Cell phones are no longer a luxury item, especially during a pandemic like today. Cell phones are one of the things that support our activities. I don't think we can go far with this one thing.
The presence of mobile phones does have a positive impact on us. It is increasingly felt when the internet comes in. With the internet, we can communicate with our relatives without being separated by distance and time.
In addition, we can access information every second. If you used to have to wait for newspapers, now newspapers have switched to digital to reach a wider audience.
The presence of other features such as games, social media, movie streaming applications, music, and others makes it difficult for humans to escape from the slavery of mobile phones. This feature raises a new social problem, namely that humans are becoming more individualistic.
The internet is able to connect people to all corners of the world and make the real world slowly shift away. In this condition, humans begin to ignore the surrounding environment and prefer to stare at the cellphone screen rather than the other person.
Of course, we've talked to someone who stares intently at the cellphone screen without stopping. Even the people around him were simply ignored. The duck's indifferent attitude is one of the negative impacts of cellphones.
Getting to know Phubbing
Whether we realize it or not, humans are slaves of technology. This condition occurs when technology controls us, not the other way around. One technology that enslaves humans is the cell phone.
We can't seem to be independent if we don't hold our cellphones. If so, we are objects controlled by technology. In fact, because of the cell phone there is a term "that which is far comes near and that which is near moves away."
Because of the fun of playing cell phones, the surrounding environment is ignored. The real world seems to switch to the cellphones that we hold. If that's the case, then you're definitely suffering from phubbing.
Phubbing is a condition in which a person ignores other people and the environment because he is too focused on his cellphone. The term phubbing consists of two words, namely phone and snubbing.
The term phubbing first appeared in Australia. Phubbing is used to describe someone who ignores the interlocutor or family in front of them and chooses to play on the cellphone.
Maybe the reader has experienced a similar thing or encountered a phubbing person. It feels like chatting with people who play cellphones is useless and instead we will be ignored.
One study showed that about 17 percent had phubbing 4 times a day. And almost 32 percent of people have been victims of phubbing two to three times a day.
There are various causes of phubbing. One of them is fomo, namely the fear of not wanting to be left behind or not being updated. Some people end up scrolling social media for a long time because of the fomo effect.
In addition to social media, games are also the cause of someone becoming a phubber. Try asking someone who is playing games, they will definitely be ignored. I've been in that position too.
The features that exist in smartphones make it difficult for people to get away from this one thing. If we can't manage it, then it will be difficult for us to escape the influence of this phubbing.
Negative effects of phubbing
As explained above, phubbing is a condition of ignoring the other person and choosing to stare at the cellphone screen and ignore the surrounding environment.
Of course this will have a negative impact on our social relationships. The habit of always staring at the cellphone screen will reduce a person's ability to interact directly.
In fact, phubbing behavior encourages someone to do the same. Imagine if you were in the middle of a hangout, everyone was so focused on their cell phones.
What happened? Of course you will look for the phone and then do the same thing. I'm sure everyone has been in that position. In the end, getting together was just physical. After all, their souls are only linked to cell phones.
In addition to damaging social relationships, phubbing can damage mental health. The most obvious effect of phubbing is the victims. Victims of phubbing will feel ignored and unappreciated.
In addition, the phubbing behavior based on the fomo was clearly not good for us. It will only make us depressed and anxious for fear of being late in updating or afraid of missing information.
How to avoid phubbing
I myself have not been able to completely escape from phubbing. However, there are some conditions that we have to go through and stay away from cellphones. One of them when gathering with friends.
While hanging out, my friends and I agreed to put our cellphones in front and not mess with them. Notifications are turned off and when we do we will know how good it is to chat live.
In addition to the above method, the point is that we have to challenge ourselves. The trick can be to limit playing cellphones under certain conditions. For example when eating, as much as possible keep the cell phone with us.
Don't take pictures of food and then update the status, it will only bring up notifications on your cellphone and you'll be back late playing on your cellphone while eating. Of course this scene is not foreign.
The right conditions to be away from the cellphone is when you want to sleep. One hour before going to bed, we have to get off our cellphones. If the phone is on our bed, then the hand will itch and try to reach it.
So, one hour before going to bed, keep the phone in a remote place and then turn it off. This method can make our sleep quality. Beyond that, we must know the limits in playing mobile phones.
I still find some people who are engrossed in playing on their cellphones, even while listening to the Friday sermon in the mosque. I don't know what's on their minds, what's clear if that's the case, we are the ones being played with by cellphones.
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