Here are some of the things we need to know when looking for our soulmates,.
1.Enjoy being single. It may seem counterintuitive, but it is important that you are happy and confident as a single person before you are ready to find your soulmate. Relationships will last longer if both partners are healthy, stable, and confident in themselves. If you want to find your soulmate--and if you want your ideal partner to be equally attracted to you--you have to know who you are, what you want, and like yourself. Some ways for you to enjoy spending time with yourself include:
#Finding interesting hobbies to pursue
#Valuing your friendships and family
#Pursuing an interesting, stable career
#Practicing being confident and strong
#Keeping a diary to help keep you focused and to remind you of how far you've come
2.Cultivate desirable traits in yourself. Make a list of traits you enjoy in a partner. Perhaps you are attracted to a good sense of humor or to a nice smile. Maybe you like someone who is athletic and participates in sports, or maybe you are attracted to someone who enjoys reading novels. No matter what the trait is, consider how you might be able to embody that trait yourself. If you work on yourself in this way, you might find that you end up meeting somebody who shares your interests and desires. Moreover, if you do not end up meeting your soulmate in this way, you will still have improved yourself and learned new skills.
3.Keep an open mind. Studies show that people are not always able to predict the traits to which they are most attracted. If you make a list of desirable traits, it is quite likely that you will be attracted to a person in real life who exhibits quite different traits.It is fine to have a few relationship dealbreakers as you attempt to find your ideal partner: however, let your instincts guide you more than a list of pros and cons. You might be surprised by the wonderful person you meet.
#It is especially important to avoid certain internal biases and prejudices. Do not judge a person based on his/her skin color, religion, ethnicity, or age. Take some time to get to know the person before you decide whether or not a relationship is worth pursuing.
4.Steer clear of attached persons. If you meet a wonderful person who is in a relationship with somebody else, resist the urge to have an affair with him or her. Most relationships that began with an act of infidelity do not last. They are rooted in scarcity and in wanting what you cannot have more than in true affection.Wait until your ideal partner is single for a while before pursuing him or her in order to make sure that your relationship has a fighting chance.
5.Develop your social network. The more interesting friends you have, the more interesting strangers you will meet through them. Expand your social network to expand your dating pool. Pursue friendships and close acquaintanceships if you want to meet new, promising people to date.Some great ways to meet likeminded people include:
#Joining a meetup group
#Participating in a hobby
#Volunteering for a cause you care about
#Joining an alumni organization
#Cultivating the friendships and acquaintanceships you have: invite friends out to dinner, host a few parties, or schedule a happy hour
6.Be friendly. Smiling and laughing will help make new acquaintances feel more comfortable around you. If you want to encourage somebody to open up, keep your body language open and act in a friendly manner. Some light flirting with someone you're attracted to is also a great way to determine if they are attracted to you as well.
7.Say yes to blind dates. Your friends know who you are and what you like. Let their instincts guide you if they think you might be a good match for someone they know.Not all blind dates are successful, but some certainly are. Don't close yourself off to opportunities to meet new, interesting people.
8.Know how people flirt. There are numerous styles of flirting. However, in general, the most successful flirters tend to be respectful, complimentary, expressive, and use friendly body language. People who use closed-off body language, teasing, or self-deprecation in flirting tend not to be as successful.Pay attention to the following traits if you want to flirt or be able to recognize flirting in others:
#Smiling and laughing
#Affirming through nods or verbal agreements
#Continuing the conversation
#Using open body language (open arms, legs, and palms)
#Sharing personal details
#Making eye contact
#Asking questions
9.Keep your online dating profile honest but mysterious. Many people find their soulmates through online dating. However, it can be a tough world to navigate. Users report having more success when they keep their dating profiles honest but brief. Let there be a bit of mystery when other users read your profile: don't show your hand right away. Use dates to get to know each other: don't let the profile do all the work for you.[12]
10.Meet people in heart-pounding places. People are more likely to feel attracted to someone else when they are in a situation of arousal. Having a fast heartbeat, sweating, and experiencing extreme feelings can make someone more susceptible to feelings of sexual attraction and liking.[13] Some good, physically arousing places where you might find a potential soulmate include:
#The gym
#High places
#Horror films
11.Tell yourself there is not one single person out there for you. If there were only one person meant to fall in love with one other person, then only 1 out of every 10,000 people would find true love during their lifetimes.[14] We all know that this isn't true: people fall in love and have beautiful relationships all the time. Do not become obsessed with finding the single best person for you: instead, make it your goal to develop close, sustaining, healthy, and loving relationships. See if your soulmate might blossom in front of you instead of depending upon random chance to give you the one perfect person. Many of the most satisfying kinds of love happen over a long period of time, which indicates that soulmates become so over many years of getting to know one another's.