Recent psychological studies have confirmed that the shock of losing a beloved, whether by death or separation, is no less dangerous to a person’s life than the most deadly diseases, as a feeling similar to fading or loss of balance that causes crying attacks, fear and anxiety, and the feeling of losing interest in everything, along with pathological symptoms Such as dizziness, fatigue, loss of appetite, weight loss, and insomnia.
The psychologist (De Stone Hill) at Middle Six Hospital says that the severity of the shock differs from one person to another, but the shock is more severe when the separation occurs between the people whose relationship is abnormal because throughout the period of the relationship they cannot release a charge of pent-up anger in their chests.
Psychologists believe that a person needs at least a full year to overcome the trauma of losing a beloved or any vital relationship in his life .. They call this period a journey of stages.
The first stage: It represents a sense of shock and a feeling of pathogenic pain.
- The second stage, where the person feels grief over the loss of his beloved. And aborted dreams and time wasted in a relationship that did not bear fruit.
In this fun, a person is seized by a feeling of despair and frustration, and he suffers from insomnia, disturbed sleep, loss of a beloved, loss of appetite and attention to those around him ... Usually this stage lasts about six months.
- The third stage: He begins to determine the causes of failure and blames himself or others .. At this stage, the person experiences a feeling of anger that pushes him to avenge those who caused the failure of that relationship.
The fourth stage: It begins when a person feels that the other party is no longer present in his life and no longer arouses in himself a sense of love or pain and tries to indulge in new activities to live his life again.
At this stage, a person may feel that he is better than others, but a temporary feeling will soon disappear.
Fifth stage: the person feels that he is able to start a new relationship without existing shadows from the effects of a previous relationship.
Psychologists confirm that these stages vary in duration and intensity from one person to another.
Rather, healing is sometimes impossible if the idea of continuing the relationship with the other party is owned and controlled by the person, as healing is completely linked to the desire of the person who has to accept the stages of the journey he is going through. He does not try to speed things up, but rather lets them take their normal time.
They also stress that work, friends and the social environment are very important factors to protect a person from recklessness and falling into the despair.
And the presence of compassionate, understanding people is a necessity to get out of the crisis and reach the stage of recovery .. And that is after it has been proven that talking to others with everything that goes on in the soul relieves the stress he suffers.
Restoring self-confidence is vital ... and a person who suffers from emotional trauma must take care of his appearance ... and give himself a small gift, such as buying anything new. Or a trip to a beautiful place, or something similar, because these are things that help a person feel rejuvenated, and that life could be better.
Psychological studies advise beware of following the prevailing saying ((and bring me down with that which was the disease)), so as not to rush a person into a new emotional relationship before he is completely cured of the effects of his old love.
