Good people still exist
Despite our challenges, there are still good people around. The print, the electronic, and social media always take pleasure in reporting bad stories about the people ranging from armed robbery to rape. They take little or no interest in reporting good about good people to celebrate them.
But yesterday I met a good Nigerian who deserves some accolades on social media if not on the pages of our dailies. That unique fellow found a lost purse and returned same. The article was lost in the previous night by a relation who went to visit a patient at the University of Ilorin Teaching Hospital. Simply identified as Umm Aishah of Okelele axis in Ilorin, the good samaritan got my number in one of the ID cards in the purse and called me. I was shocked and could not believe I was not dreaming. I quickly gave her number to the owner of the purse to call her. She did and the good samaritan told her to meet her at the Teaching Hospital. Before the meeting, we kept calling her number and she was responding well. But at some point, her number went off. So, we thought she might have been advised by somebody not to return the lost article. Lol and behold! Umm Aishah appeared with her little kid and handed the lost article to the owner! It was a joyous moment for the owner especially when she confirmed that the contents of the purse are intact: a cash of N13,000, Driver's license, two ATM cards, among other valuables.
The amazing part of it was that Umm Aishah didn't see what she did as something special. She must have been trained by her parents / guardian and teachers on Islamic virtues such as honesty and truthfulness.
Given her character, we knew she would reject our a token of appreciation. So we smartly dropped some amount of money with the little Aishah and left. The token whether small or big is still not up to one percent of the reward Allah has deposited in the account of her good deeds. Obviously, Umm Aishah is not rich material but she is well endowed and rich morally.
I decided to share this personal experience in order to celebrate the woman and portray her as a paragon of honesty who must be emulated by all. If all everyone is honest we'll be better off as a people.
May Allah provide Umm Aishah with good things in this world and hereafter. She has by her honesty given us some hope for a better nation. Also she has assured us that despite our challenges, GOOD PEOPLE STILL EXIST.
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Ladies please accept us as we are
The rate of which you're refusing our proposal is very alarming, disheartening and it's mostly because we are poor.
Is it a crime to be an hustler? We know you prefer rich and those abroad to us. Do you want us to die single or you prefer us committing only formication in the name of boyfriends/ girlfriends relationship? We want you to know that we are not lazy but we believe in God and better tomorrow; we believe God will bless us too someday, one-day; we don't want to go into crime to make it faster in life because we know that many men like us committing crimes to make it fast in life is just for you ladies; we know the aftermath of quick riches is bad and because we fear God and accountability, we are pleading, please have mercy on us and make marriage easy, we promise to care for you and make you happy in every way we can, please trust us that tomorrow will be better than today, what if we are rich today and the money finishes, will you leave us again for another rich man? God will reward you and answer your prayers, just have hope and trust in God, we shall hold your hands to Paradise.
Please accept us as we are because we love you as you are.
Is not too late to say sorry for all the things you've done wrong, trust me the word sorry can stop a civil war talk less of a mere fight. The word sorry cures forgiveness.
