Three ways to overcome trust issues

5th of March 2022

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You have issues, more specifically you have trust issues. And I completely understand you've been through a lot, people have betrayed you, let you down and they've given you reason to be very sceptical, but we can't continue like that, it needs to be fixed.

1. You need to heal from your past first

The reality is that having trust issues is a manifestation of a lack of healing in your life. As I mentioned, I understand you've been through some things, I understand people have hurt you. But unfortunately, you've internalized that hurt, you've held onto it, and you haven't properly resolved it. That creates a high level of scepticism for anyone in your life or for people who seem like the people who have betrayed you in your past or who have hurt you in your past.

Taking time to focus on the healing process and flushing all of that negative energy hurt and pain out of your system is going to be extremely important in getting on a better path and no longer walking around with all this negative perceptions, negative mindset, and negative energy that you've been holding on to.

In order to heal, do not neglect the need to heal and even if you don't think you need healing, which chances are you do, you just don't realize it. Healing isn't just for relationships. It's for improving any aspect of your life and the healing includes healing from things from past relationships, your mother, your father, your siblings, anyone who hurt you. You need to let go of the past.

2. Start to be open and transparent about your struggle.

When we don't trust people, we carry this high level of scepticism, and we keep it close to our chest which stresses us out. We're always on the lookout, we're always kind of on edge with these situations and these relationships. And that almost projects negativity on to the situation and then creates more negativity. However, by letting it out, you start to release that burden that you're carrying around with you. You start to put the other person on notice.Once they know you are acknowledging you have trust issues, they're going to think twice about breaking your trust, they're going to think twice about doing the exact things that you're afraid or concerned about them doing. No one likes to be called out. Now

It doesn't guarantee that they'll never do anything to hurt you, doesn't guarantee they won't ever do anything to break your trust, but they will think twice. It does decrease the chances of it happening. So, you're able to start to now overcome it because you're creating a better environment where everyone understands where we're at, how we're feeling, and what we need to do to make this better.

And again, by letting it out, getting it out, getting it off your chest you're helping yourself be less on edge about the issue. So, be open and honest about it.

Now that isn't by itself going to solve the problem. You've got to do the healing too. The healing is going to always be a part of this process, but by being more open and transparent you will definitely give yourself a big boost in overcoming your trust issues.

3. Learning to trust God not people

I don't care who you are, we're all capable of being shady at some point. We're all capable of letting someone down. We're all capable of hurting someone even when it's not intentional. We are human that is the human flaw we all possess and there's nothing wrong with that.

However, when we start to now attempt to put full trust into human beings we're asking for disappointment. We're asking to be let down because again no one can live up to that, not for ever. At some point, they're going to make a mistake.

So, my thing is- learn to put your trust in God instead. God is the one who won't let you down. God is the one you can rely on, but people, we're not made to be perfect. We just don't have that in us.

So, understanding to now shift your attention or your focus to God instead of people. You really empower yourself in situations, you also start to learn that your dealings with people, your willingness to be in a relationship is not contingent upon them gaining your trust but contingent upon finding out if God even wants you there because if God doesn't want you to deal with them, whether they're trustworthy or not you don't belong there.

And if God wants you there, even if they are the shadiest person, there is a purpose for it. And sometimes we can't see it, but something amazing is going to come out of that situation and we've got to trust God in that.

So, really lean on God when it comes to you trust issues and that's going to really help set you free and make things a lot easier for you going forward.

Sometimes people are so caught up in their own feelings and maybe their selfish desires in that moment that they do lose sight of how they're now hurting you, how they're coming against you in the wrong way and creating this negative impact in your life. So, just trust God not people.