Note To Self.

I know it is therapeutic to speak to oneself once in a while. It is not in a way where people think you are a retard but in a way to carefully gauge where you were coming from, where you are presently and where you are heading. It is an honest assessment of seeing how your life is going and a reminder that you are not where you used to be.

A lot of times, as humans, we beat ourselves up too much. We gauge our lives with how beat others are doing but that is wrong. I am not against having others become a motivating factor for you to be better and do better but never let them be the reason why you think you are failing by measuring with their yardstick. Each man to his race and our journeys are different. Stop beating yourself up when you are not even reading the same book.

If I asked you to list all the wonderful things in life, how long would it take you to mention yourself? You are one of the best gifts to the world and you should love yourself accordingly regardless of your flaws. You are not perfect and no one is. Stop allowing others to rub your imperfection to your face while they hide theirs with a woven cloak. That is not to say you won't take to corrections but let your approach be different from beating yourself up to seeking to do better than you did before. We live and learn as we grow and go through life.

Life will either bless you or bury you. It is not what others say about you that matters but what you say to yourself when they are done talking. This is your life, nobody will teach you how to live it, no book, no guru but you have to learn from yourself - from your mistakes and be sensitive to pick up lessons so you wouldn't have to repeat the mistakes of others but the major work lies with you. You are responsible for how you turn out.

I would like to encourage everyone to put how they feel about themselves in a written form. This is not a prompt or a challenge because I don't even have that presence here yet to pull that off. I would love you all to write a note to yourself. I need you to focus on the positives and not the negatives. You know as humans, what we choose to focus on gets magnified. If you focus long enough on what's not working in your life then you are bound to see disappointments everywhere but if you channel that energy into seeing the positive, even the seemingly bad situations can be turned into good for you, it is all about perspective.

I read about a story just yesterday about one of our actresses that was banned many years ago. She said when she was banned, she felt bad at first but it allowed her to open her eyes to producing her movies since others feel threatened by her and her demands. She went on to produce a blockbuster that year. That is life and it is not a mistake when we were told to make lemonade out of the lemons that life throws at us.

Life will always throw all sorts at us. A speed bump is not to stop you permanently but temporarily and it all depends on how you see it. We have to force a shift in our perspective and our thinking. A horse was tied to a chair and the horse stayed there. The limit was in the head of the horse because the strength of the horse is nothing compared to what a chair can hold - a plastic chair for that matter.

I want us to see ourselves in a different light. Instead of judging and condemning ourselves all the time, let us focus on the goodness that is still in us and let us make the most out of it. You know we can still make a fine-tune out of a broken string depending on the kind of music we are intentional about playing. Let us try to obliterate our mistakes and amplify our strength.

This love note should not only be limited to how you see yourself alone but you can take a peek into the future and show us how you would love to feel about yourself in retrospect. Don't forget, you cannot feature in a future that you cannot picture.

We focus too much on what we are not doing right rather than the things we do right. In as much as we try to push ourselves to be better, we still hold on to those things that are inadequate about us which stiffens the growth of the goodness left in us. We can do better. Don't allow other people's opinion of you to rub off the goodness in you. Most people will say what will suit them for their selfish reasons especially when you are not dancing to their tunes, so don't take things to heart. Don't worry about those who made you lose your sense of worth, so try to see the good in yourself.

I know of a lady whose name means "Who can win God". She said anytime she feels down or defeated what she does is "speak her name to herself".

I would love to see your love note to yourself and I have to cut this post here so as not to make it lengthy. I will be sharing my note to myself in the next post after this, either today or tomorrow. I am trying not to post too much because as I said, I am trying to abide by the rules of this amazing platform. I have come to love read.cash and Bitcoin Cash, I don't want anything that would make me lose that privilege.

This post was inspired by @Princessbusayo when we spoke on noise.cash. She spoke on speaking positive words to ourselves and she nailed it spot on. Thank you, dear.