Fight Or Run?

I'm sure you've encountered countless instances in your own life, when you've had to decide whether to face the problem or run away? Specifically, in this article I am not talking about when you are in a life-threatening situation. You are attacked by a wild animal or a human being with a knife or a weapon of some kind and you of course run away. This is not that.

There's two things you can do in the event, when some unexpected situation, that you're not prepared for, comes up. Now you can blame this on either your business or your personal life, but I'm sure you've encountered this before, either in smaller or larger doses in your life. My suggestion is to do nothing, but Jack Sparrow from Pirates of the Caribbean.

He pauses for a bit and watches the sea calm down. I know, it's easy to say as an outsider, but believe me, if you look outside your box and get a bird's eye view of the problem, you're one step closer to a solution. But if you take the second alternative and run, you'll break. There have been many instances in my life, in the past, when I have done this in different cases. Believe me, every single thing has broken my confidence, my self-esteem.

That's the big lesson I learned in life, to never run away again. Always face the problem at hand. That's my advice to you. If you are not strong enough and you don't have the energy, don't do anything else, ask for help from people, who are a little bit ahead of you, because there will be people in your life, who can help you. There is always a tension, that comes first. An unexpected stress, a gut-wrenching feeling, because you can't handle the problem. Because you don't have the necessary competence.

Then look at the situation as a captain does at sea, on his ship. He looks at it, asks a simple question, which of course he is concerned about, and lets the question go, he doesn't look for an explanation. He asks no help from the analytical mind, for it will throw him a string of nonsense from the past. It's always a bad choice, a bad decision. The right solution always comes from intuition. It's just thrown into the system.

If you use the second one and run, thank God I've broken that paradigm down in myself. It's very rare, that I don't face the problem head on. There are still loose ends here, but there were many more in the past. That's my advice to you, to weed them out more and more, because it damages your self-esteem, your self-worth, if you can't face the problem. Whether it's a person, whether it's a situation, whether it's a recurring fear. I don't know.

Look as the captain looks out to sea. In full serenity, in full presence. Stop for a moment, like the engine in the aquarium, that drives the oxygen into the water. So you too stop for a moment and look at it. I've been in plenty of situations, where I've had that unexpected circumstance and I've had that gut wrenching feeling. I got the stress.

People usually reduce that state with some kind of quick stimulant, alcohol. They don't want to experience that state, they want to forget it, they don't want to identify with it. The point is, that you have to take control of it for a moment. You have to pay attention to what's going on inside you. You don't run away from it, you face it.

After a while, it will have less and less strength, less and less energy and it will just run away, because your attention, your focus is not there. It's true, that for a moment you look at it with a magnifying glass. You get closer to it to examine, where it comes from, where its germ is.

Once you do, you take your attention off it and focus on the solution. You stop licking your wounds. That's not you. You don't need that. If you can do that and come out of the storm, I guarantee you, that your competence will go to a higher level.

Your level of consciousness will also rise. You will become more and more aware and you will no longer be upset by certain situations. If you choose the alternative of running away and not facing the problem, you either need to call someone or you need to answer someone. It doesn't matter what it is. It could be personal, business or whatever. Believe me, the situation will repeat itself.

It's a matter of time and you will be back in this situation to either escape for a little while or for a longer period of time. Then life will come again and bring bigger and bigger challenges. Once again you will be forced to run away.

So What Is The Solution?

This is a serious proven fact, because this is how I live my life, and this is what I've gone through, that I've had a lot of fears in the past, that when I faced them, in that sacred moment, the energy went out from behind them and disappeared. It never happened again after that. If I encountered it by chance somewhere, I no longer had a bad feeling about it.

We all have a hole in our boot somewhere. No exception. Those who are self-improvers, those who are teachers, those who are way ahead of us, even masters. Everyone has room for improvement. But my advice is to look at it, like the pirate on the boat. Quiet yourself. Look around you. Turn on all your senses. Don't just use your eyes and your ears and your thoughts, because a lot of confusion will come out of that. Those are not the right solutions. Let it go and let the energy flow so that the solution comes in intuitively. That is the great lived experience.

Look into it, because there is a lesson in every situation. There are angels, they help you. In whatever form. You just have to realize it and that's the hardest thing, because we're caught up in our thoughts. When help comes, we don't reach for it, because we're up here in our head spinning all this nonsense.

Take yourself out of the system for a moment, get off the merry-go-round, because you might be feeding and raising your energy with different stimulants right now. Whether it's tobacco, alcohol, energy drinks or sweets.

You can keep it up, but after a while, as a control bulb, the body will signal to you, that something is wrong. Calm yourself down. That's the way to go. In the long run, it will get you going in the right direction. The run away solution is short term. It is true, that if you run away, you will run out of that tension, you will get away from it, but it will keep repeating until the moment you face it head on.