Have you ever felt so angry that you felt like breaking a mobile phone or a cup of tea, shouting at the person in front of you, or taking your own life?
Don't lie, please. Since you are a human being, so you also have a mind. And it's not uncommon for that mind to get excited sometimes. Rather these events bear witness to the fact that you are a very normal human being.
So from what I was saying, there may be many such moments in life. And it is also true that every moment is an integral and very important part of life. But life is not just a moment. Life is the sum of innumerable moments. That is why one should never do such a thing out of anger for a moment, because of which every moment of the rest of one's life is spent in sorrow.
First of all, let's give a materialist example. The mobile phone on which you are reading this article at the moment is definitely not cheap. Now if for some reason you get angry and break it, wouldn’t it be too bad? You may not have enough money now to buy another one. Then you have to spend several days without a mobile phone, or borrow money to get a hand from someone, and carry the burden of debt for a long time.
Or think of something more important. You may be sitting in front of your loved one right now. You are very angry with any of his words or deeds. So you became ignorant of Hitahita and started telling him whatever came to your mind. Speaking went beyond the limits. As a result, that is what happened. You lost the person closest to you. You lost a man whose replacement was no one else in your life.
So you understand, sometimes anger can be omnipresent. Anger can burn you, me, any of our lives. So anger control is a very important issue. Failure to control your anger at the right time can have dire consequences.
But it is possible to control your anger if you want! Does anyone else have a hand on the mind! There is no switch in our head that we can turn the anger on and off by pressing it! So we need to talk in detail about how to control our anger.
Here are some practical ways in which anger can be controlled, at least in part, if not completely. And even with that "somewhat" anger control, it is possible to save one's life from a major tragedy.
Breathe:
There is no better medicine for controlling anger than breathing. So when there will be anger too, practice deep breathing. Sit tight in a chair. Then continue to breathe deeply through the nose. Multiply from 1 to 7, and take in the oxygen that fills you up all the time. And do the work very slowly even while exhaling. If possible, multiply by 8 or 9. Do this 10 times intermittently. And while doing this, think of something pleasant that has nothing to do with your current anger or problems.
Admit it you are angry:
The most frightening aspect of getting angry is that the person who gets angry doesn't understand it for the first time. That's not what I said a little while ago, losing the right knowledge, that's exactly what happens. So he then starts to say or do whatever he likes in the head of anger, and that is what he thinks is normal. But if you can confront the fact that, yes, you are really angry, the situation will calm down a lot. Because then you will also realize that what you are doing is not what you normally would have done.
Control the immediate response
No healthy person can stay angry for long. Some moments in the beginning, maybe five, ten, fifteen minutes or half an hour; In the meanwhile, as an immediate reaction, he does a lot of things that cause him to shake his head later. Maybe at that time he hurts himself or someone else in front of him, damages something valuable, or says something he should never say. The results of these actions can be far-reaching. So if you are aware that your anger is too much and you can do something terrible right away, then you need to be aware of this in advance. You have to make your mind clear again and again so that you don't do something like this. And the people around you should not make you angry at that time, but do something to calm your anger.
Think cold Head:
In most cases, people get emotional and get angry at the head of the trend. Then he does not think about anything. He prefers the mind, not his own brain. But the problem is, the human mind is so sensitive that it can change direction at any time. So a cold head is more important than listening to the mind at important moments.
To think One thing to keep in mind is that it is not possible to reach a solution by getting angry, excited or warming up, but it adds many more problems to the previous problem. So without doing anything like that, you have to think in a cold head, whether the reason you are getting angry is really reasonable or not. Maybe you're lying and getting angry at someone who had no guilt at all. Again, it may be that the responsibility for the whole affair lies with time, circumstance, and reality, where no one else has to do anything. Once you think about these things and calm your mind, it is possible to reduce anger effortlessly.
