Think about your life along six dimensions, So that the goal is this you're gonna take care of yourself, You're gonna have a life in three years that justifies its suffering that's the goal, So you can invent the damn life but you have to think what you would be satisfied with, So you wouldn't be all bitter and resentful. It's like okay what do you want from your family? what do you want from your friends? How are you gonna educate yourself? what do you want for your career? how are you gonna use your time outside of work? how are you gonna handle drugs and alcohol and other temptations like that how are you gonna keep yourself mentally and physically healthy? these are open questions like you get to answer them the idea is you can have whatever you want but you have to figure out what it is has to be realistic and you have to figure out what it is it's okay, So now develop a vision what's your life going to be like in three to five years so you write it down your bad habits and your resentment and your bitterness and all of that your procrastination gets completely out of hand and you auger down and you're in your own personal version of hell in three to five years.
What does that look like well. Everyone knows that it's like everyone can look into the future and think well if I keep going on this dark path. This is where I'll end up well then you've got little hell outline for yourself to run away from you got a little heaven outline for yourself to run towards and then you're motivated. Because sometimes you know you're just hopeful. I would like a good thing to happen it's like yeah but you know I'd like to drink half bottle of whisky tonight too it's like so which is it gonna be well just being hopeful about the future might not be enough but then you think oh I see like there's that little hell thing that I outlined it's waiting for me and maybe I'm afraid of taking the nips. Next step forward because it's demanding and challenging. it's like yeah I'm afraid that but I'm way more afraid of where I might end up if I don't get my act together and people should be that's why their conceptions of hell in so many religions. it's like hell is a real place whether it's eternal that's a whole different question. whether it's waiting for you in the afterlife that's a whole different question but if you've never met anyone in hell you haven't lived very long haven't had your eyes open but most of the time you should think where am i falling short of the ideal my own ideal, doesn't have to be one that someone puts on you where am i less than I should be where am i bitter, where am I making the world a worse place than it has to be like you ask yourself. Those questions you'll be in for a big shock say well what would happen if you stopped doing that stop saying things that make you weak stop, telling lies that you know to be lies, stop doing things you know to be useless and counterproductive aim high dorp some responsibilities and then see what the hell happens you want to lay your life out. So that it's providing you what you need to not be bitter and to work for your best interests and for the interests of everyone else that would be lovely and I think it's attainable and one of the things that I've also been telling people informing people about is the idea that life isn't a game, it's a series of games and the Wright ethic is to be the winner of the series of games and part of that means you all you have learn. How to be a good loser let's say that you could pick your left, you can pick your level of competition in life to some degree okay, So let's say you pick a level of competition where you're always winning it's like well all that means is you picked the wrong level of competition us to be a winner. You want to be disciplined, you want to know what you're doing and then you want to be on the edge where your skills are being developed and if you're gonna be on the edge where your skills are going to be developed, you're at a place where loss,we're losing is always a possibility because otherwise you're not pushing yourself beyond your current capacity. One of the things that I've outlined in 12 rules for life is is a theory of meaning. Because meaning as far as I'm concerned that sense of meaningful engagement is the antidote to malevolence and suffering essentially, Because you want to have a life that's so engaging that you think despite the fact that I'm limited and that we're mortal and that life is tragedy and there's evil in the world despite all that this is worth doing. Life is suffering and betrayal in many senses of the world but you can adopt a way of traversing through life. That is more powerful than the tragedy in the malevolence get your act together, Stand up forthrightly that's rule 1 .Stand up straight with your shoulders back there's a vulnerable position right. Because you're open but it's a powerful position, Because it means that you're brave enough to take what's coming and it isn't like what's coming isn't dangerous it's dangerous, So but your best bet is to be dancing on your feet and ready for it to pay attention to be awake.
Thank you
21-04-2022