We all would have had some situations in our lives once we had been overly anxious. If we recall what actually happened, little question we might realize that at the time of the incident, we weren't on top of things of ourselves. It would also probably be true that if we had kept cool rather than being anxious, we might have addressed things during a better manner.
There are some memories we have of people, perhaps of ourselves, who fared badly in a game or in a race because he was not cool. How about the footballer who missed the goal because he was anxious rather than cool, or the badminton player who lost because he was not cool or the man who failed his driving test because he wasn't cool ? These are common occurrences. The more serious ones are like when a person fails to get a job because he is not cool during an interview.
According to experts, a person is anxious because he is afraid that he might fail. Then he fails because he is anxious. This is a vicious circle. The solution seems to be that an individual features a better chance of succeeding in anything if he's confident of success; since that confidence would keep him cool. To get to rock bottom of this, it's necessary to ascertain why an individual is afraid to fail. The obvious answer seems to be that he has failed before in the same or in a similar situation and is afraid that it would happen again.
The solution seems to be obvious: To cure the spell of hysteria , the person shouldn't consider the days he failed but of the days he succeeded. This may not be as easy because it sounds. The fact is that a person is anxious by habit and what needs curing is the habit itself.
An excellent and practical technique has been suggested by some experts. In order to keep cool, a typically anxious person should list down all the failures (or lack of successes) in his life. For each of those he should find a neighborhood of success - preferably greater than the world of failure. For example. the footballer who is anxious whenever he's taking a penalty kick (probably because he had missed on other occasions), should consider the days when he had scored a really difficult goal. What happens is that he programs his mind to consider the successes he has had whenever the thought of failure involves his mind. He uses the negative to trigger the positive. If he does this several times on his own, he will develop a positive attitude. As soon as he develops that, he's coolness itself.
One question arises immediately : What if an individual has never known success within the area he wants to ? The experts say that this is easily resolved. The same result are often achieved by just pretending the great experiences. It seems that the mind cannot tell the difference between a true experience and an imagined one. In other words, you'll benefit by imagining goodies happening to you. Constant practice is important so as to stay cool. After continual practice - perhaps for a couple of months - an individual becomes cool. It is assured by practitioners that keeping cool will give us a richer and better life.