Greeting elders by bending and kneeling in Islam (accepted or not accepted)
QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS:Recently, a write-up went round in which the writer tried to find justification for prostrating and kneeling down as marks of respect while greeting. The writer said he felt that since the angels were commanded to bow down to Adam and the brothers of Nabiy Yusuf prostrated to him, then it becomes lawful in Islam for the young to bend and kneel down while greeting elders. The writer failed to recall that even though the angels prostrated to Adam, obedience to Allah's command was the centre-point of the entire incident such that if and when the command changed, it obviously becomes incorrect and an act of disobedience to Allah the Almighty to depend on the angels' bowing down to Adam as evidence for such bowing and kneeling down. Similarly, the writer was keen about inferring from the prostration in the story of Nabiy Yusuf that bowing down was at least allowed in the previous nations, but was unknowingly leaving behind a lesson that contradicted the entire essence of his piece: it was a prostration of elders to the young! How does he explain the father and mother of Nabiy Yusuf bowing down to Yusuf along with their children all but one of who are older than Nabiy Yusuf? And even though he only slightly mentioned at the end of the piece that prostrating became prohibited and abrogated, he failed to cite the abrogating hadeeth and other related points of benefit.These and other incongruences occur in the piece deserving that an explanation be given to clarify the preponderant view on this subject. To help highlight the major points on it, I chose to present it in a Q-A format hoping that Allah makes it a means of benefit for us all.1. Is it true that prostrating and bending down before creatures are of 2 kinds with different rulings?Answer 1: Yes; the scholars have mentioned 2 kinds, the prostration of worship (Sujud 'Ibaadah) and prostration of greeting and respect (Sujud Tahiyyah wa Takreem). They unanimously explain that prostrating before anything or person for worship and out of veneration is Major Shirk that expels the individual from the fold of Islam. Hence, prostration for worship and veneration must only be directed to Allah Alone and none else. "Prostration is of two kinds, prostration purely for worship and one of respect. As for the first, it must not be for anyone except Allah." Al-Fataawah (4/361).As for the prostration of greeting, by way of showing respect and esteem, such as the bowing of the angels to Nabiyy Adam as Allah ordered them, that is not from Major Shirk; worshipping Allah and obeying Him required them to bow down to Adam as Allah has commanded. Al-Imam Ibn al-'Arabiy (d. 543H) explained, "The Ummah is agreed that the prostration to Adam was not prostration of worship." Ahkam al-Qur'aan (1/31).Likewise the prostration in the story of Nabiy Yusuf and his family, the scholars affirm by consensus that such prostration was not of worship at all, it was of greeting and honour for Yusuf and such was allowed in their legislation at that time. It was allowed then that elders and kings are so greeted and honoured. Al-Imam at-Tabariy (d. 310H) explained, "Prostrating was a way of greeting among them from the aspects of good manners; not from the angle of a group of them worshipping the other." Tafseer at-Tabariy (6/722) and Tafseer al-Qurtubiy (9/200).(الاستعانة بفهم العلماء دليل إلى دليل)So, prostrating and genuflecting to the creatures are of 2 kinds; one which constitutes Major Shirk and is absolutely prohibited, and the other which was allowed in the previous legislations.2. So, should we still prostrate and bend to greet to show respect and esteem?No, the Muslim should not, because as al-Imam Abubakr al-Anbaariy (d. 328H) explained, "the people at that time would greet one another by prostrating and bowing down, but the Messenger of Allah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) forbade it..." Zaad al-Maseer (2/474).Al-Imam as-Sam'aaniy (d. 489H) said, "The people of knowledge said: it was allowed in the past nations, then Allah the Exalted annulled that in this Shari'ah and replaced it with the greetings of salam." Tafseer as-Sam'aaniy (2/67).Al-Imam al-Bagawee (d. 516H) said, "That was permissible in the previous nations, but became abrogated in this Shari'ah." Tafseer al-Bagawee (2/378).Al-Imam al-Qurtubiy (d. 671H) affirmed, "Allah has abrogated all that in our own Shari'ah and made the speech (i.e., saying the salam) to replace bowing down." Tafseer al-Qurtubiy (9/200).The narrations below evince the above affirmations: A. Anas bin Malik reported that the Messenger (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) said,لَا يَصلُح لِبشرٍ أن يَسجُدَ لبَشَرٍ؛ ولَو صلح لبشرٍ أن يسجُدَ لبَشَرٍ لَأَمَرتُ المَرأَةَ أن تَسجُدَ لزَوجِها..."It is not proper for a human being to bow down to another human being. If it were proper for a human being to bow down to another, I would have commanded the woman to bow down to her husband..." (collected by Ahmad 3/158 and others and graded authentic by al-Albaaniy, Shuayb al-Arnaoot and others). Al-Imam Al-Mundhiree (d. 656H) had classed it Jayyid (good).This hadeeth is reported from five different companions of the Prophet, radiya Allahu anhum. See: Irwaa al-Galeel (7/54-58).B. Anas bin Malik - may Allah be pleased with him - reported that a man asked saying, "Messenger of Allah! أَحدُنَا يَلْقَى صَدِيقَه؛ أَيَنحَنِي لهُ؟ قال: لاOne of us would meet his friend; should he bend to greet him?" Allah's Messenger (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) replied, "No!" (Collected by Ahmad 2/198, At-Tirmidhi 2728, Ibn Maajah 3702 and others. The wording here is of Ibn al-Jawziy in his Tafseer 2/474 - graded Hasan by an-Nawawiy in Al-Adhkar pg 267, Ibn Hajar in Fath al-Baari 11/66, al-Albaaniy in as-Saheehah 160, Saleem al-Hilaaliy in his checking on Al-Adhkaar 2/583, Hamzah Aal-Zayn in his checking on Musnad Ahmad 11/75 and others).Al-Imam Abubakr al-Anbaariy (d. 328H), al-Qurtubiy (d. 671), Ibn Taimiyyah (d. 728H), Ibn al-Qayyim (d. 751H) and others have depended on the hadeeth in their various explanations on the subject.(والتأويل فرع التصحيح)Its meaning is also corroborated in the first hadeeth above.Quite badly, the author of the piece finding justification for bending and kneeling down while greeting claimed that the hadeeth "has been meticulously verified to be weak" and gave references for the "meticulous" study. I was surprised however, that he would refer to the 4-line, single paragraph mention of the hadeeth in Tuhfat al-Ahwadhee as the "meticulous" study that brought him to such conclusion. Even though he cited Silsilat as-Saheehah in which al-Imam al-Albaniy gave detailed explanations on the various routes and wordings of the hadeeth and concluded that it is at least "Hasan", good, suitable for proof, he still held the opinion of weakness!C. Jabir bin Abdillah reported that Allah's Messenger (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) fell ill and so, he led them in Prayer sitting down while they all were standing. When he noticed they were standing, he gestured that they should rather sit down and they all did. When he had ended the Prayer he said,إِن كِدتُم آنِفًا لتَفعلُون فِعل فارسَ والرُّومِ، يَقُومون على مُلوكِهم، وهُم قُعُودٌ، فَلاَ تَفعَلُوا... "A while ago you were almost going to behave like the Persians and Romans; they would stand up before their kings who would be seated. Do not do that..." (Collected by Muslim 933, Abu Dawud 606, Ibn Maajah 1240 and others). The point here is that the Messenger (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) prohibited them to stand during the Prayer while he was seated in order to show difference with the non-Muslims who would do that by way of showing respect for their rulers and elders. Then it is certainly prohibited to prostrate and bend down outside the Prayer by way of showing respect to rulers and elders. See al-Fataawah 1/377.Hence, even though prostrating to greet by way of showing respect was allowed in the past legislations, it has been abrogated in the Shari'ah of Islam.But in the bid to find grounds for an annulled and abrogated act, the writer of the piece cited a narration regarding Umar, and another about Abubakr (may Allah be pleased with them). On each of the separate occasions in the 2 hadeeths, each of them noticed displeasure in the Messenger's countenance over certain statements and actions of the people. In the case of Umar (Sahih al-Bukhaari nos. 93, 504), it said,فَبرَكَ عُمَرُ على رُكْبتَيهAnd in the report regarding Abubakr (al-Bukhaari 3661), it said,فَجَثَا على رُكبَتَيْهِThe author interpreted the two expressions to mean that each of them knelt down before the Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wasallam). He inferred that even though they both had knelt down to appease and apologize to the Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wasallam), he "thinks" they serve evidence that kneeling down to greet is allowed in Islam.This thinking of this writer is wrong on 2 main grounds:A. Neither Abubakr nor Umar was greeting the Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) in what they did. They had greeted him and remained with him before the actions. How do the actions form evidence for kneeling down to greet when they had actually greeted him and remained with him before the actions?! None of those who collected these 2 hadeeth in the books of Hadeeth Collection had placed any of the 2 narrations under the Chapter on Greeting. Al-Imam al-Bukhaari cited the hadeeth of Umar 11 times, and that of Abubakr twice in Saheeh al-Bukhaari alone under different chapters. None of this came under the manners of greeting because the actions of Umar and Abubakr given a balanced consideration has nothing to do with greeting. Is it from scholarship to squeeze out evidence for our own desires even when all other indicators point in the opposite direction?! The "thinking" of the author of the said piece was that as long as they did something before the Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) then the same thing becomes allowed to show respect while greeting. So, if a man