Setting boundaries gives you control over your life and your time, and protects you from manipulation and doing things you don’t want to do.
Setting boundaries means the ability to say ‘no’, to stop allowing people to exploit and manipulate you.
Acting in this way means that you respect your life and your interests, and acknowledge that your own plans, goals and tasks are also important.
This action allows you to find time for yourself and for the things you love doing, instead of enslaving yourself to the whims and desires of other people.
You can set boundaries at work, with colleagues, in relationships, with family members, and in every other area of your life.
Maintaining boundaries in relation to other people, your family, friends, co-workers and strangers, protects you from unnecessary stress, anger and resentment.
Do You Set Boundaries and Limits in Your Everyday life?
How many times you were not able to say ‘NO’, and accepted other people’s requests and whims?
Do you allow your coworkers to delegate their work to you, but you feel you cannot say ‘NO’?
Do you feel guilty and awkward when you say ‘NO’ to your children, friends or the sales person at the store?
How many times have you felt anger and frustration due to your inability to say ‘NO’ to others and say ‘YES’ to yourself?
Acting in this way does not mean that you are uncaring and focused on yourself. It means respecting other people, but also respecting yourself, your priorities and your goals.
You can respect people and help them, yet be able to say ‘NO’ when this is the right thing to do.
Your inability to set limits to what people can ask you do, to say ‘NO’ and show inner strength can create a lot of resentment and unhappiness.
Why not try to inject a little dose of inner strength and confidence into your life and stop playing the role of a doormat?
“No is a complete sentence.” – Anne Lamont
Why Do You Need to Set Boundaries?
Personal boundaries are important because they set the guidelines of how you want to be treated. It is a declaration of your rights. Boundaries mean closing the door to what you do not want in your life.
Boundaries are guidelines that you establish, so people know what you allow and what you do not allow.
It’s a way to teach people how you wish to be treated and what kind of behavior is acceptable.
Setting boundaries is a way to protect your physical, emotional and mental well-being, to avoid stress, and keep away from other people’s negative thoughts and emotions.
The limits you impose by your words, behavior and reactions tell people what to expect from you.
Setting boundaries ensures that relations in any area of life can be mutually respectful, appropriate, and caring.
A boundary is a sort of a fence you set in order to protect your time and your well-being, which people should not pass. If you don’t set limits, you allow people to utilize your resources, spend your time, and make you do things you do not want to do.
