How to resist the "Frustrated Person" inside you?

Many of us are trying to achieve creative dreams, everyone without exception has the passion to create something, painting, novel, sculpture, poetry and other creative templates, but the more we get older and go to a busy working life, the less passion is to achieve what we dream about, and the reason for that He is the frustrated person inside of us, yes we all have many people inside his mind and these people have positive and negative voices and frustrations and one of those negative ones and his mission is to keep you away from your creativity and ambitions.

The frustrated person inside you is lazy, but he will not admit it to you, he only incites you to give up your dreams on the pretext that “you are not qualified or that you are qualified, but you lack something like luck or the necessary training or a better opportunity in education to enter into a spiral of blame after Yourself and on the circumstances and on your parents who were lazy to enroll you in your childhood in training courses that benefit you later as a creative person or because they were not ambitious enough and enter a private school instead of that public school that swallowed up your childhood years and killed your seed of creativity, so you missed the train of creative people, what About your partner? You could have been the number one innovator in your field if you had a partner who supported you.

All are excuses made for you by the “disappointed person” based on your life experience, so it cannot be easily detected, but frustrated, it is time to stop what you are doing ... I will tell you, reader, some advice that makes the “frustrated” inside you stop shouting.

Where does the 'frustrated person' get their power from:

Moments of bullying

It does not matter if the bullying occurred in childhood or in old age, bullying remains bullying regardless of the age of the person exposed to it and its severe psychological impact remains in the memory of the average person, let alone the creator who is looking for the appropriate atmosphere to innovate

You can not

The school, the principal, the doctor at the university, of course, someone told you that you cannot do your creativity because you are simply without talent in their opinion.

Your cruelty to yourself

After you have been bullied, frustrated, and rejected, your role comes in reinforcing what has been said about your inability to do what you desire by repeating all these positions in your mind meekly until you believe that you “cannot because the bullies were right” You allowed them to weaken you, and worse What a person can do is bully himself.

How to resist the "frustrated person" inside you?

1- Resist the resistance

When you decide to get out of your comfort zone to embark on your creative journey, you will find the resistance hiding behind a tree, waiting to catch you to return you to your safe area.

The worst thing about the resistance is that it is invisible, and you will initially think that it is a wise inner voice asking you to slow down or not try because you are not qualified, or that what you will do is normal and many have done it before you, and this is not true, as even repetitive actions have their creative stamp as well.

Cinema around the world has borrowed Victor Hugo's novel Les Miserables several times. In nearly every decade, a movie or series adapted from the same novel was produced. You will find a number of viewers prefer the 1998 film, while others prefer the 2012 version of myself to be the best short series. That was introduced two years ago.

I saw that it is the same story and the same characters, but the creativity of the director, scriptwriter, actors, fashion designers and photographers is different in every movie or series, as each one of them had his own different imprint that carried a new creative vision, although it was one story, he did not say any creator who They worked in one of those copies, No, I will not do it. Others have done it before.

The same is true with many romance and detective novels that revolve around a specific number of plots and characters that are very similar, but we are still reading it and it is still one of the best-selling novels.

There are many forms and the resistance is one

Resistance may come in the form of habits and traditions that denounce and reject what you want to do, or in the form of incomplete homework that you must finish now, or in a frustrating image from the past that sour your ranks, all of this is not true your homework can wait you normally Do not do it on time Why do you want to commit to it now, shut up all the voices that work against you because they are just ghosts so do not let the excuse of time or insufficient money stop you.

Accordingly, you should avoid procrastination, as it and the resistance are cousins, and both work on one goal to keep you from implementing your creative goal.

2- cheat the "frustrated"

Deception is bad, but in this case, and with this person, it is required and useful, and here are some tricks.

You will die soon

We have heard stories and watched movies about that over-normal person who decided to give up his dreams in order to live a safe, routine life, but everything changes when he knows that he has a serious illness that will not keep him alive for a long time, to turn after that into an adventurous person or a philanthropist or A creative force to explode all his creative energies that suppressed him throughout the years of his life

Let me tell you the good thing, you are not going to die, at least not now, but the idea of ​​dying soon will prompt you to think about the fate of your delayed creations, so why not stop the frustrating voice for days and finish your masterpiece.

You deserve a reward

Reward yourself. Self-esteem is necessary for the creator to continue and is a good sleeper for the energy of frustration.

3- Don't be afraid

We all fear, and ordinary fear is a good thing, but to be afraid of implementing your own creativity, I consider it a crime and as if you are afraid of the better and stronger version of yourself, and this is illogical.

In her book "The Great Magic", Elizabeth Gilbert sums up the relationship of the creator with fear in these lines:

“You are afraid that you do not have a talent. You are afraid that you will be rejected, criticized, mocked, misunderstood or completely ignored. You are afraid that there is no market for your creativity, and therefore there is no point in completing the matter. You're afraid someone else has already. Scary, scary, scary. It's all very frightening. ”

This is the case for every creative person, but there are those who are stopped by fear, and there are those who challenge their fear and set off, so coexistence with fear and controlling it is a side effect of the creative process.

4- Respect your creativity

Having an idea for a novel, painting, or play, this is wonderful and special because a large number of people do not have your idea and vision, is it not unfair to cancel or postpone your idea and throw it on the shelf to be covered in dirt?

Do that, no problem, but after years, when you wander around the book fair or go to the cinema and find that the owner of the novel or movie has accomplished an idea that matches your idea or is very similar to it, do not get angry, because you did not respect your creativity from the beginning. You are a creative like him, but the difference between you is that I respect His idea and convey it to the audience while you abandoned it.

So the only way to make your frustration stop bothering you is to start your creative work. Go on and if you are not ready yet, do not let the myth of perfection get you down.

Simply the creative person wanted to put his mark in life to say through it I was here and I will stay even after my body leaves this world.

Remember:

"There are dead people whose words have not died, and there are survivors, for whom we have not heard a voice."

So, be careful to let your creative voice speak for you after you are gone.