You know what
it feels like. When you see the most beautiful lady, you 're out at
a bar or club, or even just walking down the street. She may be pretty drop-dead or something about her smile makes you itch to get to know her better.
Yet you get nervous as you approach her.
You forget what to say, start mumbling and you may even forget your own name in extreme cases.
Read this article for some tips, if you want to know how to pick up a woman without being anxious or shy.
1. Know when to go in.
The first step is choosing the right woman to pick up.
You should find a woman who looks ready to chat to someone new, whether it's because she's bored with her current company or just because she's out looking for some fun. Although you can't always say whether a woman wants a new business, the more open that she is, the more likely that you will succeed. Here are some telling signs you should come up to her:
Of course if she checks you out.
If she looked at you more than once and even grinned at you when you caught your gaze, she would check you out.
If her friends all look at you and giggle over, then she
— or at least one of her friends — checks you out.
Now get over there.
If she looks bored with her work, or irritated.
Maybe when she speaks to a lonely girlfriend she gawns constantly, or she keeps
rolling her eyes at the group of noisy bros she's been turning up with.
Come on, knight in shiny armor — it's your chance to gallop over and pull her out of her business.
If you read the situation correctly she would appreciate the speed shift.
If she's on a date, don't approach, unless it's clearly not going well.
If she has an intense lip-locking session with her friend, make sure to steer clear.
But if she's on what looks like a first date and seems totally bored or if she's spending more time checking her phone with the guy she's with, you should approach her when the guy steps out if you feel confident.
If she has an intense catch-up session with her girlfriend don't approach.
If she's in a large group of people, that's one thing, but if it's her and another woman, and they're chatting rapidly and deeply and in over an hour they haven't scanned in crowd, she's probably having some much needed time with a buddy to catch up with.
2. Have faith in approaching her.
When you have met your goal, you need to show her that you are sure in who you are, that you enjoy what you do and that you would enjoy to get to know her, but if she refuses you, your life won't be over.
Coming across as needy or asking for affirmation can be a major turnaround. Note that most people would decide whether they want to go home with you within the first fifteen minutes of the conversation, so count your time with the girl. Here's how to do this: Make eye contact.
Firstly, make eye contact from across the room with her.
Then make sure that you lock the woman's eyes as you come up to her.
You don't have to be gross about it, but you can demonstrate that you're relaxed enough with the situation to look into her eyes, rather than looking at the floor or feet.
Smile.
Smile.
Smiling will prove you are comfortable
with the situation and not nervous.
Remember: you 're confident with who you are, so even though she
flatly refuses you, you 're going to walk out with your head up.
Don't slouch over your chin, and don't cross arms.
Keep your body open — whatever can happen.
Give her all the love she wants. Turn your body towards her without getting too close, and avoid any distractions, such as checking your phone every five seconds — or at all.
Part of looking confident is you should dress well.
You don't have to wear extravagant clothes, but just put it on a flattering outfit that suits well, and look like you showered earlier that day.
3. Make sure you 're saying the right thing and doing the right thing to get her attention hooked.
If you start on the wrong foot, it can be difficult to recover so as soon as you can make a good impression. How to do it, here is
Relax
and unwind.
When you reach her, if you're not happy, she'll
know it in a second and will be switched off.
Know the worst thing that
can happen is she's rejecting you.
Will
you survive?
Do not use a
line for pick up.
Unless you think she has a very dumb sense of humor, avoid some famous pick-up lines like, "You've
got to be tired, because you've been running through my mind all night." Women won't appreciate your originality.
Make it apparent
you 're hitting her.
If your approach is indirect, you may come across
as someone looking for friendship, rather than a date.
Express your interest straight
away to prevent any misunderstanding.
You might say , for example, "Would you like to come and
sit with me? I would love to buy you a drink. "
Place
yourself in.
Say her your name and you can even shake
her hand if you want to be sweet and formal.
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