Forgiveness can only be done through acceptance. It is easy to say but is hard to do and everything it needs is for your heart to feel. One could easily say he or she forgives but it always takes braveness for a heart to let go of it.
As humans, we always make mistakes whether we are aware of it or not. This comes from the variety and differences of our ideals and cultures. Doing this could be good for one culture but is something bad to another. Some people tend to be sensitive and some are not. Some are arrogant, some are humble. These differences yield something that could instill pain to one another. One could get hurt by the words coming from someone who is less sensitive that him or her. One could get hurt because he or she believe in something that won't happen. One could be hurt by the words coming from someone who looked down on him or her. There are a lot of ways for someone to get hurt whether we are conscious of it or not. We are part of this. You got hurt but you have hurt someone else before. You hurt someone because they hurt someone else. Regardless of the reason for it, there is no such thing as over reaction if people got hurt. Pain is only relevant if it still hurts. If it hurts, it is always genuine.
How do people forgive these mistakes? Do they really forgive. But can they really forget?
No, I don't think people forget. However, people really forgives. This ideals may or may not differ from you. I personally believe in it. The fact that you've been hurt before by a person will always be there. Bad memories tend to remain in someone's mind more than that of the good ones. It is a scar that becomes fresh when you look at the person who did it to you. It is very impossible to deny it. However, some people embrace these pain. Those are the ones who truly forgives. It is a matter of acceptance for someone to embrace that pain. That even if it still hurts you already forgive that person. Forgiveness doesn't always mean being with that person again. It doesn't mean to hang out with him or her. It doesn't mean you'll become best of friends. If you can then it is absolutely okay. But, what forgiveness really means is acceptance that you have been hurt by that person. It is what it is. Pain will be there forever or for now. It always differs from person to person. One simple apology could change that though. It is the traditional one. It is the most accepted one rule of forgiveness. But you know what, things wouldn't go back to the way they were whether you received an apology or not. If this is what makes you move on then its okay. Nothing really matters except the acceptance of a heart.One could easily say he or she forgives but it always takes braveness for a heart to let go of it.
I hope that everyone lives without pain in there heart. It is really impossible but I hope anyone who reads this may be blessed with happiness. :)