Goodbyes?

July 24, 2022

Adulthood comes with many new exciting starts. Maybe lots of us knew how to start doing things but do you know about how to end things after year of growing and learning? Saying goodbye is a difficult thing that adults sometimes have to do. So how to say goodbye?

A big part of many life transitions is saying goodbye to people whether you're changing jobs, are graduating or moving to another place to study. It can be really hard to say goodbye because it feels really final and uncertain. So what are dofferent tactics you can use when you're handling a big change?

The easiest way to bid farewell if you're pretty awkward about goodbyes is these days called ghosting in the dating world. It means you just suddenly cut off contact with the person you were seeing but ghosting also applies to friendship. Goodbyes as well ghosting is definitely the way you want to go if you're looking to avoid any hard conversations or emotions. Gross right? Ghosting isn't the greatest option if you want to be considerate of other people's feelings. But if you're in a situation where you feel like you're in danger, your safety is always going to trump someone else's emotions and you should never feel bad about ghosting in those situations. But if you're not in danger, I encourage saying goodbye even if you feel weird about it. It's healthy to acknowledge it if the change might be a little sad and it's also okay to acknowledge that the change is great and that you're ready for a new chapter.

Sometimes one of the best ways to say goodbye to a big group of people is to host a party before you hit the road. Going-away party can help keep the mood light and it can be really fun to see everyone one last time. It's also a time saver if you're busy getting ready for your life change and maybe can't see every person individually. The disadvantage to a big party is that sometimes you don't get to have quality time with everyone one-on-one but it's up to you. You can also reach out to friends and schedule get-togethers individually. When you're seeing someone for what might be the last time in a long time or ever, there can be a lot of pressure to make the goodbyes. A really like significant moment I can think of some graduation parties that were way more stressful than they need it to be just because we felt like they had to be perfect. But really, it doesn't have to be a big deal. Sometimes you're saying goodbye to your friends or family in the middle of a hectic moment and you just want to get on the road. It's okay to admit in that moment that you're not your best self and you can't wait to talk to them once the move is done and everything is settled.

Saying goodbye doesn't have to be as permanent these days as it used to be. Long ago, saying goodbye meant that you can maybe send letters or Telegraph's to stay in touch. Saying goodbye is pretty different these days because we're always just a cell signal away from being able to talk to anyone we want. When you're saying goodbye, you might want to set up ways to stay in touch ahead of time like you can plan a regular zoom meetup or facetime call or text each other, send silly snapchats. Digital communication isn't a replacement for senior friends but it can really help you stay connected to each other's daily lives. There's also something to be said for mailing postcards back and forth. It can feel really meaningful to have a physical object sent by someone you care about.

So whenever you feel that its difficult to say goodbye, there are some tactics not just what I've wrote on this article. And when you find it, maybe you can share it too by leaving a comment on this.

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