The Grass Is Not Greener Elsewhere

Whether we talk about locations, a place to live, a job or a workplace the grass will not be greener. What I mean by that is every locations have their own ups and downs, so as a place, we decide to live and even our jobs.

People who don't feel comfortable with their current situation, they often think it's time for a change. That is very true and they should, because who wants to live at a place they don't like or do a job they hate, but unfortunately they also think the new situation they are about to change to, will be far better, than the current one. That is not always the case.

I know people who left their job, because they had enough of how others treated them there and they were just unhappy with everything. The funny thing is, that one of them came back after one day of working at their new place. The other said, that my heart is pulling me back to my old place. They left for a reason, but this is a good example for the grass is not greener elsewhere. People tend to imagine, that it would be much better, much enjoyable somewhere else. They have to realize, that in most cases they are wrong.

Especially in relationships. I think this is important to bring it up and talk about it. When you are in a relationship, even when you are not married, you sort of sign up for commitments. Yes both of you. There is always two people needed for a good, well established relationship. When you are married, you have to take it seriously, because you are wedded.

The unfortunate and sad thing is, that many people are not happy in their relationship and if they are not happy, they move on. There is no problem with that, but as we human beings are social and we cannot live or we find it very hard to live all alone without a partner, many people just start a new relationship while they are suffering in the old one. That is not how it should be, but it is very often done, because of the fear of being alone. Then and only then when the new relationship is established at a certain level, they move on. A few people don't even hasitate, they just jump in straight away, without at least knowing the new person a little bit.

These both scenarios can be turn out as a complete disaster. Well if the grass is not greener in the new relationship, they find themselves alone anyway. Two things can happen.

The right way

Try to accept the fact, that it did not work out well and just move on with your life. Close your old and new relationships, clear your mind. Heal! It will take a while, but once you are ready, you start a brand new relationship and live a happy life with your new partner and learn from your previous mistakes. You will be a much better and more experienced person this time.

The wrong way

You are panicing and you don't know what to do, but one thing you know, that you don't want to be alone. Not even for a week. So you call up your old partner and try to go back, asking them to start again. That is definitely not a very good idea. You were not happy in that relationship. You left for a reason. Your old partner probably won't want you back, especially if they found out you had another one beside them.