I knew Rezaul Sir. He used to sit on the pond of the hostel and pull the bidi and say :: You understand Rob, you don't love anyone more than yourself, girls are like Phensidyl. Once you fell in love
You have finished yourself.
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At the age of 43, Sir was still not married. He loved a girl from his village. The girl got married while studying at Rajshahi University. The girl, along with her two school-going sons, is now almost middle-aged. Sometimes I would go out for a walk at night. As soon as a small round light flickered in the dark, I understood that Sir was sitting alone eating bidi. He used to call and tell stories. I used to listen to the story of that girl for almost a day. The story of a garden, the story of weeping. I thought after all this time there are people to remember a girl. The girl has a family and a child.
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Just nothing happened sir. He pulls the bidi and gets bored and leaves the wash. Even on a stormy night, I saw him sitting alone in the pond and pulling a bidi.
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One stormy night he was bitten by a snake. I went and saw blood dripping from my ankle. He told us with a cold head :: I saw a snake, a gokhara snake. Now it's the new moon, it's about poison. Don't drag me in unnecessarily. We pulled and he survived the ride. This impossibly miserable man was like a philosopher to many of us. I have remembered some of his words all my life. He used to say: Nature chooses the most fit species, exterminates the unfit. The female hyena chooses the strongest male hyena to survive the battle with all the other males for her. Don't be sad if a girl chooses someone better than you. This is what happens in the other ten species of nature. "This is the Law of natural selection".
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So when I see a girl set her old love affair on fire or choose someone new, I am not at all surprised. There is an incomprehensible selfishness in the whole animal world in mate selection. This selfishness is actually more among the female national animals. They choose the best male partner without any mercy.
I was surprised to see the reaction of the boys.
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When a relationship breaks up, the girl cries loudly. He doesn't know that this haumau cry has saved him, taught him to forget. She begins to forget. Girls love 'All or none Law'.
If you love someone, you love them with all your heart, if you hate them for any reason, you hate them with all your heart. There is an extreme kind of cruelty in your next affair.
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These are not easy for the boy. On the night of the break up he slept very peacefully. I broke up with him to say hi in the morning. He said to himself, 'Nothing will happen', 'There are so many girls like that!' Then little by little he felt bad. Everyday habits hurt him. The phone is old when night comes
The messages burn him. Very slowly he realizes that he has lost a part of his life, without which he is useless. He started fighting to get the lost man back, but it was too late. Until then, he was a stranger to the girl.
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Frustration gripped him. Sedetip's box became his refuge. He does not understand when he becomes an ape without paying attention to himself. Haumau Kannata is the last refuge of man. Bidhata did not give it to him either.
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A few days ago, a boy came to me around midnight
Near (in an emergency). Almost a closed addict. There is no injection vein anywhere in the hand. He injected himself into all the veins.
While studying at Dhaka University, he met a girl on his mobile phone.
Then love, then break up. The incident took place in 2011. The girl is well with her husband and children after marrying an expatriate boy. Just don’t spend this crazy night. Occasionally seen in emergencies. The boy's father is a businessman. The gentleman almost cried and said :: Sir, I have arranged her marriage. Since then it has started again. It was good for a while. I got a job at the Army Telephone Exchange. Doing so will also leave the job.
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Seeing the boy reminded me of Rezaul Sir a long time ago. People do that too !! I do not know how much sin in love, but the atonement is great. Love makes some people indebted, and some people pay for it with life.
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In the age of cheap love, people love one person, and ten people fall in love. These are called crashes. When love runs away, he raises his hand towards them. Even in this era of crashes, there are some seemingly difficult people. They love lock systems. Only knows how to live, does not learn to forget. They may become philosophers, or they may rush to the Emergency in the middle of the night.
-Dr. Abdur Rab