15 minutes the whole day body gives positive vibes, my thinking abilities are improved and negative thoughts almost vanish, and the stress, anxiety burnout through the exercise.
Reduce intake of caffeine
When people feel stressed they start smoking or intake caffeine. Yes, this will help you for short periods but remember later you will be addicted to taking these types of stuff to lower the anxiety, and slowly it became a part of your lifestyle. My elder brother is used to do smoke I asked the reason, and that was anxiety.
He said multiple times that he will never smoke again but after a few days again he back to routine. I explained many times cigarettes impact the respiratory system of humans. He is a doctor and understands things clearly but he is addicted and hope will rid of it soon.
I used to drink tea on my exam days, especially at night. It keeps my mind energetic and I can complete my syllabus in a short time but I am not addicted to it, drink only during exams.
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@Shani59
27-05-2022
Last Lab
7th semester is around to end with the final term that i.e starting from a week after, before that, we have a paper on the Organic lab of the experiments that we performed throughout the semester.
Last Tuesday we synthetized Benzil from benzoin. Benzoin was already prepared in a lab before. So we weigh 2.4 grams of Benzoin using Electronic balance. Concentrated nitric acid, hot plate, and ice-chilled water are used as chemicals.
I forgot my lab coat and gloves at home, my friend alone was experimenting. Usually, we both collect apparatus and chemicals but I was sitting on the chair and writing practicals in a notebook because precautions are more important. The chemicals we are using are concentrated and may cause damage with a lab coat and gloves. Moreover, I said my friend let girls perform us already performed previous all, let them know about sample handling. But most of the girls are sitting on chairs and busy in gossip.
I was not in the mode of performing because I have written all of the practicals that we performed in the last two were not written on my note as we have not performed these two, When the instructor checked my notebook she asked why you have not written last two practicals. I replied:
"Mam abhi hum ne ye perform nhi kiye iss liy nhi likhy"
Mam said: I told the class to write all of the practicals in the notebook. Sit and complete your notebook. I thought I already performed in the previous labs and let other fellows learn more who are only used to watching what is happening! So I started writing practicals which I completed in 45- minutes. I asked Mam to check my notebook. She checked it out and I am free of any sort of practical notebook work.
My fellows on the other hand perform practical. The sample solution was placed on the hotplate for heating almost for 60-minutes. 55-minutes were completed and I was there to see what was going on. I performed the last step and placed this mixture in Ice-chilled water
For the formation of precipitates, which are not performed. Later we added ice-chilled water to the conical flask containing the reaction mixture. Pre-mature crystal formation started. After that, we took a filter paper and funnel and filter out benzil crystals. The filtration took almost 5-minutes and our next lecture almost started.
We have no time to dry benzil crystal and then weigh it out so placed it directly on an electronic balance and were shocked to see the weight was 7.8 grams because of wet filter paper. We decided to weigh out the benzil crystals when they will completely dry and left. After the next lecture we back again in the lab and weight out the crystals for finding the actual yield. Then the percentage yield obtained was 73%.
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@Shani59
26-05-2022
Get a break from social media and Go Outside
2-months ago my mid-term exams ended and the final term exams are starting on 6th June. Seriously I have no preparation for exams and I am not anxious enough to get a headache. Because I already completed 6-semesters in this stressful life from regular classes and papers to online classes and then half physical mode of education and half virtual but exams mode still physical.
I think it's fine as a mode of exam is physical because many bright students lost their CGPA because of signals and connectivity issues. They are living in villages and far away from the city where call signals are not enough.
I am bored of all this routine, those were good days when I was in FSC, I did have not any smartphone or laptop to waste my time. I used to study for almost 6-7 hours because I want to be a doctor but in my destiny, something different is written. The remaining time I used to spend with my siblings and parents and yes on my lawn. My hobby was gardening at that time. I planted roses of different colors on the lawn which were beautiful later I became busy and can't able to look after them.
The current routine is so critical, that I don't have any interest in theoretical things of the syllabus as I already wasted my golden period of life while cramming things which has no practical use at all. My interest in the study diminishing day by day. Before covid situation was better but now, students of my class don't want to pay much effort in the class and teachers also arrived read slides and left. Except for a few teachers who are putting in their full efforts.
When I opened social media, it was painful to see that the whole system is messed up, with inflation increasing day by day. Politicians are fighting for seats, and things of basic-use prices increasing. After reading such news I turned off my mobile data and slept.
