We think about our problems, because we have a place to think about them. We think about it off and on, little and big, spontaneous and planned. We think about the broken windows, the trash on the street, the day-to-day business and personal life struggles. We think about them without actually doing anything about them.
That's what we do. That's all we're good at. We're good at thinking about things, but not really doing anything about them. I don't know if you've ever had this problem before. I'm sure most of us have. It happens when something bad is going down, or when someone has done something wrong. You feel like you need to take action, but there isn't any. The world doesn't seem to be changing for the better anyway. Maybe it never will.
But that's okay. You're smart, and you've got all the time in the world. You're not in a rush. You have free will and the ability to think things through. You have literally everything you need to solve every problem you'll ever face. All you have to do is think and decide what needs to be done. Then you simply need to execute and the world will be fixed.
It's an easy thing to think about, but it can be difficult to put into practice. That's why we have rituals to focus our minds on the difficult things. Most of the time we have personal problems to deal with and those are the most difficult ones.
What Makes A Problem Personal?
There are a few problems, that are sufficiently important and personal enough, that they require more than just a carefully thought through decision. Those are problems, that force you to make a tough choice between what is right and wrong. Sometimes those choices aren't even easy, but you have to choose. You may not like the consequences of your decisions, but they are yours to make.
The most important thing to remember, is that real problems aren't personal unless you make them so. A problem doesn't become personal unless you decide it is. The most important choice you have to make is the one, that isn't even on the surface. The first step is coming to the realization, that a problem exists at all.
Problems arise in different ways. Sometimes they're brought on by choices you make. Other times someone does something and that action in turn causes a problem. This chain of events is what leads to you having a problem. Other times, a problem just has to be present to fuel other problems that happen.
Take for example a person, who destroys everything around them. They have a habit of breaking things and act in a way, that causes people to not want to be around them. Eventually, these people are alone and isolated. Now they have a problem. They're a loner and part of the problem is they don't know how to interact with others. People don't like being alone. Humans are social beings by nature. We can all agree to that.
What Are The Possible Consequences Either Addressing Our Problems Or Not?
A person with a problem can either address it themselves, or get someone else to help them. If they choose to address it themselves, then other people will either help willingly or be forced to by the problem. If the problem is severe enough, nobody will want to be around that person, so they're forced to address it themselves. This, of course, can cause the problem to get worse, but in most cases it gets better.
Unfortunately, in some cases a problem is so severe, that nobody is willing to help. That's when a person is left with no other choice, but to address the problem themselves. This is where that first step comes in.
The first step for a problem is to admit, that it exists. This can be the most difficult step for a lot of reasons. It's easier to deny a problem exists, when it isn't affecting you. For some people the first step is admitting they have a problem. Let's look at both steps.
Step 1:
A person has a problem, but they deny that it's a problem.
Sometimes a problem is so minor, that admitting it requires no action at all. If someone realizes, that they say something stupid every once in awhile, it's fine to admit, that they have a minor flaw. Other times admitting a problem means you have to actually do something about it. Admitting that you have a drinking problem is one of those things.
When a person realizes, that they have a problem, but don't want to take any action to fix it, they'll either lie to themselves or others. Lying to themselves is easier, because they don't have to face the possibility, that they might be wrong. Lying to others is easier still, because it trivializes the situation.
Sometimes this is harmless, but in other cases it can cause real problems in your life. Denying a problem to yourself is never good for your mental state. If you lie to yourself long enough, you might become more and more prone to doing it again in the future. Eventually you might not even realize, that you have a problem at all.
It's the same principle as taking too much medication for a minor headache. Eventually the drug will stop working altogether, and you'll be left with a worse headache, than before.
Step 2:
A person admits they have a problem, and takes action to fix it.
This step is simple. They just have to admit, that they have a problem and take action to fix it.
This can be as serious as getting help with an addiction or as minor as fixing their posture, when they speak to someone. If they take action to fix the problem, they're one step closer to getting their lives back on track.
Channel Your Energy Into Your Happiness
Most of the time people get stuck in a loop of repeating the same mistakes over and over again and don't realize it. It's only when something changes, that they can break out of that loop.
This can be something big, like changing jobs or even changing locations. It can also be something small, like making sure to say "please" and "thank you" every once in awhile. The important thing is to do something, that isn't the same old thing.
Everyone makes mistakes now and again. Even if we're making different ones, eventually we'll break out of the cycle if we continue to change direction. This is really important in our lives, because we can't expect to move forward if we don't even realize we're stuck in the first place.
Ask ourselves these questions. Is our attitude negative most of the time? Do we have a tendency to blame other people for our problems? Are we only thinking about ourselves? Are we taking on too much?
This isn't something that just affects our behavior and how we act to other people. It also has an effect on how we see ourselves. If we don't like ourselves, then why should anyone else?
Everyone has their own problems and issues, they have to deal with on a daily basis. There isn't a person alive, who doesn't have flaws, but you're not alone. Everyone has been in a situation at one time, where they feel alone. Just remember that time to time.
We have our own set of advantages over everyone else. Our intelligence is one of them.
There are some people afraid facing problems. They don't want to face problems, they make a lie with themselves and to the people who surround them and the most is it makes worst where it can causes a lot of pain and ruins everything. That's why we should face it and be brave. Problems are part in our life you can't escape it. Don't wait the time you regret in the end.
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