Walk in the fresh air:
Maybe you have been sitting in a closed room for a long time, where the weather is very humid, the temperature is very high and there is no ventilation. Being in such an environment can easily make you angry, even if you have a panic attack. If something like this happens, try to change your environment once you get angry and point a finger at someone else or hurt yourself. Get out of the house, breathe in the fresh air, take a walk. Even for a very short time, if you stand under the open sky, smell the air on your body, forget everything else and enjoy the beauty of nature, that too can work like magic. Even if you are not very romantic or nature-loving, it may seem to you that there are many reasons to survive, even if you leave out the existing problems.
Multiply the number from the back
Is it not possible to go out somewhere? Do you have to control your anger while sitting in front of a desk in the office or classroom? The matter is very difficult. Because in such a closed situation, it is not easy to think coldly or divert one's attention. But in this case, the technique of counting numbers from the back can help you. When you get very angry, count backwards from 100 to 1 before taking any immediate action. Do you think this is a very childish thing? Not at all. On the contrary, when it comes to counting numbers, your brain has to pay a little attention to that task, so that you can forget about your anger for a while. And in this way it is possible to reduce anger by shifting the focus to another direction.
Listen to the song:
Yes, listening to music can be a great way too. Any melody or instrument of choice can be enough to make people's mind better. And so whenever you feel anxious, excited, you can quickly listen to your favorite song with the earphones in your ear, or even on a loudspeaker if you are at home. But the song of choice must be something to make the mind feel good. You should not choose a song that exacerbates depression, provokes sadness. If you don't have a favorite song, you can search online and listen to a variety of relaxing music. Especially classical and jazz music is especially helpful to lighten the mind of the listener. Maybe it will work in your case too. You can try it once.
Write down your thoughts:
When there is intense anger, a lot of thoughts come together in the mind. He wants to shout and say them. The man in front also seems to have a desire to hear them as he wishes. Or many people nowadays send big messages to the people nearby. But these words or messages can later boomerang and attack you.
You may have said or written something out of anger that is not in your heart. But what if the person on the opposite side doesn't believe your claim? Then that problem will gradually increase. So all you have to do is write down your diary, laptop or any of the writing apps on your mobile phone. There is no need to think about beard-comma, grammar. Write down the scattered words in your mind that way. You see, the mind feels much lighter. You can also post these articles on Facebook with "Only Me" privacy. Later, when the head is cold, you will read the writings. You will see that a good opportunity has been created for self-assessment or to know oneself. Isn't this better than being evaluated by others?
Light the lamp of positive thinking
It is an eternal human nature to think only of the bad things that happen to oneself in order to "justify" one's misfortune when one is agitated or angry for some reason. No, it only gets worse. And the bigger problem is that when he starts talking to someone in a fit of rage, he only talks about the bad things in that person. Go ahead and think about more positive things, instead of thinking negatively in anger.
Now remember the person you are angry with, how much he has benefited you, how much he has helped you in times of danger. You will see that the anger has decreased a lot from him. Moreover, not only look at the negative aspects of any event, but also look into the possibility of getting cursed out of them. Above all, believe in yourself. Repeatedly tell yourself, "Don't worry. You've been able to handle a lot of situations like this before, you can do it again. You
He has never lost before, he will never lose again. You will win in the end. "
Find a solution:
You've seen all sorts of complex problems in math books since you were a kid, haven't you? But the funny thing is, none of that is a problem anymore, when you have learned how to solve them. Just like that, start thinking of any disaster in life as a math problem. As difficult as they may seem at first glance, they are certainly solvable at the end of the day. The sooner you start trying to solve it, the sooner you will get results. But if you just sit there angry and over-thinking without trying to solve it, even a seemingly simple problem can become impossible to solve.
Last word:
You can follow all these methods to control your anger instantly. There are also several other effective ways to control anger. The first is to do something of choice. If you like reading books or watching movies, get started. Cook if you want, or decorate your own house. Moreover, when you talk to someone whose mind is good, that is, the person who knows and understands you well, you can talk and share your mind. But if your anger is not controlled in any of these, then you need to seek the help of an expert. You can go to a therapist or counselor. If necessary, you can also take a course in Anger Management or Meditation.