Your beauty is not my beauty, when accepting yourself is not as easy as they say

About the definition of beautiful, it's a lie if you're in good shape.

I, you, and maybe not a few of them out there are already trapped in social standards. That beauty is white skin, small and tall slender body, chubby cheeks, straight hair and other appearance characteristics that are beautiful to the eye. While you are not, you feel far from the criteria.

Now you are pensive, standing staring at the reflection of the mirror that is right in front of you. Your mind says this, my skin is not white and my body is disproportionate. Then then you turn on your cellphone which turns out to be still opening one of your social media accounts, a new post appears on the top homepage. Your fingers are moved to tap the screen to clearly see the post. It only takes a glance for you to be able to take a comparison picture between your face and a photo of a woman who looks good with make-up and the clothes she is wearing.

One sentence escapes your mouth, she is beautiful. Until it leads you to the conclusion that you are not comparable to him, that you are not comparable to all of them.

Your eyes slowly begin to dim. The fact that you are not beautiful, managed to make your guts shrink instantly. You feel as if you've fallen to the point where you don't have the courage to just stand up. For you again, you think that you do not deserve to stand with a smile of pride for your appearance and other things that you have.

Suddenly, you are reminded of someone's words.

Stop comparing your life with other people's lives. Everything has been arranged by God. You should be grateful and don't need to worry

Secretly you smile sadly, it's so easy for people to talk like that. It may be true that one can never understand another's condition unless one is also in that person's condition. It's so easy that it makes you wonder, how light is his tongue when he says that sentence.

But actually you yourself also understand that everything is not about a beautiful and beautiful face. Through several self-improvement books that you have recently enjoyed reading for the sake of sanity, you begin to open up to various things that you just realized about how important self-acceptance is.

But still. Even though you know about it, it still feels difficult for you. Regarding looks, you understand that it's not the determining factor. There are so many things that can give meaning to each individual person. But on the other hand, you can't deny the fact that beauty always has its own place.

Now in the midst of your confusion about the definition of beauty, about you who don't fit the criteria for good looking, about you who are still trapped in comparisons of life with other people, about you who are starting to gradually understand your own condition and try to embrace and accept yourself as you are.

You still find it a difficult task, and I understand your position. But there's a tinge of relief when you start to open up to your feelings. Yes, exactly. When you are reading this article, at this very second you have begun to accept all the emotions that you have been holding back and that make you often depressed alone.

You are still stuck with the definition of beautiful, but the good news is that you are starting to understand that accepting one's condition is one's success in finding happiness in life.