From Happiness Through Bitterness And Back To Happiness Again

The Real And Only True Love

There comes a time in every person's life, when they find true love. When nothing else interests you, but your other half. Age, age difference, distance and even different nationalities don't matter. Love will overcome all obstacles and nothing will be impossible for us.

We feel, that everything is so wonderful, everything is so simple, all our problems just disappear and all we can see are those certain pink clouds all around us, because love completely blinds us. We know, that we have found love in another person.

It is perhaps one of the most beautiful, most wonderful feelings, we will ever experience in our lives. We are filled with a boundless happiness, because we are in love. How deep this indescribable feeling is, is perhaps beyond words, but how long it will last and what the end of the relationship will be, unfortunately no one can tell us in advance.

At best it lasts a lifetime , but unfortunately, there are also situations in relationships, when it breaks down and even though, we have tried to save it and tried every possible way to keep it alive, but we couldn't. Perhaps it was already too late. The fire in one of us had died down and the embers were slowly going stone cold.

If You Love Them, Let Them Go

So say people, who have been through a break up or divorce once or even several times. I would liken it to letting go of a bird and letting it fly away and live free. You let that bird enjoy its freedom and it flies happily out of its cage.

The person you really love, no longer loves you or has never loved you with a pure heart. Or they once felt, that they had found their life's meaning in you and had a great love affair with you, but are now disillusioned with you and simply they want someone else, or perhaps they love someone else. In this case, letting go may really be the best thing to do.

If You Love Me, Let Me Go

Says the person you really love. This is perhaps the hardest thing to hear from a person, with whom you have imagined your life, planned a family, because you really loved them or still love them.

Especially if they say it very seriously, looking you in the eye. They look you in the eye the same way they did, when they first told you they loved you, only now there's no kiss on the lips.

This time your eyes will not be wet with tears of joy and your heart will be beating differently. You feel, that time has stopped and you can't get a word in edgewise. All you can think is how the hell can I let you go when I love you. It's just impossible and when you try to touch their hands you can't find them. Their hands are out of reach. It seems as if they had simply disappeared. It feels like you reach out for nothing.

From the moment they let you know, that it was all over with you, something inside you was broken forever. At least at that moment, you feel that your life no longer makes sense, because everything you have built up until now, has suddenly collapsed like a house of cards.

The wind was too strong to keep that particular house of cards stable. Losing someone is always very painful and bitter. Knowing that you will now go to bed alone and wake up in a lonely bed in the morning. No one to snuggle up with at night and no one to kiss in the morning.

Time Will Heal You

You have nothing to worry about. Time will solve everything and heal all your pains. Says the one, who feels for you and tries to comfort you. Of course, you know this very well and you may have said it to others, but it's hard to believe now, that this is all happening to you, because your heart is still bleeding from many wounds.

There are difficult months or even years ahead. Not only can you not think of a new relationship, but you don't see any chance of meeting a person at all. The thought never even crosses your mind.

Your best friends seem to have become even better friends, than they were before. They give you all the support you can imagine. Even at work, your colleagues have a different attitude towards you.

Personally, I think the best thing you can do is not to shut yourself in, not to withdraw, not to spend your free time alone. Then your mind just wanders and you can't think about anything else, but how bad life is now. In my previous article I wrote about this very thing, what you can do in such a situation. You can read about it here.

What To Do When You Can't See The Way Out

What you need in a situation like this, is to break out of your loneliness. A holiday with your friends can be a very good idea and of course a change of scenery is also essential, if you want to focus your attention fully on relaxation and fun.

I know taking a holiday with friends is not feasible at the moment, but generally speaking it's a really great idea. The passage of time and any activities we organise for ourselves, will help us get through these difficult times. We become more and more liberated, more open to the world and the people around us.

Slowly we begin to regain what we feel we have lost and find ourselves again. We might even enjoy this period of being single, because you don't have to conform to anyone, no one has any expectations of you, you don't have to compromise with anyone and you are your own boss.

We Are Social Beings

Human is a social being and of course we cannot live alone for the rest of our lives. We all need a partner in most cases. Once everything is back to normal and we are ourselves again, we are ready to start a new relationship. I know this is not an easy thing for everyone. Especially when one has different kinds of expectations to meet from a prospective partner.

I think it is very important to mention here, when it comes to finding a partner, that you should not want someone in your life at any cost. Just to avoid being single, it may not be a good idea to let in anyone, who comes across your way. I'm not saying that it's impossible, because it's possible to meet someone, who is destined for us for the first time. There might be a definite sense of a common wave.

The other very important thing is to have the previous relationship completely closed and that no contact of any kind is maintained. What is perhaps even more important is not to look for the previous person in the others. We will not find their traits, their characteristics, their behaviour. Let's close it completely, otherwise we will be very disappointed in others, through no fault of their own.

Close the past. One door has been closed permanently and a new one has been opened. I believe in daring to go through that door. We never know, what surprises it has in store for us. In many cases, we find our partner in situations,that we hadn't planned for. It's kind of spontaneous.

This is where the idea of not looking for your partner at all costs comes in. Love will come when it's supposed to come and it will find you. Who fate will bring us together with, on what path, how and for how long, no one can tell us in advance, but we don't need to know. What is important instead, is to live in a happy and well balanced relationship or marriage.