The recipe for a lasting romantic relationship

The story of a Bengali movie, where the heroine comes from a highly educated and wealthy family, while the hero represents the working people. In other words, it is not uncommon for the image of dialectical conflict that we see in Bengali cinema for a long time on the way to building a relationship to be a reflection of that too.

But let's think a little deeper, without reaching any conclusion so easily. What do we see in Bengali cinema? There we see that Mr. Chowdhury i.e. the father of the heroine is becoming an obstacle in the love of the hero-heroine, and proving himself to him is becoming the most challenging issue in front of the hero. More importantly, once the heroes and heroines fall in love with each other, there is no hesitation in their minds. Mutual coexistence exists between them in all cases except economic gaps. So once that economic gap is closed, there is no obstacle for the hero-heroine to be 'happily ever after'.



But we have started by saying that with the statement of women, another division has prevailed over the economic division. That is the intellectual division. Sad but true, our country's cinema has never shed light on this division in that way. And overall, the people of our country have rarely thought about this so far. Because the people of our country have never thought far-reaching about the concept of 'relationship'.

They think that only when two people have the same mind, the relationship becomes eternal. Relationships are not a sprint, it's a marathon, and if two people stay together for long periods of time, there can be a lot of division between them, a subject that has never been discussed or practiced before. So whenever a seemingly beautiful relationship comes to an end, everyone says there is no such thing as 'true love' in the world.

The hopeful thing is that even though it is late, the people of our country have started looking at the opposite side of the currency. They are now beginning to think, is so-called love all about one, or is there also the importance of intellectual coexistence? Is it possible to spend one's whole life just talking about love, or is there a need to discuss serious issues like politics, economy, civics, or socialism, democracy, monarchy, or art, literature, culture?


There is a lot of talk these days about intellectual coexistence;
This requirement is questionable and debatable. So don't go that way at the beginning. Rather we try to understand, what the relationship is. In addition to intellectual coexistence, there may be other important aspects to prolonging a relationship that are not yet being discussed in that way.

Relationships, of course, have different classifications. However, we will limit our discussion to romance only. Such a relationship, like all other relationships, is based on equality between two people. It can be said that this equality between two people is the relationship; And it can be between boyfriend and girlfriend, or its institutional form between husband and wife.

Now the question is, what are these similarities. Whether or not economic equality is important is a much-discussed issue, so we can rule it out. Apart from this, the relationship experts have mentioned four types of equality in bold. Let's find out now.

Emotional equality
It can be said to be the earliest foundation of any relationship. We often hear, love does not lend itself to any argument. This irrational aspect of love erupts because of emotion. A person falls in love with another person out of emotion, and his life may seem meaningless without that person. Since emotions are initially irrational, this is why two people who are completely incompatible with each other may fall in love at first sight, or the origin of that love may come from either side, which is then transmitted to the other.

Emotion is the main foundation of the relationship;

Physical equality

While physical attraction to others is unimportant, there is a big area of ​​romantic attraction — physical attraction চাই there's no denying it. The union of the mind is an emotional affair, but the physical union gives it a more rigid structure. Men and women meet physically from biological needs. So relationships are also largely dependent on physical equality, and ‘physical beauty’ plays a big role in this equality. Of course, in the eyes of the viewer of beauty, and in the question of beauty, each person has different preferences and preferences, based on which he feels a physical attraction towards a certain person.

Intellectual equality

Emotional and physical balance alone is not enough to make a relationship lasting and lasting. Because for many people, emotion is a temporary thing, and physical attraction does not always exist. But in the course of life, a person has to constantly express his intelligence. What he does, what he says, or what he does not do, what he does not say, all reflect his intellect. Therefore, intellectual equality between two people who are related to each other is also important. This equality can be derived from the same thoughts, values ​​and attitudes of the two.

Again, even if there are differences on these issues, it is important to respect each other's opinions. It is foolish to expect two people's thoughts to always flow in the same direction, but even if two people do not have all the issues, they will get peace of mind by talking and exchanging ideas with each other on most issues — this is also desirable in intellectual equality. If it always happens that when one person starts talking about his / her choice, the other person does not show enough interest in it, or does not respond to the expected level, it can cause great distress for that person.

Eternal equality

The importance of the previous three equations is not being underestimated in any way, but one more equation is needed in a relationship, which takes that relationship to a whole different level. This equality is eternal equality. The question may arise, what is this eternal equality? It is not limited to just loving each other forever. Rather, two people share the same aspiration from life, and the desire to reach the same destination in life. It can also be called spiritual equality.

Eternal equality is needed to perpetuate the relationship;

Let's be a little simpler. Where do a couple want to see themselves three decades from today? This is a long term plan. Maybe there will be some minor differences. But roughly the two must have almost identical goals. If one is very ambitious, the other prefers to be 'as is', then there is a huge gap in their mentality. There are many instances where this gap can be left aside, but there is a risk that the relationship will be poisoned.

But if a couple has the same 'vision' and 'mission' in the way of life, then they can compromise with the existing inconsistencies, even with some concessions; And over time, by getting to know and understand each other over a long period of time, they can reduce the severity of those inconsistencies.

Uniform 'vision' and 'mission' can be the key to a lasting relationship;

So we can conclude that, in addition to emotional, physical, and intellectual equality, a couple needs a 'cause' for which they will be together forever. So any couple's duty is, "We don't have these things in common, so shouldn't we be together?" Instead of the national question, "Why should we be together forever?" Finding the answer to this question.

A relationship is something that can have a thousand reasons for breaking up, but one reason is enough to keep it going. Now you need to see if there is a reason to keep your relationship going.