Many of you heard about Sri Lanka, the country is bankrupt, pandemic put a major impact on Sri Lanka. 60% of their economy was dependent on tourism but in Covid people were quarantined and Sri Lanka faced major loss. Pray for them for good days.
Conclusion
Watching the situation of the World change badly, I want to cut off social media and spend holidays in the Northern areas of Pakistan. But the use of social media is inevitable At least, for now, my final term exams are starting and all the slides are in the soft form on my mobile phone, I have to prepare all these slides to clear exams.
After the exam, the plan is to do an internship in the pharmaceutical industry. There are a break 2 months after the exams where I can do an internship. So the plan to visit the Northern areas will not be fulfilled because the internship is also important.
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25-05-2022
@Shani59
Emotional Intelligence Quotient (EIQ)
The world is evolving so quickly, seeing that current situation we have to learn the time things in the time. There was a time when the intelligence quotient was enough to deal with society, now emotional intelligence is worth more.
People play with emotions and try all possible ways to break you. But it's up to either take those people seriously or ignore them. If you take their harsh words seriously, this would only affect your mental health and their mission will be completed. They want to distract you and you start affected. Instead of that let them say what they are known your worth, you sent your life most of the years with yourself and well aware of the positive and negative prospects of your personality. Let people talk about you, ignore them yes it's difficult but practice makes perfect.
I think you shouldn't respond to the people through words, stay calm and wait for a good time. Be a successful person in your life their mouth will be closed. The people who were affected emotionally, you can't do it, they will say
"I knew it you can do it"
The matter of self believe if you believe in your power, and are well aware of your personality, instead of responding to hard words from people be on the track and start chasing your goals. It is only you who can put s change in your life for a better future no one else can do it for you.
I noticed that every person in this world fights his fight from a billionaire to a normal person in society. Everyone set their goals and chases them.
Once I was traveling on a local bus an uncle was sitting next to me. They started asking me questions about my life, the place I am living, my name, and my current work. I responded to them. Later I also started asking questions. I asked them where are you going? The uncle was calm and looked strong emotionally, as I asked this question his tone of voice changed a little emotional. He replied that he is going to court for the hearing, there is a case of land between his brothers who illegally occupied his area for 7 years the case is going on in the court without any results. I said, " don't worry uncle soon all the things will be okay"
I was thinking that people who look externally are not similar internally, my uncle was so happy and cheered the situation when are communicating, and asked about his life. He got emotional. Probably this is how life is, everyone is suffering through his emotional illness but they are calm and don't tell anyone they know that no one can understand them. Yes, people are depressed but they know how to control their emotions.
People don't tell their emotional feelings to others even not to close because they think these words in the future can use against them. That's why they controlled ed their emotions.
Final thoughts
For survival, one should need to be strong enough emotionally to control his feelings, not react sometimes, ignore unbearable comments of the society and stay focused. These circumstances came in our to make strong mentally, take them as a challenge accept and complete them in a good way.
Learn to control your emotions, it's simply if you start putting in your mind your body will start behaving accordingly. So put only positive emotions or through. Remember no one is perfect, almost everyone is suffering through a sort of emotional illness. The need to overcome such emotions breaks you.
Stay shining and learn to control emotions.
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@Shani59
24-05-2022
You are Unique
Everyone is unique, made in a specific way by the Almighty, and has different capabilities. The thinking level of every person is different, imagine we are attending a lecture in the class. The instructor teaches the same topic to the whole class but the pickup capabilities of every student are different. Some students are fully focused and get all the points on the other hand in some students' minds a different story is going on and are not focusing on the lecture.
Every student has different capabilities. If someone forces a fish to climb on a tree or a monkey to swim in the water, it would be a waste of talent for both. Let them do what they wanna regarding their careers, don't force or implement your thoughts on a student. Let him take his decision in life.
In the 3-idiots movie, you can see the importance of following your passion rather external influence of people. Listen to your heart and move toward the dream journey of life without any fear. Rancho the main character of the movie was a bindas person enjoying every moment of his life by thinking about the past and future, living in the present moment, and following his passion without any external fear and becoming successful in his life.
Raju, Farhan, and Rancho were best friends and are enrolled in an engineering university but their mindset deeming their careers were different. Farhan wanted to be a professional photographer but due to his father's influence, he enrolled himself in an engineering university and became an average student. Raju was so fearful of things in his surroundings and believed in superstitions but later he overcomes all this.
