@Rafd9828 20 August 2021 more from that month

Is it now a sin to pay evil with good? I have been asking myself if I am doing the right thing by allowing the past to go and embrace the present with an open heart and mind. Should I hold unto the past and remember the ill treatments, neglects, promises and fails, disappointments he showed to me when I needed his assistance all the periods I was down? Am I doing the right thing by giving him a listening ear and a helping hand now the table of fortune has left him even with all the bad treatments I received from him during the period he was financially fine?

I have thought all of these things within my heart and placed all the records of events that happened in the past between my friend and I, the answers I got was not far from what your heart will give you if you happened to be in my shoes. **Life is not what we think of it rather it's what we make of it**, if you always believe in your heart that what goes up must surely remain up and what stays down must surely remain down till the end of time then know it that you really have not started understanding the world you are living in and how it operates. Most people always think that when they are in a better position than the other, it's not necessarily important to treat the next person sitting beside nice. Another thing is when you are at that top, when things are okay with you financially and other wise, be mindful of the friends you keep and associate with, most of the people that come around you and call themselves your friend does not mean well for you, you maybe thinking that ***yes!*** he has money the same way you do, and also measure in the same class with you so let you accept his friendship offer and do away with those people that are not in your financial class and status but when the chips are down, those people you thought were your friends will leave you on the way and move, by then you will realise that you have made the biggest mistake of your life. ***How well do you carry those your friends you were with when things were bad and rough now you have become financial stable and fine?, do you do your best to carry them along with you? Do you put effort to assist them financially to make them financially stable so that they themselves can also take care of their own needs by themselves rather than running to you for assistance anytime the need arises?*** Let me tell you this, there was this friend  of ours that made a lot money and instead of him to remember his friends he was suffering and hustling with when the chips were down, he turned his back on all of us and went ahead to enjoy himself and spend his money carelessly with his new friends and after a short period of time, he went broke due to the level of life style he was living, the type of friends he was following, the reckless  decisions he made, etc. When everything finished, those his new friends started leaving him one after the other and before you knew what was happening he lost everything he had and went back to zero level, then it was dawned on him that he has made a worst mistake of his life, he started coming back to us to apologize and seek for financial assistance from us the same people he left when things were okay with him. Some of our friends then refused to give him a listening ear and turned their back on him to suffer for his mistakes and for the wrong choices he made, but only me refused to turn my back on him. Ever since his downfall, I have been assisting him financially and supporting him in any way I can so that he can be able to eat and take care of himself with the little business I was managing. Now I have been experiencing low patronage from my customers of late and my business was going down, fund was not coming the way it used to and because of that I went to meet those our friends we were together when he was financially okay for help, the condition they gave me was that I must stop assisting this friend of mine if I want them to grant me my request, and if I refused that they will never ever assist me and also they will stop being my friends, right now I do not know what to do anymore.

***Now my questions are;*** ***Is it bad to forgive a friend who wronged you in the past?*** ***Is giving your friend a second chance to correct his or her mistake a bad thing to do?*** ***Should I accept the condition so that I can get the fund for my business to be revived back?*** ***Should I stop helping him and send him way to the street all because I want money for my business to stand again?*** ***Is it now a sin to pay evil with good?*** ***What should I do right now?*** All these questions I have in my heart for you to really help me to answer. I have been battling with this issues and I am yet to understand what to do because this Involves life, friendship and personal relationship. I believe that doing good pays and it takes a good heart to always help at any given time but in my own case I am beginning to wonder if I am still on the right track. ***Is it now a sin to pay evil with good?*** ***Thanks for reading my article 🙏 Rafd9828***