ate food in the presence of the Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wasallam), it would serve evidence that from the manners of showing respect while greeting is to eat food?! This is clearly wrong.B. The expressions in both hadeeths mean that they sat down resting on their knees. Both (برك) and (جثا) are words that are synonymously employed to express a mode of sitting down in which the individual rests on the knees similar to the Iftiraash sitting posture during Salat. Both Abubakr and Umar actually sat down while resting on the knees. The same words also describe the camel's falling down and resting on its knees; the "knees" and "rest" are key components in the meanings of both words. The "kneel down" translation does not appropriately convey the meanings of these expressions. See: Fath al-Baari (7/32), Umdat al-Qaariy (2/74), Al-Ifsaah fee Fiqh al-Logah (133) and others.Unfortunately, the writer cited an unsubstantiated version of the story of Umar that he even prostrated to kiss the feet of the Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wasallam). The report occurs in Tafseer at-Tabariy (4/729) and is weak and unsuitable as evidence; it is Mursal (a form of broken link) and has a reporter (Asbat bin Nasr) in its chain who is a reporter with some weakness. See: Tafseer at-Tabariy (4/729) - Darul-Hadeeth Print.3. How then has Islam taught us to greet?Allah the Mighty has replaced prostrating and bowing down with the greetings of salam, the greetings upon which the angels will receive the souls of the true believers when they depart this world (an-Nahl vs 32), by which the angels of the Paradise shall welcome them from its various entrances into the everlasting home of bliss (az-Zumar vs 39), (ar-Ra'd vs 24), the greetings with which they will be received on the day they shall see their Lord, Allah the Almighty (Al-Ahzab vs 44).سلام قولا من رب رحيمSo, here in this world, the greetings of salam became a duty upon any two or more Muslims which they must discharge when they meet or just even speak. It consists of 3 expressions each of which carries 10 rewards (and the extent of each reward is known to Allah Alone)! They are taught to spread the greetings and assured of love among themselves in return, and that the young should first greet the older person, the person upon a ride first greets the person sitting, the person on foot first greets the person sitting down and the best of two people walking starts the greetings of salam. The one who comes to a gathering says it as he joins the gathering and the person leaving it departs upon the greetings of salam. The group of fewer persons will first say salams to the larger group. Even when he enters his home at night, the Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) would give the greetings of salam in a way that it wouldn't awake anyone asleep, but the person who was awake would hear it. Even the individual upon Salat may be given the greetings of salam; the Messenger (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) taught us how the praying person will reply. From the manners of the greetings of salam is handshakes. Authentic narrations abound in the books of hadeeth regarding the Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) shaking the hands of his companions and them shaking themselves. Handshake in the subsequent generations is well-known and so widely reported. Al-Imam an-Nawawiy captures it, he said, "It is an agreed upon practice..." Al-Adhkar pg 265. Hence, greeting in Islam is as the Messenger of Allah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) had said:"When a believer meets another believer, says the (greetings of) salam to him and holds his hand in handshake, their sins fall off them as the leaves fall off the trees." (Collected by at-Tabaraaniy in al-Awsat 1/84 - graded authentic by al-Albaniy in Saheeh at-Targeeb no. 2720). See: Tuhfat al-Ahwadhiy 7/161. So, no one is taught or commanded to bow down to greet the other as was in the past nations; bowing down and prostrating had rather been cancelled and prohibited in the Ummah of Muhammad (sallallahu alayhi wasallam). 'Adiyy bin Hatim - radiya Allahu anhu - was a companion of the Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) who had been a Christian before he accepted Islam. He said regarding the prostrating and bowing down to greet by way of showing respect, كانَتْ تَحِيَّةَ من كان قَبلَكُم، فَأعطَاكُمُ اللهُ السَّلامَ مَكَانَهَا"It was the greeting of those before you, and then Allah gave you the salams in its place." (Tafseer Ibn Abee Hatim 11995 - and it's chain is authentic). 'Adiyy bin Hatim - radiya Allahu anhu - was certainly not saying that from his own personal opinion.Qatadah bin Di'amah - may Allah shower blessings on him - was a student of the companions, he said regarding bowing and kneeling down to greet,كانت تَحِيَّةَ مَن كان قَبْلَكُم، كان بها يُحَيِّي بَعضُهم بَعضًا، فأعْطَى اللهُ هذه الأمَّةَ السَّلامَ، تَحِيةَ أَهلِ الجَّنَّةِ، كَرَامَةً مِن اللهِ تبارَك وتعالى عَجَّلَها لَهم، ونِعمَةً مِنهُ "It was the way of greeting among those who came before you; they would do that to greet themselves, but Allah gave the greetings of salam to this Ummah, the greetings of the people of Paradise, as honour from Allah the Blessed and Exalted and favour from Him. He hastened it for them." (Collected by at-Tabariy in his Tafseer with an authentic chain). See: Tafseer Ash-Shawkaaniy. 