Context: Mother's stress and behavior towards the child

Context: Mother's stress and behavior towards the child

Many say we're just saying "you can't be beaten", but not how a mother can get out of stress. I have talked about it many times before, I have done a lot of counseling, how to get rid of postpartum depression, how to manage mood swings - these articles come back, but we are not writing about mothers or complaints.

We are not approving Mami Shaming here at all. It is said so many times that even if the mothers are in a bad mood, they remember at least once before raising their hands. If you kill him with anger, the child will learn the same with whoever he is. I was upset so I broke the glass of the house tell me exactly what it is. If it is broken, it is the last. But in this glass I drank water daily, my favorite glass. Feeling broken. What I have to do, I have to control my own anger, resentment. Even if I get up to break the glass, I put it down gently. I have to say in my mind many times throughout the day that I will never do that again.

Suppose Jalil's father was unconsciously angry, so his wife beat Jalil's mother a lot and even divorced him verbally. Then when the anger cools down, he caresses his wife again. But people say Jalil's father is not good, he beats his wife. Everyone asked him why he was standing on the fence. How much the poor man loves his wife! When he gets angry, his head is not right, then he doesn't understand what he is doing, then he gets in trouble. 😐😐

What is the main difference between Jalil's father and the beaten mother? Jalil's mother and the beaten child are in the same position. Both are victims. And Jalil's father and the beaten mother did not commit the same crime? Dear mother, seven murders are forgiven!

Now let's get to the real thing. The mother has to be very strong, she has to be able to speak directly, she has to have the mentality to be able to ignore the bad things of others, she has to get rid of what people will say, what she will think, type, and the child has to get rid of all this.

Think of yourself as important. Apply oil and lotion on the baby's body as well as on your own. Eat yourself before feeding the baby and of course sleep with the baby when he sleeps. Children who have trouble sleeping should sleep with a care giver for some time. If there is no one else, you can put the small child in the cot or cradle next to the bed. If you have an older child, make sure that there are no dangerous things within his reach. Make the home child friendly, then a lot of worries will come down.

Mothers are more stressed with housework. You need to understand what the priority is. Of course before the child. The baby is upset, can't cook. Stop cooking, order food or go out to eat with the baby and if that is not possible then knock on the door of the house next door. Another day you either cook more or buy from a restaurant and give it to them.

On the day when there is a husband or a helper, cook more and keep it in a separate box in the fridge. So as not to go to the trouble of cooking the other day.

And Apara doesn't stop teasing about baby food. Fried, sugar, sweet, spicy food is not good at any age. If you change your eating habits, then you don't have to think differently for your child.

Give the child the whole time the day it will be more annoying. If you don't do housework one day, nothing will happen. Stop overloading yourself with work. Just do as much as you can without being stressed. Those who can have helpers must have helpers. Rice cookers, pressure cookers, ovens, washing machines and other appliances that make the job easier must be taken by those who can afford it.

For those who don't have a helper, stop begging or wondering what they think. Those who think so do not take care of you or your child when you are in trouble. Try to explain well to the parents of the children and the people around them who do not understand this. You are in trouble. Please don't put up with it. And do not quarrel, it will ruin your peace of mind. Try to explain, if you don't understand, don't stress yourself by going to check his work.

Don't be upset if you don't understand why he doesn't understand me. Understand yourself. Try to make yourself happy by not seeing who did what for you. "If no one comes to hear your call, let's go alone." Help yourself, because whoever does not help himself, Allah will not help him.

Mood swings during post-partum depression or periods - we know these are the mood swings. Make sure I don't lose my temper these days. Get good sleep and rest. Tell your partner, let the people close. Never feel ashamed to ask for help. If you fall into the water and don't know how to swim, you have to ask for help to survive. Then no one thinks that people will think that I have fallen into the water.

Another point is that the child does a lot of mischief, makes the house dirty, destroys everything, gets tired. Well, the child is doing all this. If you were as big as me, he would understand, and wouldn't do that. Make yourself think that these are normal. All children do these things. My baby does. Keep explaining them. Learn when and how to rule. Kids do most of the work out of curiosity. There is a childish reason behind their every action. This psychology cannot explain to them that your house is dirty. So if the child is raw, the house will be dirty, set this mentality.

You are such a beautiful baby's mother. Make videos of his mischief, take pictures. And hug him many times throughout the day. This will reduce the stress on both the baby and you. Find a way out of everything that is negative in life. Seek refuge in the Creator. We have to pray for her to increase her mother's patience and endurance. Love yourself. Believe in yourself- You are so special!