"There are countless bad people in the world, but not a single bad father." This quote of Humayun Ahmed is very popular. For a time, many of us loved this quote. Because there are definitely one or two exceptions, but we have seen good fathers around us all our lives. As we have seen, no matter what a person is as a human being, as a father there are always tens. So there is no way to like this statement of Humayun Ahmed!
But now that we no longer have that tumultuous emotion of our teenage years, we can think a little more deeply about anything, so is it ever true that anything Humayun Ahmed has said is true? Rather, shouldn't we look at ourselves a little deeper now? Shouldn't a conclusion be reached only after careful analysis?
The unique embodiment of the father's relationship with the child is found in the writings of Humayun Ahmed.
What does it mean to be a good father? What we generally understand is the one who not only gives birth, but also from childhood to the age of twenty-five to thirty years, who takes care of the child without objection. The one who fulfills any whim of the child before it falls to the ground. If necessary, he works tirelessly 24 hours a day to fulfill the wishes of his child. For the child who does not skimp on giving up all the pleasures of life, big or small. The one who does not hesitate to do the hardest work in the world to keep the child happy. The one who holds the child in his arms for the rest of his life. Never let a flower scratch on him.
Yes, most of the fathers in our society are like the cool shady banyan tree on the head of the child till the last breath. So the man who remembers the slightest sense of gratitude is forced to admit, "Yes, no matter what my father is like as a man, he is the best as a father."
Even so, owning one is still beyond the reach of the average person. Rather, there is room for a more detailed discussion of the idea of a good father.
Parental marital strife never has a good effect on the child.Suppose a father, who did everything for the child described above, fulfilled the condition of being a seemingly good father. However, whether that good father, beat the wife! In front of the child, he beat and abused his mother and his wife for trivial reasons. Harassed all the time with insults, getting up and sitting down to eat. Is he still a good father?
Or suppose that the father who is sweating for the good of the child is the one who is not taking care of his parents, is burdening them, is wishing them death in his heart, is not meeting their needs in old age, maybe even sending them to old age home Sweeping yourself with hands and feet. Is he still a good father?
We should not forget about the working world of a good father. I agree that a good father needs money to keep his child well. But whether it is for the purpose of earning money or not, the good father is using dishonest methods, taking bribes, taking away the debts of others, committing corruption, completely violating moral values, and does not hesitate to commit all kinds of horrible injustices. Is he still a good father?
The child learns by watching the father;
The three examples shown above may have been defined by Humayun Ahmed as "bad people but good fathers". But no, today it is no longer possible to agree with Humayun Ahmed that they are bad as human beings but good as fathers.
Why? Because being a good father means not only loving the child with all your positive qualities. One's goodness can never be measured by the intensity of love. Especially not in the case of a father.
It is certainly not uncommon for anyone to accept that a father is the child's greatest role model. The father is the superhero to the child. So from an early age the child learns and tries to establish within himself what he sees his father doing.
Now the child who sees in front of his own eyes that his father is beating his mother, abusing her in vulgar language, will he ever be able to fully respect women when he is a child? Will he be able to fulfill the responsibility of a good husband towards his wife? In the absence of the father, the child will give the mother due respect? Or if that child is a girl, won't he have a negative perception of masculinity from an early age? Wouldn't she start thinking at an early age that "women are always inferior to men, and I will one day be humiliated and oppressed by my husband in this way"?
Again, the child who has seen from an early age that his father is as kind to him as he is to his aged parents; Who can guarantee that the child will not treat his parents the same when he grows up?
And last but not least, the words of corrupt, criminal, morally devoid fathers at work or in the community.
Let's think. Those fathers may also be considered very good to the child. But there is no way to ignore the fact that they are setting a very bad example in front of the child. So if one day their children go astray and enter the dark world, it cannot be considered unusual. Because they have only done what their good fathers have done before!
So the belief can be firmly presented that a good father cannot be called only one who is merely good to his child. We can say good father is the father who is good to his wife as a husband, good to his parents as a child, who is honest and fair in the workplace, and above all who is good as a man. The point is, a father who is not only sacrificing himself for his child, but also setting a precedent for his child, will one day become a better person.
In other words, a good father is the one who is the ideal of his child's honest work, who shows the way for his child to become a good person. And the father who doesn't do that is just as bad as the man, just as bad as the father. So this article will have a polite request to the fathers who are reading today, or who will be fathers in the future: If you want to be a good father, please try to be a good husband, a good child and a good person.
This article describes what is needed to be a really good father.