4. How about respect and honour for elders in Islam?It is worthy of note that the Messenger (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) repeatedly ordered the young to respect the elderly. He - sallallahu alayhi wasallam - warned that the young who wouldn't respect the older ones has strayed from his noble line of conduct. The books of Sunnah relate that the young should first extend the greetings of salam to the elderly; undoubtedly by way of showing respect and due honour for age and even status. Our mindset while relating with elders and our choice of words must show no less than esteem for the elderly. The Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wasallam)'s saying:كَبِّر الكُبرَ(Exalt the elders) is well-known, and a part of respect for Allah is respect for an old Muslim. So as Muslims, we must respect our elders and honour them with the sincere intention of earning beautiful rewards from Allah in this world and hereafter.(ولَا طاعةَ لمَخلُوقٍ في مَعصِيَةِ الخَالق)5. How do we address complaints from parents and relatives about people's greeting others without bending and prostrating?Firstly, it's necessary to mention that our situation is as Al-Imam al-Qurtubiy worrisomely described about 800 years ago, "This bending and squeezing up oneself (while greeting) which has been lifted off us has become a custom in Egypt and in other non-Muslim communities. Likewise their standing (to greet) one another so much that for some of them, if standing up was not done (as he approached), he detests it as if he is not shown any regards or that he lacks any esteem. Similarly, when they meet themselves, they bow down (to greet) themselves as a continous custom and an established inherited practice especially when meeting rulers and heads. They deviated from the Prophet’s lines of conduct and turned away from it." (Tafseer al-Qurtubiy 9/201)Hence, the "religious teachers" have the duty to explain the religion to the elderly and the young who both have the duty to recognise Allah's limits and not violate them.That violations of an injunction of the Shari'ah is widespread should not push the the teachers to begin to bend the rules to sooth the same people they're employed to teach and guide upon the religion. Allah the Mighty says, قل لا يستوي الخبيث والطيب ولو أعجبك كثرة الخبيث، فاتق
What a world. A world where people are killing one another for money,power even girls. A world where the poor are becoming poorer while the rich are getting richer, what a world. A world where brother denies brother just to get fame. A world where a country is rich and his masses are poor. What an invaluable world, what an imbalance world, what a zigzag world.
Writers
Let me start by saying........ Writers are the pillars of the world. Becoming a writer is not an easy job. It involve time a lot of it. Some believe it's a gift from above, a gift from God. Yes it is but not common.
Before becoming a good writer, these are involved:
You must be of good memory
You must be a good learner
A good thinker
And a good reader
Practice makes perfection. The more you write the more better you become. You don't need to be %100 perfect before you become a writer. Start from something, write on any topic and let the readers correct you. Some will praise you while some will discourage.It takes courage and boldness to write an article or a novel so don't be discouraged and don't be angry because a good writer never gets angry rather use all the comments as a stepping stone.
The problem nowadays was, upcoming writers never get a chance why because they're view readers left. Take this platform as an example: As the name implies "read.cash" not "write.cash", if am not mistaken read.cash means " read and get paid" the question is are readers getting paid? No, that is why everyone here wants to be a writer because that's the only way you get paid, that's why there are much spam. I think if something can be done about this, the good readers will be back and not the "sub me I sub you".
Giv*e it all you got don't back down,don't be discourage,remember you can achieve it only if you set your mind on it.*
A suspect is yet a criminal not until proving guilty by the court of law.
Good or Bad
There is reward for everything. When you do good, you'll be rewarded likewise when you do bad you'll be rewarded. But the rewards kind of differ.
There's an adage that says: "You will not plant Groundnut and Harvest mango". Choose the right path. Its good to be good and everyone knows that. When you do good, you will want people to see you for that good but if it is bad,you do it hidden. Even religiously been good is the key for making heaven.
When you help someone it is believed that you'll receive that favour back,it may not be to you directly but your family will surely have it like wise the other aspect.
