A lot of people lose their peace in so many ways. They have said there is no higher court than the court of conscience and as humans, we lose our peace in diverse ways. Life is not perfect and this is why we all strive to do things better while also learning. There are so many aspects of life that will get you all worked up. Some things do not add up but what do we do? There is little we can do and yes, there are some things we must do.
In life, there are some choices that we can make and there are situations that make some choices for us but the ultimate decision on what to do still rests on us. We have those who respond to a situation by seeking ways to solve it while we have those who react to a situation by blaming everything else except themselves. Those who react to situations always look for who to blame and they thrive on pity parties. They feel the whole world should stop just to attend to their issue.
When I hear people tell me they lost someone, it's normal, I feel bad for them and you know, try to show support the best way I can but have you noticed that when you lose anyone, you feel the need to make the whole world stop just to attend to you because you are grieving and whereas many people lose people daily. So, whatever you are going through in life is not peculiar to you, so stop seeking pity parties. Learn to respond rather than react. Your response or attitude will determine how long that issue will linger on.
Life issues will always happen whether we sign up for it or not. You don't have to get the memo before life will strike. We need that wisdom so we can accept the things we can't control in situations of life.
A lot of things threaten our peace. We worry over everything and that's fine but we shouldn't continue to worry to the point where we lose our peace and focus. There is one of my favourite quotes that says "When a defining moment comes, define the moment or else that moment will define you". - Anonymous. We are supposed to stay on top of so many situations. We shouldn't let situations determine how we should react. Normally, we act on impulse as humans. Some situations happen and we just lose it. We don't have control at that moment which is fine but there is the need for re-evaluation as time goes on. We can adapt and that's why we are humans.
How many issues have you worried over and get solved just by mere worry? Someone joked and said "Don't tell me that worrying doesn't do anyone good because most of the things I worry about rarely happen" - Anonymous. We get ourselves so worked up over things and yet we can see that either what we worry about doesn't even manifest - wasted effort and time or the things we worry about remains unsolved because it requires actions rather than fear.
The more we worry, the more our vision and thinking get blurred. No one ever thinks clearly with a worrying mind. How else do you think most people do stupid things when they don't think clearly. Always ask yourself "Does it worth it?" Stop leaving yourself in a perpetual state of unhappiness when you know you are responsible for your happiness. It's okay to worry but seek to find solutions rather than seek pity parties. Each problem has its solution deep in it but when we worry we don't even see the way out. There are still some situations that we are helpless over but can we stop living due to what we cannot control? Don't allow situations to drown you. It's not as bad as you think. It's as bad as you take it... It's as bad as the attention you choose to give to it.
Another mistake that most people make is when they compare themselves to others - how they look, what they have, what they have achieved and what they desire that others enjoy but they don't have. This is a high road to life failure - comparing yourself to others. It leads to desperation and not only robs you of your peace, but it can also lead to death because there is nothing too hard to do for a desperate individual.
We shouldn't even be preaching this but here we are, still saying it. It's obvious that we are all different. We have different races, all from different places and so we are shaped by our upbringing and our environment. Our abilities differ too so why would you choose to be another person that you are not? If you desire something, learn it and never let it lead you to the point of jealousy and hatred and if it cannot be learned, why not stick to your niche? We cannot move at the same pace in life. You are picking off just when someone else has gone far and you would have gone far while someone else is just starting.
This is why I find it funny when people try to write on what's not their area of expertise because they feel it attracts attention. If you feel it attracts attention, at least make some research on it and equip yourself. I find it annoying too when someone just joined a platform like this and would think the platform is unfair because he isn't earning as much as he expected and comparing his earnings to someone who has been there for over a year. Instead of using it as a motivation to grow knowing the platform rewards diligence yet, they see that as a reason to run off.
Life is exciting and when you compare yourself to others, you lose your excitement for life because you keep chasing what you don't have to chase and then keep trying to fix what's not even broken in yourself. It's normal for us as humans to yearn for better things but what's the point in yearning for what's not needed in your life's journey? I know many people who feel they have to be light-skinned before they gain attention. You gain attention by what you carve for yourself and not your skin colour. Is this hard for many people to grasp? Many people have lost focus just by comparing themselves to others.
I am not gifted in the area of your strength so why would you think I am better than you in any way? Life doesn't give us all that we want but life has given us enough to be who we are supposed to be but most people have traded who they are for who they wish they could be and in the process, they have lost it all. You are not failing you just need to focus on yourself rather than others. If you see anyone doing great now, trust me, they have paid the price before now. You can't judge someone in his harvesting period by overlooking his planting season. Rather than focus on the harvest, start planting too.
Isn't it pure tomfoolery for anyone to forget who they are just to embrace who they are not? The problem is not with the world but with you. Stop focusing on what others have and start focusing on what you have that can give you what you desire in others. It is perfectly fine to desire the best we see in others but it should be purely motivating rather than viewing your life through theirs to think you are failing. You are not failing, you just haven't found yourself, yet.
Thank you for your time.
hahaha I am not failing, thanks for the assurance :D