Sometimes an apology is appropriate, and sometimes it is not. For example: Sorry, it 's raining today and the picnic is canceled. "There' s no point in apologizing. But what if you know you have to apologize but you didn't really feel sorry? Saying "I'm sorry but it was your fault" or "I'm sorry if you were hurt" is not a sincere apology! (You know the person was hurt, you know you were involved, but you don't really feel sorry for them.) So how do you say I'm sorry when you're not sure you made a mistake?
Consider the following 5 steps:
1. Listen to the other person's point of view and try to look at the situation from their point of view: You may think you made no mistake but the phrase "every story is two-sided" is absolutely true. Everyone's view of the world has filters. Could your filters prevent you from taking responsibility? The sentence: "I apologize for my part in this incident" is a more appropriate sentence.
2. Be aware of what hurtful behaviors you may have done. Have you ever been criticized for this behavior? Have people responded to your behavior? Give yourself a chance to reflect. Sometimes acknowledging a behavior (you're right. I was too bossy and sorry) will help you get to know yourself and you will behave better next time.
3. If you really believe that the other person mistakenly thinks you are wrong, check his or her intrinsic motivation. What is the purpose behind it? Have there been other times when others did not think like you? This could be a sign that his patience is running out. Before you lose this experience and go through it, consider the previous experiences and events.
4. When you say sorry, say it honestly and sincerely. When we were children and our parents asked us to apologize to our brother, sister or friend, we would very quickly and disgustingly say: Sorry! But we know we did not really believe in it. Adults do this more often. An "forgiveness" for the task at hand, especially when we say after it: It was your fault, it makes things worse. Look into the other person's eyes or call them and get their attention and be sorry: "I'm deeply sorry for what happened and what I did for it" or "I'm very sorry for the behavior that caused you trouble. I want". If you are sorry, make it clear what you mean.5. Note that some mistakes require more than "sorry". Do not wait because you apologized so that person will forgive you immediately. Some things are big and the injured person needs more time to forgive. Do not expect anything from them. It is best to contact him and then let him heal. You grow when you admit what you did and try to make up for it. When you apologize to yourself and others, you have a good chance of becoming aware of yourself.