The point I want to say is that we should listen to our hearts rather than what other people are saying, this one is trending or this career has a huge scope you should move there. Never listen to them, it's your life, and you will be aware of your interest and circumstances. So, it's better to follow that career which is interesting for you, you never bored of spending hours without being irritated or tired. But if you listen to other people's advice remaining life will be gone in regrets.
Conclusion:
Don't get offended by your body posture, the color of your skin, hair and height, etc. Almighty uniquely created you. The traits you have in your personality, no one has, your fingerprints, and your destiny are different from other people. If someone ignores you let him do it, what to leave you, say his goodbye. Until and unless you get someone with the same vibes.
I was listening to a video of Simerjeet Singh, a motivational coach, in his live season a student asked him a question: "sir I don't interact with the people because I think, I have to give them any knowledge or I can't do so because of getting offended". He replied:
" Arry dunia ma koi bhi shukhs asa nhi jis ky pass deny ky liy kuch na"
This means every person has worth giving. Know your worth and learn to respect yourself, learn about your limits, and never allow others to cross. You are special, the change that you can bring to this world no one can do. **You are precious!**
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@Shani59
Monday 23/05/2022
Father a superhero
The only person in this world who can sacrifice his dream and luxurious life for the better growth of his children is a father. Parents want to see their children achieving success in life.
Still, I remember an old incident, I was in 10th class and need 200 rupees to buy notes. I said to my father that I need money. He replied: "go and take it from my wallet!" when I checked the wallet, there were only 150 rupees. I felt ashamed of myself. But the happiness that I am more important than anything for my father. Later children like me start asking my father what you have done for me.
From the day a baby is born, the only father knows his responsibilities are increased. He works day and night for a better future for his children, to provide them with a better lifestyle, schooling, food, and clothes. In all this, he forgot about his happiness. He forgets to enjoy his own life instead of every second he thinks about his family to provide for every basic thing they need.
On Eid or any other occasion, his priority is the family, new dresses for the children, Eidi, and a proper diet. He forgets about his new dress and shoe. Yes, the mother handles the house making food and providing a uniform or pressed dresses, but the father provides all the things needed.
Father sacrifice starts from the day a kid is born till the remaining life. He tries to make things easier for his children in all possible ways so that his children will not face the problem that he faced in his childhood to puberty journey. If they are living in a village, he moved his family to the city for the better education of his children and health facilities.
My Elder brother was moved to the city when my nephew was born back in 2010 for better education of children. I was in 8th class at that time. We missed our brother's family for a few months before the situation became normal, as the city was 12k kilometers away from the house, we can visit each other whenever want. The point is that a father does everything for his children that he can do. But I see some people leave their parents in old age when they need their children.
If I talk about my father, he never demotivates me regarding my education. When I got admission to the university, we are short of little money, he borrow from a relative and handover me over to pay his university fee. Later, if I ask him what you have done for me, I would an idiot. He puts all of his savings and earnings into the education of my siblings and me, and I think that is their biggest investment that many others can't able to do.
Final thoughts
We should respect our parents if they said something that hurts don't react just smile and said okay! They sacrifice a lot throughout their life just to make our future bright. So, we must take care of them when they get older. For us, their happiness should be the priority because whenever we are in a bad phase of our life only our parents help to solve the worse problems. Now in puberty when we are grown and mature enough we should take care of them.
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@Shani59
22-05-2022
Solitude and loneliness
Solitude is a choice in which a person wants to spend time alone and be happy with that on the other hand loneliness is a feeling of being alone or missing someone which is not good actually.
I was thinking last night that most of the inventions in this world have taken place in solitude, innovators can think more clearly and they have extra and quality time to think about Revolutionizing this world. If they spent time like a normal person, who even not recognizes the way he wasting his time on useless activities without watching the clock, they can't bring innovations.
I believe that all the successful people are spent most of their time in solitude while reading books, analyzing human nature behavior what already happened in the past, or things that can be improved, an innovator can only think about these aspects only in the solitude.
In public gatherings or parties, the time is to enjoy yourself with friends or family. Ask how they are, and how their life is going on! No need to think about other things. Solitude is the time to analyze the world, read, write and think. Famous personalities spent their time in solitude in they examine their personality, and seek out the ways which are helpful for them. Write down the points on the paper which they learned so others can get benefit from their life experiences.