Note: Not everyone can be a good person and not everyone can be bad at the same time since the opposite of good is bad. The world is in pairs, we don't get to choose which side we want to belong to but we have the power to change each side we find ourself.
Tell someone to tell someone not to tell someone their secret, mouth closed at times saves life.
The beauty of Art
Have you ever feel moved by the beauty of nature. All things bright and beautiful all creatures great and small, all things bright and wonderful, the Lord has made them all. Art is just one way in appreciating the beauty of nature. It also a means of communication, expression, and so on. Check this out and tell me what you see.
Silent night
A brighter day ahead
Reflection
Come with me
Loneliness
Lost
Give your comments guys.
Plan your future for a smooth journey, there is no finish without a start. It never too late,start the plan today
choose your bedroom
Among all this bedroom photographs which one do you think is the best. Let see how your bedroom looks like.
This one is call the beauty of life.
My Baby is beautiful
My Dady is home
The Agro Man
Mr White
The Swimmer
Choose the one you like and give it a name.
Life is about give and take. You have nothing now and that your friend is giving it to you whenever you ask him. Your time will come when your friend will need you,make sure you do thesame as him.
Just imaging your life the way you want it then pray over it then have that believe that's going to come true. With God everything is possible.
Dr Sharaf (social media and the women)
A most read: How some marriage has collapse due to social media and the solution to it.
*Questioner*; A man is suspecting his wife of undue access to males due to her attachment to the social media; can he check her phone to ascertain if she engages in chatting with men on the social media?
*Dr Sharaf*: Firstly, between the couple, the husband is permitted to monitor the behavior and character of his wife because if the wife behaves in such a way that the husband is not approved off (and he shows a lassitude towards her), it could (prevent) him from entering Al-Jannah.
If a woman is committing Zina while in her matrimonial house and the husband is not aware or the husband later knows and does nothing about it, it could hinder him from entering Al-Jannah.
However, the basic ruling is that your wife is not among those you accuse of infidelity when you've not caught her (in the act) and you have not seen any traces (of it) from her.
If marital relationships were to be built on accusing women of Zina, no woman will remain with a man.
If therefore she does not commit any atrocity such that she does not cheat on you, then don't bother otherwise you have the right to question whom among the men she talks to via the new media.
That is the reason we do say; O Muslim women, fear Allaah; the new technological advancement you see about is a two-edged knife.
The media could be used in a good way and in a bad way. The latter seems to be more than the former. This is with regards to the social media.
Social media is very dangerous for women, because the (evil) principle "what is sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander" is what is affecting most (women).
How can my husband be using social media and I can't use it?
You are a woman and you are under (the roof of) someone.
Some men act crazily and may just decide to divorce their wives without any reason while all efforts to save the marriage from collapse will be fruitless,. What if a valid reason exists?
The Yorubas would say: "a pity for he who is to be roasted yet is rubbing inflammables over his body." But in this case, the (woman) now sits beside the paraffin. If you bring some fire close to the paraffin, she will be engulfed in the inferno.
For this reason, going about with phones (is frown at), only ordinary phones will be allowed lest you (as a woman) begin to chat, open a Facebook page and start to add people..
She would be sending messages and friend requests to people that she wants to have as friends. You want to have friends?! A housewife?! So pathetic!
Just as a man will also open his Facebook page and he sees her face and as a result add her that she is looking for a friend.
AkramakumuLlaah! Is it clear? Is she married or not?
It has now gotten to a stage that people are now taking housewives as friends by sending them messages.
They are now telling her her face is beautiful, her husband may not have told her such in recent times) because he is the serious type (who may not have time to check her social media account). Such a husband is busy looking for what the family will eat; whether her face is shining or not does not concern him. The wife may say, Ehn, you did not even look at my face. The husband would reply. I did not look at it, leave me for now (because he's thinking about how to take care of the family).
But those scavengers outside (on social media) who want to destroy you will be the one to ask "what are you applying to that face?
She would reply, why are you asking?
He would reply, I really like it (your face) just as that language you usually say.
Then the wife will start to think that since her husband married her, he has never said such to her and men who are better than him have already commended her. That's how her matrimonial home would crumble.
