Today Bangladesh is about to become a sanctuary for rapists. Women are being brutally oppressed in cities, villages, mountains, plains, homes, outside, educational institutions. Educated, working, housewife, worker, no matter what their identity, no one is getting rid of the dirty hands of the rapist. At least there is no difference between upper class, middle class and lower class. Victims of torture have the same identity - they are victims of torture. But it is time to find out the cause of this indiscriminate rape. Why are the rapists arrogantly trampling around, why are they repeatedly bleeding this golden Bengal into violent devastation - the time is running out to find the answer to this question.
We want speedy justice and exemplary punishment from the government. As long as there is no exemplary punishment for the rapist, the boasting of these vampires will not stop. If the perpetrators are given appropriate punishment, then they will be afraid to commit another crime next time. In this way, this barbarism can be reduced by ensuring justice.
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But the question is why people are becoming rapists? Why are people with such a distorted mentality seen online and offline as rapists?
First of all, the family has a big role to play in suppressing the racist attitude. The psychology of a child develops from the family environment. The child of a family that grows up seeing abusive and discriminatory treatment of women never learns to respect women. We find evidence of this in every house. Children who grow up seeing abusive and contemptuous attitudes towards women in the family create a kind of negative and misleading attitude towards women. The same is true not only of the male child, but also of the female child.
When a child in the family sees the father to physically and emotionally abuse the mother, the daughter grabs the child - the same thing will happen in her life. It is this sick mentality that makes him grow up to be a normal part of life. And the male child learns that such oppressive treatment of the wife is the rule. At home when a girl and a boy are discriminated against on the food plate, in education, in sports and even in movement; From then on, the boy began to think of himself as a better species. This unjust and wrong thinking teaches him to treat women with contempt and violence.
If we look inside the house with a little more news, the examples we get are like being in a trance. It goes without saying that there are almost no women who have not been sexually harassed by their relatives inside the house. When these bitter experiences of childhood turn into faith, on the one hand the male child becomes accustomed to arbitrary dealings with such women; Similarly, the girl child also took it as her destiny.
So men and women are not in childhood; Rather, it is the family's responsibility to teach both to think and behave equally as human beings. With the right education and environment in the family, the female child will become self-confident, just as the male child will learn to respect women.
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We see women being oppressed in various ways in the society. I always see scenes of physical and mental abuse against women in dramas and movies; But the vision of prevention and remedy can be seen in Gona. I see women being used as products in media advertisements. Even now the language of advertisement has become misogynistic. Insulting remarks against women are also published and disseminated in the language of the media. Let's give a widely studied example. In most of the descriptions of the history of the liberation war, it is said in the media and books, 'in exchange for the honor and dignity of more than two lakh women'. I have seen such statements in the books of many eminent researchers on the Liberation War. Such words are always used in speeches. The question is, does ‘honor’ or ‘respect’ exist in anyone’s body? It is a matter of personality and feeling.
We do not see the horrific oppression of women in the liberation war as a crime of Pakistanis or their accomplices, but as a matter of ‘honor’ or ‘respect’ for women victims of torture. This sick mentality exists at all levels of society. As a result, the issue of the victim of the crime comes up again and again. More important than justice is the narrative or narrative created by society against the victimized woman.
Innumerable such incidents can be shown in advertisements-media-literature-movies. These also act as catalysts in degrading the position of women in the mentality of men. Since mass media or advertising has a relationship with public psychology, it is very important to give us a conscious look at these issues. Media authorities and media workers should discuss this issue immediately. Everyone involved in this industry, from ad creators to companies, should think about it. Time is running out to take immediate action.
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Another big place is how society or its comrades-in-arms view the important participation of women in organizations or socio-political-cultural movements. In almost all the organizations of the society, women are kept as decorations. His talent and ability or ability to lead is despised. Every element of the patriarchal social structure also wants to decide what kind of clothes women should wear. Clothing, occupation, education, choice of movement - in all cases, this patriarchal society points the finger at women. But there is no freedom for women in independent Bangladesh. For each of his actions he has to show a kind of accountable loyalty somewhere. The picture is almost the same for economically independent women.
In various jokes or jokes, women are portrayed as ‘stupid’, ‘idle’, ‘quarrelsome’ or just greedy for sari-jewelry. It is also a process of humiliating women. Seeing these day after day, the mentality of both men and women is now tied in almost the same formula. When I see women being very enthusiastic about this kind of writing or acting, in some cases when they protest it is far from it, but speaks in support; Then there is the big Maya. Women do not even understand that he is being humiliated. That is, the woman herself is a victim of the patriarchal disease prevalent in the society.
From school to university classmates, teachers, tiffin-sellers, peddlers in front of the school or Romeo standing at the gate - female students are being sexually harassed by anyone! The way the school van driver ‘Mama’ Khamokhai grabs the van by the armpits satisfies his perverted desires. Can we as a woman say that we have never been sexually harassed by a relative at home or in an educational institution or anywhere? I didn't get at least one. There must be a discussion in the textbook or teacher's discussion about respecting women.
Women are constantly being discriminated and oppressed in the workplace. In many cases, women and men are getting half the salary with the same skills, time and labor. At work, women are often raped by their male boss or co-worker. On the way to work, from the bus conductor to the passenger - everyone becomes an object of entertainment. Anyone can smile with their hands anywhere on a woman's body if they want to. Those who do not give a polite hand, they get pleasure in their minds by seeing this behavior of others. As a result, no one came and stood by during the protest. On the contrary, women are further despised. At work, not everyone from the liftman to the doorman peon touches, but does not exclude insulting or licking the eyes. Probably not as well as everyone else. However, the ratio is so sky-high that it is not worth mentioning.
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In the mountains, the indigenous people are the weakest. So it is reported that indigenous women are sometimes raped by the army, or by settlers. Sometimes women are taken away, and year after year they are no longer found. We know about Kalpana Chakma. Mountain women or their families are often afraid of not being able to express abuse. Again, many times they go to the police in the hope of trial, but under the influence of influential people, the complaint is not even registered. The oppression of the strong against the weak is the same in the mountains and plains. Sometimes by intimidation, sometimes by village arbitration, sometimes by compromise with money, sometimes by political influence, he closes the mouth of rape and his family.
Another issue is that the religious leaders who demean women are not listened to by people with a healthy mind. What they say against women in the name of religion is clearly a criminal offense. All the ugly things about women that can't even be told. These misogynistic ugly statements in the name of Waz should be stopped immediately. Listening to the statements of these so-called religious leaders, men are further encouraged to insult women. The government should take immediate action to stop these heinous discussions spread on Facebook and YouTube. All the religious leaders who say these things are arrogantly turning their backs on the law and making more ugly statements about women. But why the administration is silent about them, we do not understand.
Rape is a crime that requires the participation of people from all walks of life in the state. Just as it is important to ensure exemplary punishment through law, it is also important to ensure the proper development of education and culture in order to suppress the racist mentality prevailing in the society.