I know most of us here are readers or writers, you can get my point regarding solitude. I don't know about others but I can't write an article while sitting at the family gatherings during gossip. In the start, I tried but my mind was blank, I can't able to think or grasp key points. So from that day, whenever I have to write an article first I request my siblings please don't irritate me for the next 1- hour, then I set in a room and begins to write an article. This technique proves fruitful for me and my thinking power increased. I got this idea from my favorite poet life i.e Dr. Allama Muhammad Iqbal. I read about their life and that they spent most of their lives in solitude. In his books, Iqbal wrote that he got up early morning at 2 am or 3 am and sometimes don't even sleep, he spent his time praying in front of the Almighty, thinking and writing the books for the young generation. So the youth can get motivation and make the country proud.
2 am is the time when all the people are sleeping and you get up and start praying to the Almighty. Yes God listens to you and your thinking abilities begin to change, there is a positive in your and altitude becomes clear. I think people should spend a little bit of time in solitude in which they learn about their personality, their capabilities, and the things they are doing right now. Analyzing all the scenarios keeps you on the right track.
On the other hand feeling of loneliness is not good actually, you are missing someone or bored understand the situation and try to overcome it. Missing your temporary should not be the factor because you are burning your calories for a person who doesn't even care about you! The move on should be the option. The world is so beautiful, one day you will get someone with your vibes matched. Currently, the time is to think about parents who cared for you and make them feel proud instead of wasting your precious time in loneliness, thinking about someone who doesn't care at all.
Be happy and make your parents happy
@Shani59
21-05-2022
Reading Books
The day I bought a smartphone, I prefer to watch electronic sources of knowledge rather than reading books. But I think books are more effective than a short video of 5-10 minutes. No one can share more details experiences in a short time. Also, I experience that I can speak more clearly about what I am thinking while speaking words are not enough to explain ideas present in the mind. Instead of the that if you read a book by a writer more knowledge there. The author shared his ideas and experience with practical examples and knows how to motivate/entertain his audience. A single person shares his whole life experiences so his readers can learn or gain knowledge from his experiences present in written form.
In the last two years, My habits have changed, I used to prefer electronic media as the source of motivation but later came to know that not enough short videos of minutes will keep your confidence high for short period only for some hours and later situation became same.
Last summer I ordered a book 'suno tum stay ho' written by Ali Shirazi. I first two pages just for enjoyment as my mobile phone was on charging, I found it interesting and read half the book within two days. From that day my habit of reading books started. This put positive changes in my mind my thinking and talking way changed and grooming starts. My cousin read a few pages of this book and found it interesting and bring it along with her around two months ago. Still, she hasn't returned that book, I read half the book only. Hope so she will return soon.
At the start of May, I ordered five more books delivered within a week. I read only "The art of thinking positive" because of my busy schedule, I do have not much time to spend on extra activities because my final exams are starting from the first week of next month and I have to prepare the driest subjects of organic chemistry.
"The art of thinking " is concise and brief, I completed it within two days. The writer George Green shared possible tips to live a happy life. After reading it, I opened "Body Language" it was a little bit lengthy, I tried to read its first 10 pages with concentration but as I moved forward, I was losing interest that way a week about to happen and I haven't read a single page any of other books.
I purchased these books just for sake of entertainment I was free of midterm exams and wanted to try something new and I tried this one and found it helpful.
Reading good books transfers positive vibes in the body's vision and the direction of the journey changed along with the level of thinking. I read somewhere that you want to know about the people, read. You would understand the mindset of society, a writer in his book writes about the society in which he spent his time in good and bad phases of life. The more read books, the more you will understand about the people.
Conclusion
I am not against electronic media, but some people who haven't enough time to read the lengthy newspaper can know about the current affairs just by watching a new channel, everything has its importance.
But if you want to read a book, can read in a soft form on mobile devices but it will put a bad impact on eyesight. I tried to read my favorite books in soft form, and later think about eyes. Then I ordered books, so I can read in hard form.
Thanks for reading!
@Shani59
20-05-2022
Mental health
People talk about physical health, six-pack, body posture, and enhancing facial beauty using cosmetics and Snapchat filters. But no one I saw talking about psychological conditions people are suffering maximum they listen to motivational videos for 5-minutes to refresh mental health. But I realized that motivational video impact remains only for a day or two. No one wanna consult a psychiatrist, mostly don't know about mental illness and phobias.
