#Baby_excessive_jed :_what_is_the_real_my_stery
As human beings of flesh and blood, we have different kinds of emotions. We are sometimes angry, sometimes happy, sometimes crying, sometimes laughing again. All this is normal. Even a child is a person made of blood and flesh like our adults. So if he's angry, why can't we think it's normal to cry?
What do we do when our adults are very angry or when for some reason we are very frustrated or can't do anything? Some of us shout, some of us sit / lie down, some of us vandalize the house. The point is, either way, anger comes out of us or we bring it on. This time the question is who do we shout when we are angry? Or when things break, who breaks? Everyone's answer will come on their own household items and it can be on their own people - mother-father, brother-sister, husband-wife, any close friend. Why with them? Why not vent my personal anger by going out with someone or a neighbor? For one thing আমরা we know very well that they will not tolerate our anger, we do not consider them safe enough to light our own anger. But those who are my relatives will tolerate me no matter what, they will understand that this is what we hope for In the same way, a child expresses his anger, frustration, fatigue and failure with his parents. She thinks it is safer for her parents to react to these feelings
This stubbornness, anger, crying, random behavior and screaming of children is called #tantrums_or_baby_badness. These tantrums are commonly found in toddlers # 12_ to_38_ months. However, from the age of 16-18 months, it starts to occur at almost regular intervals and at the age of 2 years, the maximum form means it appears in a very intense form. So this two to three year period is called #Terrible_two or in Bengali it can be called Durant Dui.
This time I will tell a small incident. At the end of my daughter's 18-month routine checkup, the doctor gave me a Care instructions. Here are some tips to help you take care of a child of that age after almost every routine checkup. I was surprised to read that guide when I got home, because it said that a baby after 18 months could misbehave # 30_ times_ a day. About a month ago, my daughter started having occasional tantrums. And with that I would feel a little emotional pressure. But seeing that word more than 30 times, I was very grateful in my mind that my daughter still does not do it more than once a week !!
#How_do_you_understand my baby is having tantrums? Children are usually during tantrums.
* Can start with a lot of crying, a little crying or whining.
* Screams, pulls and cries. It can last from 10 minutes to 30 minutes or more.
* Crying / screaming by throwing hands and feet, can throw feet towards anything.
* Sometimes someone can hold their breath again.
* Can break things.
* Can cause vomiting while crying.
* Some people can be very aggressive again!
#Why_is_tantrames?
* Tantrums are a step in a #normal_behavioral_development. Just like a child learns to sit, learns to walk. But when he goes to learn these, he stumbles, falls, gets hurt and after a while he learns And tantrums can be said to be a pre-existing practice of learning a child's mental and behavioral self-control.
* Children at this age begin to develop social and emotional issues at this age 6 In this way they begin to get acquainted with various new things and some of these things are beyond their control or understanding That's a big reason for tantrums.
* 1-3 year old children learn to speak but still do not fully acquire the skills to express all their emotions. So this limitation in self-expression frustrates them and from this frustration of not being able to understand begins to show their bad temper.
* Tantrums are a way for children to try to understand their own situation as adults, they want to understand what they are going through.
* Stress, hunger, fatigue - these also cause tantrums.
* In some situations, tantrums occur when the baby cannot adapt.
* Some strong feelings such as fear, panic, humiliation, anger are also tantrums.
# How_to_ handle_tantrames?
Tantrums are normal behavior for every toddler. And it is not permanent, it starts at a certain age and usually ends. But how we handle it is very important. Much depends on how it affects the behavior of our children in the future.
Experts have suggested some things that we can follow in managing tantrums:
1. First of all, it is important to know that #children_don't_do_this_that_to_give_a_rise. This is because they lose control of their emotions Many of us think my kids do these things to irritate me. But this idea is not correct at all. The baby itself has no hand in it.
2. 'Only my children are so whining, crying, screaming, angry, stubborn, how quiet other people's children are'. Get it out of your head right now. #All_Children_is_tantrames. In almost all countries it is as true as the rising of the moon and the sun. However, in some countries, the frequency and type of tantrums varies depending on the amount of rainfall.
3. It is good to admit that we parents cannot control all the emotions of our children even if we want to. We can give them some instructions at this time and make sure that no accidents happen.
4. You can have a specific plan in advance and some ways to fix how to handle these special times will be much easier for you.
5. You can identify the issues in which your child has tantrums. And try to avoid them as much as possible.
. Whenever there is a tantrums, you will encourage your child to express his / her feelings / reasons for the tantrums in words. It may be easier for you to solve the problem.
. When your child has tantrums you will try to deal with him as calmly and sincerely as possible. Keep your voice low. Even if you start showing anger with the child, beating him, saying naughty, rude, like that, like that, then it will only make the situation worse. Even the frequency of tantrums may increase further in the future! So you should not be restless / aggressive or aggressive at all!
. Don’t make the child laugh at this point or act like it’s blown away by saying nothing like that. The cause of trantramus may seem insignificant to our adults but it is a very big cause for young children. Since their own ability to manage this emotional situation has not yet been created, they express their special emotions in this way.
9. Make a specific routine for the baby and always follow it. In a routine, children usually know or understand when things are going to happen, or whether they will be fed now or not. Tantrams are less because there is already a mental preparation.
10. Whenever tantrums start, many people try to seduce the baby with food or something else or stop crying. But in this the child is subconsciously rewarding his tantrums. So it is better not to do it. You can try to divert the child's attention.
11. If you have tantrums, you can hold the baby in your arms and hold him tightly until your baby stops throwing his arms and legs. But you can't get too excited while doing it. It works pretty well.
12. During this time you can leave the baby alone in his room for a while. Better a poor horse than no horse at all. However, care must be taken to ensure that the house is safe.
13. When the tantrums are over and the baby is calm, you can explain his behavior to him.
14. Care should be taken so that the child is not overly tired or overly hungry You have to be very careful about these things so that the child is not afraid.
15. Appreciate the good work of the child. In that he behaves quite positively and predictably. Children show less tantrums when they are praised for positive environment and good behavior.
16. This behavior in a public place / outside the home embarrasses the parents a lot Suppose your child suddenly goes to a shopping mall and starts showing tantrums. Get out of there as soon as possible. And don't give him anything to calm him down even if he doesn't make a mistake.
16. Remember, how we handle them during these tantrums is also a lesson for them. They are also learning from our management how to manage stress, how to face problems, how to handle one's own difficult time. So it is not only for our parents to handle them but also to teach the children how to behave in any situation.
16. Saying ‘no’ to the child in everything makes the child more reckless. So try to say 'no' as little as possible. Give the child a choice. Like you can't have a baby in answer to 'eat an apple'. So you can say 'do you eat apples or oranges'? By doing this the child is taking his opinion in a way, and he no longer feels convinced.
Children's tantrums are like thunderstorms and torrential rains. Ever been out after a heavy storm? All around is very calm and cool then? After the tantrums, the babies also become so calm and cool that you will not find any resemblance to the baby you saw two minutes ago.
The hope, however, is that the duration of these trantams is very short (12 months - 36 months). If we can manage this time very carefully, according to the rules, we can expect to have a child as calm and smooth as nature after the storm, can't we?