Hur is much later in my life. My first concern is whether I will be able to go to paradise before I get jealous of Hur. Whether I will be able to escape the terrible punishment of Hell and Hell, the terrible day when children will grow old in fear, the sun will come down on their heads, their mouths will be locked, their hands and feet will testify against themselves, what will be my judgment that day, That should be my only concern in the world. We can quench our thirst by drinking a glass of water on the Day of Judgment, do we have that much time?
By the grace of God, if I can go to paradise at the end of that horrible day, then what else do I want? Without it, if I get God's forgiveness, what else does it take!
That is why Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “And hasten to the forgiveness of your Lord, and to the Paradise whose size is equal to that of the heavens and the earth.” [Al-Imran-133]
Second:
The blessings of Paradise are innumerable. Of these innumerable blessings, hur is the next one. In the Qur'an, Allah has described other blessings before the blessings of Hur. Allaah has prepared for His righteous servants things which no eye has seen, no ear has heard, and in the heart of man which is not even imagined.
Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “No one knows what is pleasing to them as a reward for their deeds. [Sajdah-18]
Allah has repeatedly described in the Qur'an the gardens of Paradise, the canals of Paradise, the palaces of Paradise, etc.
Why? It's for us!
Allah says, ‘O Muhammad! Give glad tidings to those who believe and do good deeds that for them is a garden beneath which rivers flow. '[Baqara-25]
'There are canals of odorless water, canals of delicious milk, canals of sweet wine, and canals of refined honey. There are more fruits for them, and forgiveness from their Lord. ' [Muhammad 15]
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, 'An announcer will call them and say,' You will never die here. ' You are here forever healthy, never sick. You are here forever young, never old. Rejoice here, you will never be sad. [Muslim] [See, you will never be sad in Paradise, rejoice all the time. What's the point of filling a jelly with hur]
Allah says, 'Allah has promised the believing men and women Paradise. They will live forever in the land where the fountains flow. In this evergreen paradise there is a place of holy clean living for them. They will be blessed with the pleasure of Allah and that will be the greatest success for them. ' [Repentance-72]
So look, how many blessings! And notice here, which of the so many blessings Allah is calling the greatest success? Surely the greatest achievement is not to get a hur, but to gain the pleasure of Allah. So why should we worry about hur?
And do you know the biggest reward of paradise? Not hur, but to have a vision of God. And this blessing is for everyone. When you go to Paradise, you will see how much these hurrahs, paradise happiness etc. are less important than gaining the vision of Allah! How much taste, how much peace will be in the philosophy of Rabb Karim! We will be waiting for what we want - when we will be blessed to see the Lord!
Third:
In Paradise, the people of Paradise will get whatever they want. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): "In Paradise you will be given whatever you desire, and there you will have whatever you ask for." [Ha-Meem Sijdah-31]
Now if you want, even if your husband doesn’t have a hur, he probably won’t. In that case, we can say in answer to what your husband wants, maybe you will be made a duplicate of your husband through a male hur. For example, women who are not married, or whose husbands are eternally hellish, are allowed to marry an unmarried man in Paradise if they wish. And if he does not want, the male hur Allah will create and marry him. [Majmaul Fatwa 15/3]
But all these questions are irrelevant. Do you know why? Because you will never want to be in paradise, let alone your husband's hur. Just as human beings have social status and dignity in the world, so will there be levels of paradise in Paradise. A martyr will get more hur than a common man. Because the dignity of the martyrs will be higher. Martyrs will be a high level paradise. You will be the beloved wife of that high-ranking Paradise man. You will never want to be the wife of a less dignified paradise than others. You should never want your dignity and that of your husband to be inferior to others.
The last thing is, if you are a woman of paradise, the hurras are not worthy of your envy. You may be shocked at this description of their beauty in this world, but did you know that your beauty will be many times more than your dignity. Who are you jealous of? Hurras are your husband's wife but they are not human. You are human beings, you have attained Paradise by worshiping them, and Allah has created them just as your husband's companions. You are their queen. When you go to paradise, why compare yourself with your husband's companions? Rather, the more you become the queen of hurras, the more you will think of your own dignity.
Remember that the Messenger of Allah said, 'The best wealth in the world is a virtuous wife'. Now think, if a virtuous wife is the best asset in the world, how high her dignity will be in Paradise. Does he compare with Hur?
Even then, if the mind is jealous, there is nothing to worry about. Keep on going to paradise with your partner with a lot of mind. After going to paradise, you will not find the 'J' of the district. The reason is that Allah the Almighty says, 'I will remove the disease in their hearts, they are sitting in chairs facing each other, all brothers.' [Hijrah 48]
And the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, 'There will be no enmity between them, and their hearts will be like one heart.' [Bukhari]
So read your husband's description instead. So that he is so eager to go to Paradise that he and your children are constantly thinking about faith and deeds. In this way you will get eternal paradise in the hereafter, you will get paradise happiness in your married life in this world as well.