In this article I will talk about introverts and extroverts. It was mentioned in one of @Ellehcim's articles and I said I was thinking of a comparison article. Now I will take the opportunity to write it.
So let's get started.
There are many misconceptions about introverted and extroverted people. Many people look down on and belittle introverted people and pigeonhole both parties.
I believe that the world we live in is tailored for extroverts. I think this just from the fact, that if you go for a job interview, for example, they will ask you about your communication skills, how you find yourself in unexpected situations, how you act when it comes to managing a small group, what you would do in an emergency, and so on.
In today's fast-paced world, we are increasingly finding, that a lot depends on making connections. If you have good relationships, you can more easily succeed in any area of life. That's why extroverts have become more valued, so to speak.
There is more emphasis on striving, building relationships, building your career, being successful and things like that. They talk less about developing yourself with self improvement techniques, reading a lot, taking care of yourself and loving yourself.
Extroverts can answer the questions mentioned above more easily, because they are more open, communicate more easily, act and make decisions faster.
They get their energy from the outside world, they like to be in good company and they like to have eventful days. Their decision making is also often instantaneous. If there is a fire incident at work, for example, they will be the ones, who act immediately and make instant decisions.
Introverts often feel excluded from social gatherings, because of their quiet and withdrawn nature. They can often develop the idea, that there is something wrong with them, because they are not good at relating and communicating.
Unlike extroverts, when they want to recharge, they retreat and spend time quietly by themselves. They are drained by large company. If they do meet someone, they prefer to do it alone.
They find it harder to open up and are not as open as extroverts and therefore find it harder to communicate with others, especially if there are unfamiliar people in their company.
Introverts are very deliberate and therefore their decision-making is slower, but deeper and more rational, than that of extroverts.
If, for example, in a relationship, one party is introverted and the other is extroverted, they will have to compromise and both parties will have to understand each other.
In this case, they can both be upwardly mobile at the same time. While one leaves home to be in large company, the other has time to recharge quietly at home.
It's no problem at all to be an introvert. People of both natures can ask and offer help to the other and complement each other well.
Let's look at a few role models for introverts, that people often think about them.
They Don't Like People
They like people too, they just have fewer friends, but those who are their friends they can develop and maintain deeper and more intimate relationships with.
They Don't Like Company
This is not true either. They like company too, they just feel comfortable in smaller groups, because large groups wear them out, causing them to withdraw and crave solitude to recharge.
They Don't Like To Talk
They like to talk, just not about superficial things, but prefer more in-depth, content-rich conversations.
They Are Shy
They are not necessarily shy, they just don't want to or don't feel like starting a conversation.
They Have No Independent Thoughts And Opinions
They have their own thoughts and opinions, but they don't always express them.
At the same time, extroverts are not in an easy position either, because they are seen as loudmouths, cocky, pushy and nerdy.
The situation is not so extreme, however, because both sides have the opposite trait - they are called ambiverts.
Introverts like to talk, too, but the difference is, that they feel really liberated with their own circle of friends, whereas extroverts feel liberated with everyone.
It is very important to remember, that neither party is better than the other. Both qualities are perfectly fine and there is nothing wrong with either of them. Everyone is the best at their own trait and that is fine.
Are you introvert or extrovert? Have you ever felt different from other people, because of your nature?
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In my opinion, we should really know who we are tho, sometimes it may be hard. But my point is, I can never be settle for good, if I am not be able to know the true identity of myself. But sometimes, I came to think also, that I am what you have just defined in your article.😅Two identities or personalities but existed in one.