The one we love or The one who loves us?

It’s not my intention to be emotional today but I just can’t stop thinking about this question. It’s because I heard the song “Mahal ko o Mahal ako” (translated to The one I love or The one who loves me) by KZ on my way home. Then I suddenly ask myself, why do we need to choose between the one who loves us and the one we love.

When can we say that we already love someone or someone loves us? Is it when we can’t get them out of our minds? Or if we see them with other person then we feel a bit hurt about it? Is that love already? When we are getting crazy and being so patient, giving our at most effort and care, is that love?

It’s so hard to understand what love is. That is why we should not really use our brains to choose who to love. Heart! The only reason why “options” are getting in our way because our brains is dictating it to us but if we use solely our heart to choose, we know exactly who is the one for us. Am I right?

I still believe that in every situation we are in, we always have a choice. We have the choice on how we can make the ending of our decisions to be happy.

Let’s now talk about the main topic here.

Some people say that we should choose the one we love because that’s the only thing that would make us happy. The logic there is because we love that person. On the other hand, it would be so sad if we will choose the one that we don’t love, both of you just won’t be happy.

It’s just so funny that some people give advices. They keep on saying that we should fight for the one we love until the end if we really do love that person. They say that love is something that can’t be leveled with and will always be given back. Time will come that the person will feel the same way towards us as long as we keep fighting for it. Huh? I mean if that’s the case then there should be no one who feels the word “heartbroken”. What if that person loves someone else? Would you still push yourself towards them knowing the fact that they would be happier with other people compared when they are with you? Is that love?

On the contrary, some people that have been asked about this question, they tend to choose the one who loves them because they believe that these people will do anything for them just to make them happy. They will be there to love them, to support them, and to take care of them. They will be happy momentarily because they will feel how to be loved. They also think that one day they will be able to give back that love. In my mind, you should have gotten a maid to do all that stuffs for you. Haven’t they thought that they just picked up a rock that they will mallet to their heads? Is that how low they see love is nowadays?

My point is that if you don’t know the answer then why do you have to choose? If it’s not allowed then why do you keep on pushing? Do you not have anything to do in your life? Is having a romantic relationship completes you? Life is too short. Your happiness should not depend on other people. There are a lot of things that deserves your time, effort, and attention. Just like yourselves. Love yourselves first before anything else.