By Allaah, a lot (of homes have crumbled as a result of this), it is sufficient to organize public lecture on the tribulations women have caused themselves as a result of using the social media - but despite that we would not do it. So don't deceive yourself that (we would do it in) in Hudan wa bushrah. That is it.
Akramakumullaah!
There are lots of evils in it. Many will tell people this is how my house crumbled as a result of using the social media, this is how he divorced his wife because of the social media. This is how her husband divorced her because of the social media.
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That is the reason we said - but many women do not like to hear it - that women should look for those small phones like Nokia-made ones that have long lasting battery, to receive (only) calls. "Hello! My Husband, where are you?, Hello! Where have you got to now?
By Allaah, By Allaah, that is the peace: you won't have any problem. But you are the one they saw smiling here, you will soon lose your matrimonial home. That's it.
For the above, it is not permissible for Muslim women to chat with strange men because it is evil.
What do you want to discuss with a strange man? When you are not sick, you see a lot of men in your society before you marry your husband. He is yours. Be pleased with him.
Beware of the consequences of your actions. That's it.
Indeed those you are chatting with are yet to know you, once they know you, you would realize that what you would encounter will be worse than you have been facing because once you get into their trap, you will regret your action.
Trust
Trust yourself on whatever you laid your hand upon,never put your trust on some friends who disguise to be your friend. Am nothing saying you shouldn't trust your friend but know kind of person you'll trust. Nothing is impossible if you set your mind straight, believe is the key to open the impossible.
Remember, you are here for a purpose, live for that purpose and achieve that purpose. Trust no one but yourself.
Don't get fooled, use your brain you've get to think by yourself. It better to follow your mind than getting advice from someone whose prob is even more greater than yourself. So use your medullar oblongata.
If you want to win,you will have to play your game nicely. Game ain't for losers they're for the winners.
When we are Young
We all pass through this stage but the way we live it differs. This happens to be the best stage in human cycle coz you got to do whatever you like and no one question you for it coz they believe you're still young. When you want something and your parent didn't get it for you,just cry over it and its done. That was if you ain't an African.
When we are young, we do all sort of dangerous play all in the name of enjoyment not knowing we are kill ourselves bit by bit. It believed that when young death run far away from you but as soon as you get older,it started looking for you. Imaging those born in the ghetto or those in the motherless home, how do they live theirs,it hard to say.
My best friend was from the street. He was abandoned when he was three years old with no one to care for him. He spend his own youth all by himself without any parental care. As he always say "Life isn't fair when you're young".
Our best story often comes from when we are young, so spend your youth wisely.
Poverty is the greatest disease ever but can be cured if find the proper medication. It can't be cured in the hospital,only you have the power to.
WE ARE ALL BORN WITH IT, THEY WAY WE CONTROL IT IS WHAT MATTERS. Hmm FEAR
FEAR is an inbuilt device that shot down the body system when it undergo a certain shock.
ON and NO were of the same letters but they ain't the same meaning so NAME and AMEN. Just because you bare the same name doesn't meaning you're gonna be rich the same way. Don't imitate just follow your own rule.
Keep going on don't relent,for you are almost their. Have faith in Him.
Time is money,spend your time wisely.
No knowledge is waisted. Knowledge is power. Knowledge is freedom. Knowledge is everything. Never stop learning coz the more you learn the more you know.
At the end of every tunnel there is always a light. No matter hard things are for you today,don't give up its going to be okay.
O Allah! Grant health to my body,health to my hearing and health to my sight. There is no deity except you.
Focus on where you're going,keep your eyes open coz not all road are smooth. I pray we arrive our destination safe and sound.
Who is the Law in marriage?👫
The most simple definition of a marriage is the union between a man and a woman but in real life there is more to it than that.
My own definition states thus:
marriage is the addition of love,trust,happiness, joy,wealth and the subtraction of sorrow,loneliness, sadness in the life of two opposite sex planning to become one.
NOW TO THE LAW
When you marry a woman,you have your hands into many laws.
Her mother become your mother in-law.
Her father become your father in-law.
Her brother become your brother in-law.
Her sister become your sister in-law.
Her families becomes your in-law.
Now the question is : WHOM DO YOU THINK YOUR WIFE IS?
SHE'S THE LAW.
Obey the law and PEACE is yours.
@Rioelder
