My child is so naughty. Even for once he does not stay still,and does not sit. If you give everything he wants, he will not listen. Blah blah blah.
This complaint is common to all mothers whose baby is 2 years old. Terrible two in the language of experts.
The strange thing is that I don't see any black / African mother making this childish complaint; I don't see European, South American, North American, Chinese, Japanese mothers. They would rather be worried when the baby is a little quieter at this age, is my baby okay? Do they have autism?
And our mothers? Wants to know how to keep the baby quiet. But this is the age for children to show curiosity about everything. Age to explore. They will run, jump, climb, catch everything, want to feel everything. Whenever they are prevented from doing so, they will shout, beat, and cry. These are very normal. They don't want to hurt you, they just want to see and understand what happens , they want to test your newly felt energy. He insists, wants to see what happens if he insists. When he realizes that his parents are giving him everything if he insists, then next time he applies it again. If he sees you hitting him after he hits you, he will hit you harder considering it normal. When you shout in anger, he observes attentively. Then when he gets angry, he shouts himself.
A reverse effect can be seen in the brains of mothers who want to keep their babies quiet. The energy that he was supposed to use was his running, this time it was used for stubbornness, crying, fighting, screaming. The child loses attention, and does not want to listen to anyone.
Get rid of this culture of child abuse. Let them play, let them do whatever they want. Unless it is causing harm to someone or causing harm to him. Remove expensive and fragile items out of reach. Lock the drawer containing the important paper / things. Wrap the corners of the furniture. Spread carpets or play mats at home so that it doesn't hurt too much later. Buy a washable color that can be washed anywhere. Take the baby outside, to the park or on the roof. Let him play.
If you are too tired or tired with the baby, if your mood is not under your control, meditate, give yourself time, if necessary, seek the help of a counselor.
If you can't give proper quality time to one child, don't take another child before 4 years of age. If you are not 100% confident about giving 2 babies the right amount of time, don't bother bringing another baby into the world. It is not the responsibility of the 2-year-old to deal with the irritable mood during your pregnancy and post-delivery depression. Responsibility does not end with the birth of a child. Think first about whether you can build him as an ideal man for the future world.
When a child is born, let it grow normally. Give direction to the positive without suppressing his normal activities. Be good to yourself, keep the child good.