No Need To Be Confused When Faced With Many Choices, Be A Firm Person To Make Decisions
Various life problems have certainly whacked you at your current age. The age at which you learn to be fully mature. At this age too, you will often be confronted with important choices that will determine your future.
That is the reason why the ability to decide and decisive in making choices can be the key to your success. So, do you have that ability and determination? If not, don't be discouraged just yet. Train and get used to having that ability!
Set your intentions every time you make a decision. Strengthen your heart so that it is not easily swayed by the situation.
When you are faced with choices, establish your intention in making a decision. Choose which one you think is the most appropriate and appropriate. In addition, the decisions you make must also be final, aka ending with a period.
"I will finish this report tonight."
“I will finish this report tonight. Hopefully no friends will come to the boarding house and invite them to hang out at the city park.”
From the first sentence it appears that you are determined to complete your task. Meanwhile, from the second sentence it appears that you are still not determined because it still depends on the circumstances around you.
In addition to having determination, the decisions you take must also be supported by strong reasons.
To strengthen the choice you make, make sure there are reasons that support it. For example, if you choose to work and migrate out of town, first think about the reasons behind it.
“Do you want to have a high salary, or do you want to learn to live independently? Does the job you take match your passion?”
To be sure, you alone are able to answer these questions. As long as you have strong reasons to support it, you will not doubt your own choice or decision. Plus, learning to make excuses will help you practice being assertive.
Stay focused on your choice. Don't be easily swayed when many people don't even support you.
The ability to decide and firmness in making choices must also be supported with focus. Focus means that you have carefully considered the two options that are in front of your eyes. You can choose one of them because you have considered all the good and bad between the two.
Even after you've made your choice, don't be swayed afterward. Even if the people around you do not support or oppose your choice, stay firm and believe in your own decision. As long as you choose with your heart, rest assured that your choice is the best.
The choices that come should not make you too upset. Remain calm because adversity must come with a solution.
Get in the habit of looking straight to the heart of the problem you are facing. That way, you won't be stuck with a convoluted or complicated way of thinking. Remember, the more complicated the way you look at a problem, your success in making firm decisions will decrease. In fact, you may even move from one decision to another every time you feel indecisive.
Being assertive doesn't mean being rude. You can be assertive but still a pleasant person.
There are two types of assertive people: those who are respected and those who are hated. Assertive and respected is when you can firmly make decisions without hurting other people's hearts. Meanwhile, firm but hated is when your assertiveness makes other people hurt.
Being assertive doesn't mean being rude. Don't let your assertiveness make you aggressive and arrogant at the same time. Keep trying to be a calm person in all problems and difficulties. Once again, your difficulties and doubts will surely find a way to solve them.
