Mir Abdul Alim
"Better a poor horse than no horse at all." A hard truth. And accepting this fact, many old parents take shelter in the old age home. The child has nothing more to ask for; The desire to share happiness and sorrow from the side of the darling child in the last age is all that is needed. And with this, every parent keeps counting the days and nights. But many do not seek refuge in that child; Shelter is in a homeless old age home. Even in the corner of a big flat at the last age, there is not enough space for the miserable parents. They are thrown into the hell of the old home. Yet protest does not germinate; The mind does not curse. They are the treasures of the pulse torn. So keep quiet ... keep quiet. But this cruelty only makes them cry ... What kind of destiny is this? I think we are not so much modern selfish!
Older people today have spent all their lives, wealth and resources for their children, nothing for themselves. But in old age they do not get even a small part of it from the child. Sometimes it is seen that the child is struggling to provide for his own family, so the parents feel burdened. He has given his parents a place in the old age home to be a little better with his wife and children. Again, it is seen that the child does not lack money, but the parents do not feel the need to keep it to themselves, or feel burdened. Either they are sending themselves to the old age home, or they are creating a situation by neglecting and abusing their parents to move away from their family. Some even say that even though they do not have enough money, they do not have enough time to take care of their parents or talk to them. So it is better for them to spend time together with others in the nursing home than to be alone with their parents. Once you can send it to the old age home, it is as if all the liabilities are relieved. Thus, parents are being pushed away on various pretexts. Many well-known intellectuals, artists, writers, journalists, teachers, employees who once had a very colorful life, are being forced to become permanent residents of the old age home by being neglected and deprived by their own children in old age. Many children or relatives no longer hear from them. Don't come to see them, don't even send the necessary money or things. Do not take parents home for any occasion or during the joy of Eid. It is also heard that many do not go to see their father or mother on their deathbed or even after they die. The authorities of the old age home make all the arrangements for burial or any funeral, while his beloved children do not keep any news. Maybe that's destiny.
The old age home is the last refuge for the neglected elderly. Their lifelong contribution is given due recognition, last minute respect and security is given in these old age homes. Here they can spend the rest of their days in despair, with dignity, with joy. If necessary, many old age homes have beautiful arrangements for treatment. But in the midst of all the receipts, what is not found here is the closeness of one's own family. In old age people want to be together with their children, grandchildren. Want to share the joy of life with them. This is their only recourse in retirement after a busy life. It can be said that this is why people wait all their lives. Shelter is found in the old age home, companions are found, entertainment is available, but this absolute adorable joy of the last life is not available for which they become emotionally overwhelmed with intense mental anguish and burdened heart at this time. After all, those who send their parents to the old age home against their will are different. But those who, despite having enough resources and time, just neglect and send their parents to the old age home, need to remember that such a time may come in their lives. Parents who once fed their children without eating on their own, may one day treat their own child in the same way when they do not know where they are today. At various festivals, such as Eid, when they do not get a phone call from their children, many people silently cry and sigh. She even cursed the child, wishing that her son would treat her in the same way in the future.
We should remember that the child who is today is the father or mother of tomorrow. As parents become more tender in their old age, it is the child's duty to create a beautiful living environment for them. And to ensure that the address of any parent is never an old age home, care must be taken. A safe and beautiful world must be created for them.
Hart touching article. Nice writing.