Sterile debate

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Among the challenges that a person faces in his life is to enter into discussions with a person who fights to prove that he is right and to see the other as an opponent that he must overcome, and who may indeed be right.

Often self-confident leaves the argument and does not go overboard in the conversation because he knows that he is right and does not need to justify his actions (sterile debate).

If you encounter these people, withdraw peacefully, and if it is difficult for you, but it is much better than bothering yourself for nothing, as long as you will not change the view of the other who sees you wrong and will not satisfy him unless you submit to his desire, so it is better to distract yourself from the argument and proceed to the rest of your challenges.

Because your continuity in such discussions absorbs your positive energy. On the other hand, you may also be among them, and you can do a simple test to make sure of that.

If you find yourself getting into a sterile debate, what do you do?

If you find yourself always entering into sterile arguments - If you do not accept the opinion of the other because he disagrees with you - If you defend your personal point of view -

This means that you do not deal objectively and you have a tendency to prove your preference, and you are not based on arguments and proofs independent of your person.

Your reliance on experiences that happened with you and excelled in them does not mean that you were right. This group cannot reach a compromise with it and will not be able to convince it not because you do not have what supports your idea, but because they do not listen to those who disagree with them. If you have to enter into a discussion With someone who thinks himself right, try to take your relationship with him into consideration. Be aware that you may lose him if you argue with him and you do not want to.

Try during the sterile debate but cleverly

I can tell you try. Maybe you can end the discussion without any problem happening between you. This is in the event that your real desire is not to change his point of view, it is not impossible, but it requires you some tricks.

Just be a generous listener, yes listen to every word and watch his movements, pay attention to him and do not distract him, try hard not to interrupt him, do not tell him you are wrong, he thinks that you are attacking him, but say I understand you to absorb the charge of his anger.

Beware of a sarcastic smile or movements that suggest that you are annoyed by his words, which will increase his excitement. Leave him calm down and tell him that you can agree with him on certain points that will make him feel safe, do not offer your opinion before you ask him for an explanation.

Let him exhaust all his arguments

As for the case in which you realize that he is determined on his wrong idea, then withdraw from the discussion before it turns into a conflict and contented himself with saying this your opinion and I respect him so that a wrong concept does not come to his mind and that you are silent because you are convinced of his opinion. In the end you may be surprised that this behavior hides Behind him, fear or psychological accumulations, make this person want to prove himself in this way, so you will pity him.

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