Some say that their purpose in dating is marriage and some will say for the sake of happiness.
Personally, both have a point. Who wants to waste time investing to a person who's not gonna be in their lifetime? Who wants to stay with all the red flags?
They say that people who are dating to marry tends to tolerate mistreatment from their partners because they'll keep staying despite everything for the sake of the future they've dream of.
However some also say that people who date to be happy tends to leave and give up a relationship once the flaws show up, once the phase of imperfections and arguments come.
Actually, you don't have to change your mind on how you want your purpose is when the love you have is genuine.
If you wanna date to marry then go ahead but don't tolerate those who don't treat you right. Date to marry but also be brave to not settle for less. You can have this purpose while also considering yourself as well as your happiness.
If you wanna date to be happy then go ahead, just do not enter a relationship that you are not ready for. It takes more than happiness, it takes more than love itself. Never use one person to be happy then call that love because if one day you're finally happy then the job is done and that person will be left alone because you won't feel the same. A genuine love with this purpose does not only mean YOUR happiness but as well as your partner. That consistent urge and acts to make them happy, that's the one and eventually you'll be at your goal.
Once you genuinely love someone it's impossible not to see a future with them for at least once. A genuine love stays and never fades, it might not be soon due to stormy phases in relationship but a genuine one will always be the haven of any troubles and doubts within.
Never make someone feel that they are loved then leave them, that's why you must make sure because hurting one's heart is a deep pain that who knows when it'll heal, that who knows how it can be healed. It's a soul-shattering thing to do to someone who has pure intentions of loving you. And of course there are cases that are the exemptions.
Imagine a pure hearted one that is silently enjoying its life alone then you came, made it fall then leave them with traumas and issues to deal with it alone?
A genuine one will never run from difficulties, if he/she wants to fix then you don't have to repeat it again and again.
Do not ignore the toxic signs, don't give them countless chance to act right because in the end it'll be the same reason why you have to leave and with much more pain.
There's no such thing as finding the right or being with the wrong person.
The right person for you that you deserve is created with it's own will.
A song recommendation of mine: I know I deserve more, I know I gave my best...I won't regret and it's not my lost but still still I miss those days
