How many things happen every day in this world of about 7.6 billion people. We know very little about him. As far as the opportunity to know, we do not remember all of it. Again, not all events surprise us. The Creator loves to give so much drama to the screenplay of some stories that we are stunned. I will tell the story of such an incident, the protagonist of which is a father. Many things were lost in his sacrifice, struggle and prayer. Readers, but let's get to know that story without delay.
The full name is Sayedul Ashraf Kushal. He is the eldest child of the parents. He completed his secondary education from the University School and College of Engineering (BUET Campus) in 2002 and his higher secondary education from Notre Dame College in 2004. He was a good student. His childhood dream was to become a doctor. He was admitted to Dhaka Medical College to fulfill that dream.
After getting a chance in medical, I met Sushma Reza Rakhi at a reception, who was admitted to Chittagong Medical College. Then there is friendship between them. Feel good about friendship. Thus began their relationship.
The time is one afternoon in 2006. You can suddenly know from a loved one that the chances of becoming the mother of that loved one are very low due to having 'wife disease'. The sky seemed to fall over his head. For a man, being a father is no longer a matter of emotion. In the same way, there is no more spiritual and heavenly thing in a woman's life than being a mother. But he knows that if he marries Rakhi, he too may be deprived of fatherhood. He fell into an impossibly difficult problem. What will he do? Will you marry him knowingly? He made the most difficult decision of his life after much thought. He decided to marry his beloved man. During this time his parents helped him in every possible way. In this regard, Sayedul Ashraf Kushal said,
I realized to myself - not the whole world, I really have to give the test of my humanity to only one person. I can leave him alone in the sea of despair if I want to, and I can stand by his side for the rest of my life. I could not leave him alone in the sea of despair.
They finally got married in May 2006. After the marriage, they started the treatment of infertility in the hope of getting the 'best gift of life'. During this time they both had to go through unbearable emotional pain. Even then they did not give up. Their child Mashia was born after three years of marriage. Mashia's birth is a miracle. Therefore, it is impossible to express the feelings of both of them in words at that time. They seemed to be the most blessed couple in the world. The doctor said, "He's your wonder baby. Keep it up."
They were both final year medical students when Mashiar was born. Final professional exam ahead. So Mashia's mother's participation in the test became uncertain. Would it be okay to take the test in this situation? Got into trouble. But Kushal told his wife to take the test. So Mashia's mother left for Chittagong only 21 days after Caesar. Kushal himself took care of Mashia.
It is impossible for anyone other than a medical student to understand the importance of professional exams in medical work. In addition, if it is the final professional exam, then there is no 'resurrection' like it. Again, raising and caring for a newborn baby is no less terrifying for a man. But the horror of the test days, the broken bones could not shake a single father Kushal. He has gone through those hard times with a girl in his lap and a book in his hand. Thus passed the test.
After passing the test, he had another problem. Since Kushal's wife is a student of Chittagong Medical College, she has to do her internship in Chittagong. He tried hard to transfer to Dhaka. But could not. Mashia was therefore sent to her mother in Chittagong. But until then, only his father was involved in Mashia's existence. Mashia could not fit in there. As a result, he returned to his father. Recalling that time, he said,
I raised him alone in my lap for almost two years. Everyone used to call me Kushal Bhai, when I saw her, she also started calling me, 'Kutal Bhai'. It was definitely the best time of my life.
Both have internships. After a lot of hard work and sacrifice, the three of them were having a good time together. Just at that time Mashiar was diagnosed with a terrible disease called 'Coronal Craniosynostosis'. For the first two / three years after the birth of each baby, there is a gap between the bones of the head. These spaces are called Fontanelle. Because of the fontanelle, the brain has enough space to fully develop. As you grow older, the bones gradually attach and the gaps become filled.
But the fontanelles of children with this disease are attached long before the specified time. As a result, the baby's growing brain does not get enough space inside the head to develop. As a result, the baby's brain does not develop properly. The infected child should be treated as soon as possible after being diagnosed with the disease
Thath has to go through a complex operation. But Kushal-Rakhi has been late for so long. The doctor told me to monitor the condition without surgery and tied the knot for two years. If left untreated or operated on, the disease can lead to later convulsions, impaired mental development, and even death with head problems.
Naturally, there was a possibility of such a complication in the case of Mashiya. So the sky fell on the head of the happy couple. They never imagined that the best gift of life, after so much prayer, sacrifice, and inhuman suffering, could be so severely compromised. The whole world became dark to them.
Kushal loved to play tabla and bashi. He also decided to give it up for his daughter's recovery. Then comes the final drama in this story. Mashia became healthy without any operation and without any complications! Masiya is one of the few children to survive like this without any complications! Even a difficult disease has been forced to be defeated by the love of a father.
Current status
Wonder baby Mashia has now entered her tenth year. Studied in the second grade of Lakehead Grammar School. And Sayedul Ashraf Kushal is now a famous psychiatrist. He is doing something about mental health that no one in this country has thought of before. He has been helping millions of people directly or indirectly through a mental health institute called 'Lifespring'.
Recently, this institute has been associated with various organizations including Unilever Bangladesh, bKash, Grameen Phone, Bangladesh Police, Bangladesh Air Force. Through this institute the members of the organization are given emotional support. He has also been the chairman of 'Hope Autism School'. Personally, he has also provided free counseling to many students of Dhaka Medical College. This social responsibility was born from those miserable days with his daughter.
I will end the writing with his words,
Not everyone can join the procession of dream winners if they want to. So those who have mental problems, we should not make the mistake of recognizing them in advance, we should not make the mistake of embracing them in love, we should not forget to say that success will come after going through ups and downs. Not being able to love our own lives is our biggest failure as human beings. The calculation of life should not be matched with 'what I got in life', but with 'what I got'.