$ Marriage $

Two persons become one.

"Til death do us part"

First of all, I would like to congratulate all successful marriage out there. Even if your marriage is not perfect, inspite of all the circumstances your marriage getting through, it stronger as it goes along the way.

Marriage is not about all happiness as fairy tales in the story.

Marriage is all about sacrifices, understanding, commitment, trust, give and take, freedom, communication and God's promise.

Sacrifices, you will learn how to prioritize the most important things in life. You will learn how to sacrifice your wants to your needs. Instead of buying your favorite sneakers or jeans, you will decide to buy your children's diaper or milk.. you learn how to be thrifty. So funny to think but it's true. Especially when you have children. The needs is more important than wants.. We can definitely buy wants if we have more left in our pocket. Instead of buying burgers for lunch, we chose to buy vaind for everyone. We learn to prioritize to buy each cents we have in our hand. So funny to think, but it's the reality.

Understanding, each one of you should learn how to understand each other. You have to always communicate so your marriage will not be in chaos. It should be the two of you in the family decide, set rules in the house and you have to talk constantly about the plans and things that happens to each of you. You have to agree in each plan you take so everyone's sides heard. Every little thing that you argue with, if being neglected will cause you to so much troubled. It's not about who wins, what matters most is that you agree both about the things that should be the best for the both of you, especially in your family.

In marriage, you have to give and take. Relationship is about generousity, not just in terms of material things but also being generous to give what your partners like or giving him free will. You should have a big heart to listen to each side. Let each other's voice be sounded. Listen to each other's suggestions, and let each one of you weigh the important matters that best for your family.

Marriage is earning each one's trust. Let each one of you have the free will. Give each time a break or a "me time" in which your partner can go anywhere he/she likes or he/she can go to gym, go play basketball, go to salon, window shopping or meet with friends sometimes. What I mean is, let each one of you have it's free time without any hesitations, or without any questions because you knew each of you have agreed both about giving each time a free will. Don't let your partner feels that you don't have a trust to him/her, instead let him/his feel that you trust him/her. Trust is a big factor to a long, peaceful and lasting relationship. But most especially, let God the center of your marriage. Because when you have Jesus as the center of your relationship, everything will just follow accordingly and both of your hearts desire will just follow.

It is not easy to be in a relationship, there are lots of adjustment that you have to do. But when God is there, everything will goes smoothly and synchronously.