Every parent wants their child to grow up well. Proper upbringing is required from infancy for a child to grow up well. If the child does not get proper care in childhood, then the mental development of the child is not smooth. Children who have feelings of happiness in childhood can adapt well to adulthood. Although happiness is relative, every child naturally has some psychological needs in the family. If these needs are met properly, the family can play a role in the proper development of the child.
If these needs of the child cannot be met, then the child cannot be happy. And the child's development is impaired so that the child may behave abnormally or unexpectedly.
Poet John Milton says, “The childhood shows the man; as morning shows the day. ”
So we should know from childhood how to keep the child happy and how to maintain the healthy development of the child and treat the child accordingly.
We said at the beginning Three ‘A’ for a happy child or three ‘S’ of happiness. Now we will try to know about this.
(1) Acceptance
(2) Affection
(3) Achievement
1. Acceptance: Children are happy when they do something good and get recognition from the family for doing it. Positive attitudes work in the child and the child is motivated to do well in the future.
Speaking of purity as an example, Purity's mother was happy to see that Purity had arranged her toys very nicely at the end of the game and caressed and praised Purity. Purity was delighted to be recognized for his good work. And from then on, he puts the toys together at the end of the game every day.
2. Affection: Children who receive affection and love from family and adults are satisfied with themselves and have a positive attitude towards themselves. In this way the healthy development of the child is achieved. Through affection the child can be encouraged to do much better.
For example, I am talking about the little Humaira of the next house. If Humaira doesn't want to listen to her parents, she always rules because her parents don't understand and wants to do everything right with Humaira. But no work was being done in this way but the behavior of little Humaira became a little irritable. When worried parents contact a pediatrician, the specialist tells them to caress and explain to the child. Following this advice, Humaira's parents affectionately asked Humaira to do anything or refuse to do anything.
3. Achievement: Every child wants recognition for his work. They want recognition for the work they do. When a child's good deeds are recognized and affectionately told to refrain from doing bad deeds, the child learns to be socially accepted and socially expected.
Children are happier if adults can do it according to their psychological needs. And learn to walk like adults. Proper development of children is achieved. So we should recognize the work of children and build a loving relationship with them.
Children are just so attention grabber and so sensitive. Other looks normal but they have longings we don't know if we don't try to understand them.