Do you realize how beautiful you are? Probably no, because you are too busy thinking about how your waist can be thinner, your nose can be more pointed, your lips could be fuller, your hair could be blonde, or read or some other shallow body modification.
You want six-packs, bigger biceps, the iron-board chest -you know, you just want to look the picture of the perfect man/woman.
You hate the pimples on your face, so you're willing to try anything -ANYTHING- to get rid of them. Any cream, any home treatment, however outrageous it is. You're willing to do all that to be perfect.
You begin to hate yourself when affected by stuff like stretch marks and a receding hairline - things purely beyond your control. Why me? Why can't I be like him/her? Why must my body be like this?
Have you ever stopped to wonder why you're doing this?
Or more importantly, have you stopped to think about how shallow you're being? How you're paying maximum attention and being worried about the things that simply do not matter?
Have you stopped to think that the contents of your head and your character matter much more than your shape? That after all people will say about your looks, the only thing people really value is how you think?
Have you stopped to think that you want these things purely because you are only concerned about they might make other people think better of you? Have you reasoned that the procurement of these things is not necessary, and can put a strain on the pocket? Have you reasoned that you're just being a mirror, not having an identity of yourself but just reflecting what others want to see?
The fact is that we know getting that surgery, buying that product isn't really to make us feel better about ourselves, it's to make others feel better about us. Others that are not in any d@mn way better than us. Others that are not perfect. Others have their own life with their own problems, and really don't care about our opinion.
Yep, that's the 'others' that we want our happiness and satisfaction to depend on.
Seventy - eighty years ago, the idea of a perfect woman was this slim, pencil-like figure with a tiny waist and big pearly eyes. Today, it's thick women. See something annoying? Yeah, it's that 'beauty' and 'perfection' does not have a definition.
If you get that surgery now, in the next few years, that shape or feature might be 'so 5 years ago'. And then what, under the knife again? Sooner or later you'll look like a tailor's workshop with all the stitches and add-ons. And then you'll be a lot less fulfilled and depressed about your image than you were when you first started.
The fact is that most people who go under the knife or get a product to enhance themselves go again and again. Why? I thought they said they just needed that facelift, that silicone implant and that would be it. Why go under the knife again and again?
Man's desperate search for fulfillment has made him go to stupid lengths to get satisfaction. Or wait... to get the approval of others. Others' acceptance of you determines your acceptance of yourself. Have you come to terms with how shallow you're thinking? With how you've learned to place their opinions above yours?
I accept that some may have their personal reasons for doing this, but I'm addressing those who think it's a need. Who think it is mandatory. Who think less of themselves because they have that feature that society sees as 'weird'.
The day you begin to accept yourself is the day you discover how beautiful and wonderful you really are, inside out. Never forget that.
Agree. Being accepted in society is a big deal nowadays. But if we embrace our flaws, no one can ever use them against us. But embracing our flaws doesn't mean we'll not take care of ourselves. There's nothing wrong with using those beauty products and in being in shape. As long as we're doing it to make ourselves feel better and not because we want acceptance, acknowledgement, and applause from society.