Children Should be Warned

We live in a world where children are no longer safe with strangers, friends, extended relatives even close confidence. They are abused in so many ways, forms and this have a negative influence on them.

When I was much younger, I use to play with my auntie and her friends. They were university students then, each time I enter their room I use to see pornography magazines everywhere. As a kid I live curious to know what it is all about, even sometimes I see them on bikinis not minding I was there. This polluted my mind over time and I struggled to find my way out of this mental dilemma.

Also, there was a time an elderly man was caught up with a child being abused. When he was interrogated, he noted that the girl child was always tempting him each time she sat on his lap. I wonder how will a kid girl tempt a mature minded individual till he abused her sexually. However, every parent should warn their children to desist from sitting on anyone's lap most especially girls and the boys should be guided when around the opposite sex be it younger or older ones no matter the situation.

I have also witnessed parents taking baths or showers with their children over time. I wonder what message they are passing to them and how this can help the children become better adults over time.

Many have forgotten that children are also emotional beings, when they are exposed to activities that will unleash their sexual reasoning they will begin to ask questions to feed their curiosity and this can endanger their mental faculty especially when they ask the wrong people.

When parents dress up before their children, they may end up looking out for others who should dress up before them or vis-a-vis. It is best to always avoid dressing in front of your children no matter what age. Guide your children emotional curiosity.

I have witnessed over time when adults refer or address other people's children or children as my wife my husband, even some will go far calling your wife their wife or your husband their husband? Like why should this be?

They always forget that when some sensualized words are proclaimed, the natural receives such words to act on till it becomes a reality. Please, let avoid calling children my wife and my husband it stirs in them anxiety and curiosity to be one at their age. This is why some children tend to get lose to people you least expected till they get abused sexually.

Someone says show me your friend and I will tell you who you are. The parent should ensure they monitor their children with whom they play with. Children also abused each other sexually, they try to explore what they have seen someone do be it their parents, other people, adults or on media.

When I was teaching in a school years ago, we heard the report of a pupil who took her female classmate to the toilet with the mission of inserting a pencil into the private part of the other girl willingly but was caught up in the process by the class teacher. The girl said she use to see her mummy do that for other mummies. The mother was a nurse and she use to witness get mother take delivery of pregnant women in the house. So, as parents let mind what we do before children and also the other children they mix up with.

We must be ever ready to listen to our children, let pay attention to them because there is always something to say. When your child is not comfortable with someone don't force such child rather find out what the problem is. Likewise, when your child like someone beyond reasoning investigates the mutual relation your child is having with that person so that your child won't be taken advantage of.

I believe you can also agree with me on these things that children are passing through and should be aware of any of these red flags. Draw your children closer to you, be open to them and they will reciprocate too. The more trust they have in you, the better chance and influence you have over them. Children are wonderful creatures from God they are to be treated well and not to be abused.

#Peace

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