“Happiness is not something you store for your future. Happiness is the desire of the present. ”- Jim Ronn, American Entrepreneur and Motivational Speaker
The legendary British philosopher Bertrand Russell was born into an aristocratic family in England. He did not lack anything since childhood. When he came to adolescence, he saw that along with economic prosperity, his family also had a huge influence. His grandfather John Russell was a former British Prime Minister. His godfather John Stuart Mill was one of the most influential philosophers of his time. But Bertrand Russell was not a sad, unhappy, lonely boy! He said in his autobiography that he had tried to commit suicide more than once since he was a boy. But why? Why was happiness turning into a golden deer for him despite living in all the pleasures and nobility? To find out why, he wrote the Conquest of Happiness. There is a lot of harmony between his discussion and the sadness of the people in today's age of modernity.
 In modern times, depression and mental turmoil have become our biggest worries. The development of science and technology, industrialization, urbanization, new additions to the economic structure, everything is to make people's lives a little easier and more comfortable, to make people happier than before. But as the world is moving towards modernization, the mental happiness of the people is fading! Running forward in search of happiness, it seems that happiness has been left behind. People seem to have forgotten to look up at the sky while picking up pebbles called happiness on the chest of the earth!
There is no doubt that man has become more materialistic than ever before. But in a word, if you put all the blame on materialism, you will only deceive yourself. No one wants to go back to the past because modernity is taking away our happiness. More people will want to see their loved ones directly via video call by pressing a phone button than by sending a message to their loved one at least a week later. So, the positive aspects of modernity are fading away that the negative aspects are the ones we should be discussing.
Attention Economy
The modern world is addictive, attention-grabbing, tempting. We have reached such a stage in our daily lives that we cannot live without countless temptations. Mobile-computer video games, virtual reality, movies, dramas, opera, social media, casinos, fast food, desi food, 'trolling' videos, 'roasting' videos, porn videos, latest technology, products, fancy products, beauty products, Skin Care, Hair Care, Fat Reduction, Six Pack, Smartphone, DSLR Camera, Torrent, Netflix, IPL, BPL, Big Bash, Premier League, Serie A, Champions League, US Open, Australian Open, Nightclub, ... One alternative after another, infinite streams keep coming. Ever wondered if you can't free yourself from the constant temptations of this genre?
For the sake of these thousands of alternative entertainment fields, we are drowning in a kind of supernatural sin, which is consuming our morals unseen. Body-shaming in the name of trolls, thousands of memes full of sensitive racism and sexism, not caring about personal privacy in the name of 'stockings', disturbing people's personal comfort while making prank videos, we are doing all this knowingly. We are losing our conscience for the sale of entertainment, we do not understand how we are doing great harm to the society, hurting someone's individual freedom. In the same way, those who fall prey to the temptation of this entertainment are also obsessed with this entertainment until they experience the real experience and forget the principle of fairness.

We are drowning in the infinite sea of social media;
Social media is the main market for the business that has started to attract the attention of the audience, listeners, buyers. These means of communication, on the one hand, have played the role of collaborators in various aspects of our daily lives, on the other hand, they are causing us irreparable damage. Our thoughts and ideas are unknowingly changing. There is a lot of research on how social media is changing people's minds and pushing them towards depression. In almost every study, 4 factors have come to the fore. They need to know.
Comparison mentality- Social media is creating a kind of comparison mentality among us. As soon as you enter Facebook or Twitter, you will see the success stories of many people, most of which are exaggerated. News of someone's job, someone's job promotion, someone's love success, someone's business establishment, someone's new car purchase, someone's new house or flat purchase, someone's thousands of successes and travel news Even if you want to compare them with yourself! And the reality is, not everyone's success will be skyrocketing, it is not possible. So while some of the comparatively backward people take inspiration, most of them get frustrated with their own life, their own position.
Inadequacy of personal communication - In the age of mobile, telephone, Facebook, emo, Viber, personal communication has decreased alarmingly. The greatest way to improve the human mind is through interpersonal communication, that is, face-to-face meetings, conversations, relationships with one person. But now we are taking care of these issues through social media. A person who has 2,000 friends on Facebook is also suffering from depression now, because, when he goes out of the network at the end of the day, he is alone! Where is the time to get together and hang out in the neighborhood? You have to be busy creating your own virtual image all the time. It takes hours to change a profile picture, to do a variety of maneuvers, to edit it through various apps, to observe the reaction of the people on the buddy list after uploading it, to respond appropriately to each comment, when the sun rises and when Many are forgetting all that is going to fall! Even chatting with friends or on a trip, everyone is busy on their own blue screen. As a result friendships are now artificial, relationships are now virtual, which at the end of the day fails to overcome loneliness.
Deprived of spiritual joy and perception - gone somewhere, returned to the smartphone gallery with 1,000 pictures at the end of the trip, but can not say what you saw without entering the gallery, has it ever happened to you? Even if it is not yours, it is certain that the friend next to you has experienced such an experience. Once upon a time people would go to see the mountains to realize its vastness, to discover its infinity by seeing its infinity with the roar of the sea, to get lost in the green forest and to revive itself. But in the age of smartphones and DSLR cameras, photography has become the center of human travel! Our journey ends with seeing everything through the eyes of the camera while taking pictures considering different angles and frames for uploading on Facebook, Instagram, nothing is seen with one's own eyes! Imagine for a second you were transposed into the karmic driven world of just 15/20 megapixel phones or 120 megapixel DSLRs. I would save it in biological memory, how wonderful it would be!
Sleep and attention disturbance - For the sake of social media, young people have now forgotten the childhood poem 'Early to Bed, Early to Rise'. The new trend is to spend half the night on the small screen of the smartphone. Staying up late at night and waking up late in the morning is detrimental to both mental and physical health. Many people suffer from insomnia. On the other hand, while studying or doing office work, the messenger announced its existence in a tungsten sound after a while. As a result, it is not possible to pay full attention to any kind of work. In the midst of work, naughtiness with a friend on the messenger for a while brings more evil than good.

