In this world, we all need help and the help we need varies. There are days when the help you desperately seek won't come and you don't have to think those who failed to offer it are terrible human beings, no, they are not. Each person is fighting a battle you might never understand and until you listen to other people's stories before you can understand what others are going through.
No one writes on their forehead what they are going through. Some pains run deeper than what human expression can contain. You might see people smiling today and that smile is masking so much pain. It is until you remove that veil before you see the extent that they are suffering. This is why I don't blame anyone or expect too much from another human being who is probably seeking ways to be better too.
Our exposures matter as much as our experience and what we have been exposed to over time will always rub off on us but when we give ourselves to learning and being better, we will understand that we are responsible for how we turn out. No one else can do it for you, only you can let it in. It's not going to be easy and that's the truth but you just have to try. No one will hand things to you on a platter. One thing I know is that life responds to pressure and the more you exert your pressure on what you want to do the more life caves in. Life can't resist you for too long so you just have to want it enough.
Most of the people that let us down are those closest to us. Let's face it, why should I be bothered about what someone whose opinion I don't value highly says? We feel it deeper and even more when it comes from those we value the most. What do you do when those you love let you down? What do you do when the person who is supposed to make you happy turn around to make you sad? When the source of your hope turn source?
You need to encourage and support yourself. You are your number one fan, supporter and pillar. In my language, we used to say "How you present yourself is how people will address you". If you pin your life on the approval of others, you won't be able to do much because what happens when their encouragement dwindle? There is a need for you to encourage yourself no matter how bad a situation is and it has to come from your inside - deep understanding of your kind of person. The thing is, you are all that you have.
Most people bring themselves down because they are viewing their lives with how good others are doing. If you view your life through the lens of another, you can't see far neither can you go far. You will lose your sense of worth and your kind of person while trying to be another person that the world doesn't need one more of. I believe we are all unique and peculiar in our varying ways. You are here on earth for yourself - to serve whatever purpose you are here to serve so if you feel others are doing better than you, push yourself more if need be. There is no need to keep checking on others if it would make you lose your sense of worth rather than motivate you to be better.
We all have our paths to go in life. We all have our journey. Your progress would always be another person's starting point. I have heard how someone thought he is failing in life because he used to fly economy while people he knows fly first class. How is this ever a true state of success? I know people who can afford first-class but choose to do business class or economy for whatever reason that is best known to them. If you ever try to compare yourself to them you will be at the losing end, why? Because maybe their 1% of income is what they used to fly first class while you are going to use a larger % of your income to prove a statement. The true wealth of a man is not in what he owns but what he does with what he has. A lot of people get it all wrong.
In life, we don't always have the same starting point but there is no one with nothing to start with in the least. Focus on yourself, encourage yourself and you will be surprised at how fast you can move. If after coming this far and with the things you have achieved you feel you are not quite there yet, encourage yourself to do even more.
I read of a man (I can't remember the title of the book right now) who lost $1,000,000 to a bad investment. He said something quite remarkable and I quote: "I am the same person that made the $1,000,000 and I haven't forgotten how I made it. I will rise again". It is never an easy statement to make because that's a huge amount of money but what's the point in thinking so hard over the things we can no longer change when we can channel that same energy into seeking solutions? He knew this and he encouraged himself and as earlier mentioned, it's not going to be easy because we all have different life's experiences and you feel it more than others, as expected but you need to get to that point where you don't need pity or other people's approval. You have to encourage yourself.
Don't settle on past achievements, always seek to be better. Yesterday's achievement is today's mediocrity. Learn to encourage yourself regardless because the world is constantly moving and a lot of things would always want to stop you in your quest for success. There are still more heights to attain and you need to stop viewing your life by how good or worse others are doing. Do better for yourself and for the lives that would benefit from your success. Encourage yourself when things go bad because no one else can do it better but you.
Thank you for your time.
Much better we experience Our mistakes so that we know already and we can change For the better , Godbless po😇