Mon.11.2021 2:17pm In this article, I'm going to talk about a TED talk video titled “Connected, But Alone? By Sherry Turkle. She explained how technology has impacted our lives to the point where we fear face-to-face communication. Like how people want to be together but they always end up looking at their cell phones. She also mentioned how communication lost its essence over time. I agree with everything she said in the speech because I believe in the saying "communication is the key to any healthy relationship
Connected, But Alone? By Sherry Turkle
There are things best to hear in person. When we talk to other people via chat, we may never know their true intentions. For example, saying "sorry" to someone. How do I know if he is sincere or not? I don't see what they look like when they say it. Eye contact is one of the most important things when it comes to communication. Eyes never lie. If someone isn't telling the truth or lying about something, you can tell by looking in their eyes.
Honestly. A lot of people prefer personal confrontations rather than chats. When Sherry Turkle was asked what was wrong with having a conversation, she replied "It happens in real-time and you can't control what you say." and this is where people start to feel lonely but fear intimacy. They are more concerned with the image they have to show that person, so they prefer to text as they can control what they say which is good but it loses the essence of communication.
People meet but are more focused on their phones. My friends and I get this moment every month so that we can catch up on what's going on in our lives. There was a point when we went out to eat and put all of our phones in the middle of the table (because some of them are still playing i.Mobile Legends mobile games) the rule was "the first person to put the phone on. phone to the table we will pay for our food unless it is an emergency. It went well and it went well. With this game, we communicated effectively and listened intently.
We called this game "let's talk like we're in the 90s" because in the 90s people got together and interacted with each other. It saddens me when I visit a coffee shop and I see couples or groups of friends waiting for their food, but instead of communicating with each other, they're more involved in what they see on their social media Listen in.
Learn when to stop. An example is when I'm talking and the person I'm talking to is too busy with her phone. If you were in my shoes, you'd be feeling unwanted and even bored, right? Even during meetings, some people keep texting and miss the gist of the convention itself. There is no communication because it is only a connection to social networks. People are easily distracted by smartphones. Sherry Turkle also said that "human relations are rich, messy and demanding".
This is one of the reasons people prefer communication connections. Because the communication is happening in real life and the text just opens the phone and sends a message. But people need to know that communication doesn't start until the phone starts talking and listening to itself. It should be reciprocal. Make people feel that you care. Make them feel that you are interested.
In conclusion, people should know their limits when it comes to using cell phones. Communication is the key to any healthy relationship, so hang up and start having a conversation. Eye contact is very important. Mutual interest. You speak, I listen. I speak, you listen. Don't make people seem unwanted or boring just because you keep looking at your cell phone. He should communicate in person by text message.