The issue is awareness, people are not aware of their health and what suit their health and what is not favorable. According to health research, almost every human suffered from a sort of phobia, what I want to say no one is the ideal everyone has a disability either physical or mental block.
I watched an inspirational drama i.e Sinf e Ahan in which Rubia a lady cadet training in PMA fears rat, yes you read right a rat, her biggest fear. During training a session in an open forest, she killed a Snake, the same girl who fear of rats. She was killing a snake while saying:
" This is a snake, not a rat"
I laughed hard at that scene of the drama, thinking about phobias' impact on human the things which is less dangerous, she was afraid of it rather she killed a poisonous snake.
Phobias are a sort of mental block, a tragedy that happens to someone in their childhood that they can't able to forget, later they have to struggle a lot to overcome that phobia. Some people are afraid of height, height-phobia, they are about to die when they are at the peak of a mountain, similarly, people are afraid of darkness, Dark-phobia. I was watching a video of an influencer in which he was talking about his childhood days story in which his mother locked him in a dark room as a punishment he did something wrong. From that day until he was afraid of darkness.
When you meet people every tells you their unique life stories, I suffered multiple times while engaging or communicating with people so I listen to a motivational speaker video, he gave a task to interact with at least one stranger daily, maximum what will happen other one refused to interact, but definitely, you will learn. Talk to a stranger when you go outside of the home for buying home stuff, an office, or a university. I implemented this strategy yes it's working. While sitting on the university bus I ask random questions to a student sitting on the side seat, are you enjoying your university, learning experience, best memory there, problems you are facing. The conversation became interesting.
Conclusion
All sorts of phobias can be overcome, some people have a small frequency but sometimes an issue is critical, in that situation need to consult a psychiatrist, nothing is more crucial than our health. Its illness can be cured but if treatment is done situation became critical and problems for own self and the family. It's only a sort of block that can be treated by practicing. What to practice for that specific illness, a psychiatric consult needed. Our mental health is important as our physical health. According to a critic, I forgot the name, I read this quote in second-year essays:
"a negative mind will never give you a positive life"
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Thanks for reading!
19-05-2022
@Shani59
Challenge your Habits
The comfort zone or our imagination world is beautiful, things are happening according to our comfort, yes it's glorious but harmful because our personal growth will be almost zero. Our brain is not ready to learn new things, what we have are enough no more need to put in our minds for mental and personality growth. This type of mindset only shut down the morale we are not ready to take risks.
Did we notice how we spent our time on social media without even counting hours if we study for a minute we calculate every second that we put in while studying. How strange we are calculating productive hours in which we learn something new. Instead, the focus should be on the number of hours that we are wasting every day while watching short videos, and movies or spoiling time while chatting with friends.
Time is so crucial, the world is advancing so quickly every day, and innovations if we remain in this way wasting time on useless stuff, survival for us in this world will be difficult. Recently I was reading a tweet from IUPAC in which they are talking about the updation of the Periodic Table, on the base of atomic numbers and uncertainty of fourteen elements. Every day a new research field of technology and science. And we can see clearly what way are going!
The time demands need to change habits that are putting a bad impact on our growth. Every day before sleeping I used to plan that I will get up early, offers prayers, morning walk, and meditation, but believe me the plan remains a plan, I sleep around midnight and get up at 6 am when my mom arrived and started shutting get up and eat breakfast. lols.
The need is to move one step forward instead of just planning need to put practical implementation. What is in our minds is worthless if we can apply them practically.
When a teacher is delivering a lecture in class I wished that I prepared the previous lecture so I would understand this lecture more clearly and planned that after returning home I will cover this chapter completely. Yes, returned home and my habits are still the same, headphones in my ear listening to songs, and scrolling social media. The self talk still in my mind that I have to cover in this chapter but my heart be like
"acha thuri dair tk start krta".
And ultimately the time to sleep because no more energy in the body, late at night only option is to sleep. Again get up in the morning and same routine.
Conclusion
Yes, these habits keep us happy in our zone, but self-growth is stopped. The need is to change all these scenarios make a proper schedule and try to follow it, if want to a great and successful otherwise blame are ready that everyone normal person has, Luck, and other external factors like I can't do it because of that person, etc. Need is to change own self-other things will automatically start turning in favor.
Thanks for reading!
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@Shani59
18-05-2022
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