The growth of a child depends entirely on how his guardian is handling him. The child gets his primary education from the family. However, in many cases, it is seen that the children are also misled due to mismanagement of family members, which is detrimental to the family as well as the society. The emotional development of a child depends on how his family introduces him to new things on a daily basis.
When children in our country make a mistake, their parents often punish them severely. Raising hands is a very common thing for many. But most of them do not understand the extent to which raising hands can have a negative effect on the mental development of children. In our country, it is easy to understand why parents raise their hands against their children or punish them severely at various times. In most cases, they themselves have received such punishments at an early age. So they have the idea that the only way to control a child is to punish him for his mistakes. Again many times it is seen, if the child does something creative except reading, such as writing poetry, drawing pictures; However, the family does not like them. They think that just studying is everything in life. Then the child's forehead was rebuked and punished.
Unnecessary punishment creates adverse reactions in the minds of children.But the main effect of this punishment on the child's mind is that he is constantly being punished for not knowing his real fault or what to do in that case. The child becomes a kind of annoyance to his family. She gets annoyed at the family for not evaluating her creativity and hides all the activities. He does not want to tell everything to his family then. He is afraid that if he says this, he may have to listen to threats or get some punishment. In addition, she wonders how she can hide from her family in order to escape punishment. Certainly this is not a good thing at all for the healthy mental development of the child.
The opposite of punishment is reward. Will you then reward and encourage the children for their various works? There is a matter here. Rewards can encourage work. But how much will you reward him? How many more times? Rewarding children is often seen as a twin form of punishment. If you reward a child for a task and then he is not rewarded for the same task, it creates a negative attitude towards him. If there is a situation where you can give something if you want it, then the child will think that everything is available if you want it. Don't worry about doing something on your own. It will ruin his creativity.
Many may wonder how creativity is discouraged when rewarded. This is the reward of his creativity. I am highlighting two tests. Then the matter will be clear.
A study was conducted from the Department of Clinical and Social Sciences in Psychology at the University of Rochester, New York. A few children were divided into two groups for the study. One team is told that the more pictures they draw, the more they will be rewarded. At the end of the day, it was seen that those who were not told about the prize were able to draw more pictures than those who were told about the prize.
The test was conducted by Beth A., a professor of psychology at Wellesley College in Massachusetts. Hennessy. He lets the two teams solve a puzzle. They were told with some pins, a candle and a box match to stick the candle to the wall. This puzzle needed to show some creativity of their own. One group, however, was told that if they could solve the puzzle, they would be rewarded. But it turned out that those who had not been given any instructions had come up with a solution earlier.
As it turns out, if creativity involves some kind of condition, it's not very fruitful. Then there is the problem of punishment, but there is also the problem of reward. What is the solution to make children human? If you take a closer look, you will realize that children actually expect some good time, good comments and a little love from you. There are no conditions for these. If you explain them well, they will listen to you. In fact, they are very interested in listening to you. You just have to be more discriminating with the help you render toward other people.
Listen to what the children want to say.
Often there are quarrels or fights between younger siblings or friends. Then the elders need to bring a compromise between them. If the parents come and ask, “Why did you kill him? Why did I quarrel with him? ” If you say this and threaten the children, then the children will continue to blame each other. There will be no compromise between them, but there will be more distance between them. Here the adults should arrange a nice compromise between them. Giving them good advice by listening to what they have to say.
Among children if there is a quarrel, help them to come to an agreement.When a child makes a mistake, for example, he breaks a glass, it is unreasonable to scold him for breaking the glass. Adults or children, no one comes to break the glass on their own. Maybe it fell out of hand and broke. Here you should advise him not to make such a mistake next time. If you explain nicely, they will listen to you. They like to hear beautiful things.
When it comes to getting ideas or advice on a family task, pay attention to what the children say. Let them understand that they are also a part of the family. People are not born lazy. And of course not the kids. Kids always want to do something. They want to be considered a part of the team. For this reason, children should be encouraged to do small daily chores at home. This allows them to gradually prepare themselves for the task at hand.
Emphasize children's words in family decisions.So give importance to the words of adults as well as children in any work of the family. Explain to them a beautiful solution by correcting any mistakes. Take extra care so that they do not feel burdened.
I'll go for rewards.