Step 1-FEEL THE PAIN
Remember guys, the only way for you to remove the pain is to go through it. There's no other way.
How to really move on?
Yung alam mo yung totoong totoong move on. Now, if i'm gonna ask you that specific question. It's a very basic answer or tell everybody who asks for an advise na "just forgive" alam mo yun, "kalimutan mo na lang sya", " isipin mo na lang na patay na sya" mga ganong klaseng mga bagay.
Pero here's the thing, it's actually a very vague advise. Kasi pag sinabi mo sa tao paano ka mag move on?
"kalimutan mo na sya"
Ang dali kasing sabihin na...
"you have to accept the fact of what happened to you"
It's just like telling to someone pano ka makapunta from point a to b eh,
" sumakay ka ng sasakyan"
It's a macro level of advise pero not everybody knows the specifics of how to do it. An advise of "acceptance" is actually a macro advise. Which is very difficult to follow kasi hindi mo alam kung paano ka pupunta dun. Pero most of the time, people has difficulty finding the way on how to forgive and how to forget.
Kaya nga sya hindi maka move on kasi hindi nya alam kung pano mag forgive at hindi din nya alam kung pano mag forget. So, what is the right way if ever na ikaw na tao eh nabroken hearted. Iniwan ng taong mahal mo and you wanted to move on.
Here's the thing pano ka ba talaga magmomove-on?
Well i think first off, everybody jumps into a specific conclusion where in "dapat i-accept mo yung pagkakataon na nasaktan ka, na dapat you have to forget."
" Just don't stay on that specific place"
Fine, that's the right way of moving on pero that's already on the later part kasi nga that's step 10 out of 50. So you have to first start somewhere at the very beginning.
The first step of moving on is to actually feel the PAIN.
If your saying to yourself na ililibang ko na lang yung sarili ko, i would just go on and spend time with my friends with my family.
Fine, it alleviates the pain for the moment. Pero your just TREATING the SYMPTOM NOT the SICKNESS.
Kasi nga bottom line is paguuwi ka ng bahay, magisa ka sa kwarto, it will always go back to you.
The PAIN, the MEMORIES, the SUFFERING and the HAPPY MOMENTS.
So, the only way to remove pain is to go through it. Accept the fact that it's FINISHED and accept the fact that it's painful. That's just how it is. Ganito kasi yan, you can't tell your heart, your mind and your soul to be okay.
It's just like telling a physical wound "huy! Gumaling kana! "
Of course it's not gonna happen one day, two days or three days. Hindi mangyayari yun.
A physical wound is gonna heal by ITSELF depending on your capacity, depending on your capability as an individual kasi may mga taong mabilis gumaling at may mga taong mabagal gumaling.
Pero bottom line is the body has a natural process of healing. So, same as through with the wound in the heart but one way for you not to heal first is to delay the healing process by not facing the fact that everything is over.
Okay lang umiyak, okay lang sumigaw, okay lang kahit abong gawin mo ayos lang yan. Any outlet that you wanted to do and there's no shame of crying over a person that hurt you.
Kasi that's one way for you to actually remove that heavy feeling. The more you go through the pain the more you able to put it out there.
Just a disclaimer, it doesn't necessarily mean that if you feel the pain you have to destroy your life.
Of course not! There's a fine line. You don't have to allow yourself na maaapektuhan yung work mo, yung relationship mo sa iba or anything beyond what you have kasi that relationship already destroyed you.
Please do your self a favor. Don't allow that specific reason to destroy your other relationship as well. You can tell them but it should not be at the cost of that relationship.
So that's one way, feel the pain and don't be scared. There's no really true way for you to go over it.
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