The media's focus is more on making a profit than on revealing the reality of risk;
The allegations against the media today that it has become capitalist are largely true. The media is no longer taking the common man to the real truth, helping him to penetrate deeper into reality. Rather, the bourgeoisie continues to exaggerate the interests of the owner, distort the real truth, present partial truths, and give false assurances. The media is propagating their ideas and views, sometimes willingly, sometimes reluctantly, in order to perpetuate the power of the few people at the center of power. Movies are no longer a means to an end. Imaginary happiness, the boast of ease, the positive assurances in the movies are not even a speck of reality. As a result, in daily life, people find a completely opposite, more rugged and unequal world that they are exposed to in the media. By doing so, the mental peace of the people is decreasing but not increasing.
Mechanical urbanization
"Give back that forest, take this city, take as much iron, lost wood and stone, O new civilization!" - Rabindranath Tagore
In the 21st century, the daily life of an ordinary person can be easily described. Waking up, going to work by public transport, working continuously for 6-18 hours (there is a difference in working hours in developed / underdeveloped countries), getting back on public transport and going back to sleep. In between, he filled his stomach three times in a hurry. From waking up in the morning to the sound of a clock or mobile alarm to the sound of car horns on the street, the sound of construction sites, the heavy noise of factories, the sound of vehicles, the sound of planes flying overhead, the sound of trains, the sound of smartphones, all around. From the beginning of the day to the end of urban people spend time listening to various mechanical sounds. In the midst of so much noise, there is no opportunity to think incessantly, to meditate with concentration. Even if you want, you can't get some private, noise free time. Statistics show that with globalization, global warming is increasing on the one hand, and the level of noise pollution is increasing on the other. And research says noise pollution has the most detrimental effect on people's mental health.
Abolition of religious and social customs
A major feature of modern society is the unconventional attitude of the conventional and traditional. The practice of religion in the society is constantly decreasing, the discipline of religion is becoming lighter. A study in The Journal of Happiness and Wellbeing found that the lack of religious discipline was one of the reasons for the decline in society's collective happiness. According to this study, righteous people are happier than ungodly people. The main reasons for this are satisfaction and gratitude. The pious usually believe in destiny. In addition to trying to change their destiny, they thanked God for their current position. Although there is widespread criticism of it in materialistic societies. It is said that the righteous cannot reach the ultimate goal because of complacency. However, this study has come up with the opposite information for materialists. Materialists do not usually believe in fate and they do not set any limits on success. There is no such thing as ultimate success for a modern-minded materialist. And this pushes him in the midst of endless competition. No achievement can bring satisfaction then. As a result, in spite of constant effort and conventional success, frustration continues to grow.

Self-motivation is the best approach;
The so-called ‘virtual motivation’ also has a role to play in this, especially in the case of young people who are frustrated with various problems in life and watch various motivational speeches, motivational dramas, videos, movies to find solutions. But his family could be the easiest solution! These virtual worlds are all for the winners. Nothing is made of the losers. These speeches or video content inspire young people to believe that anyone who tries is as successful as Apple's CEO or NASA scientists. Here the measure of success is set at a very high level, which is certainly a positive aspect. For many, these online content may be useful, but it also frustrates another large segment. Because, an innate truth is that not every person in the society gets equal amount of success. Rather, the greater part stays away from ultimate success. This class that is far from success cannot accept any achievement of its own. Because, in their minds, there is a high standard of success. Thus, the number of frustrated youth is also increasing.
Consumerism
 The media is the main tool of consumerism:
Mr. Sadiq (fictional name) earns Rs. 30,000 per month. He was happily spending his days with his wife and one child. When his wife saw one of her favorite characters using an iPhone 10 on TV, she took a deposit from Sadiq to buy it. Sadiq bought an iPhone 10 for his wife in installments. He had no savings to pay in installments from the next month. The following month, his daughter Baina grabbed an expensive ‘bird dress’. After paying the monthly installment, Sadiq had to pay the deposit. After that the tenants of the house next door bought a sofa and Sadiq also had to borrow money to buy an expensive sofa from the trade fair. On the other hand, Sadiq used to go on holiday with his wife and daughter. Now he has to go to an expensive restaurant to protect their whims. All in all, Sadiq's expenses increased so much that he had to worry about his part-time job. His family was not as prosperous as before.
This is a fictional story but the real life story of thousands of Sadiqs in today's society. Today's society is so obsessed with the welfare of the media that it is full of advertisements and marketing of goods all the time that people are no longer able to find happiness in normal life. Every day new and unfounded needs are being created due to media propaganda, and people have to give up all comforts to meet those needs. Without an iPhone (could be any other product), Sadiq's wife would not have had any problems in her life. But after succumbing to the exaggerated propaganda of the media, he thought that the iPhone might make life a little happier! Author Shahzad Firdaus's book 'Shailak's Business Expansion' can be mentioned in this context. In the book, the author shows how people are sacrificing their individual freedom, individuality, sense of individuality and above all pure peace of mind to consumerism and economic freedom.
Why people are becoming mentally unhappy in modern times, if we continue to give them a fairy tale, it will not end. However, the above mentioned reasons can be said to be some of the main reasons. What is the solution to these? The way is nothing but perception. All you have to do is realize the causes of your mental turmoil, think about how much you relate to those causes. Then you will know for yourself how to get out of these problems and establish yourself as a happy person.
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